right now i am a sophomore in college... im moving in with my boyfriend and we plan on getting married around my senior year. we want to have kids before hes 30 so thats in 4 years. is it bad to have kids when i first get a job? should i wait or is it fine to take maternity leave on a first job?
2007-03-16 13:39:18 · 9 answers · asked by GP 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
When the time will come, you will know.
2007-03-16 13:41:54 · answer #1 · answered by Missy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maternity leave is fine. Just remember that in most cases you will have to be there one year before you can take it. So you will have to work AT LEAST 3 months (more to be safer) before you get pregnant so you can apply to take a leave when the baby is due.
I was at my job for about a year when I got pregnant. I took my maternity leave for 8 weeks and came back on the anniversary of my working there. I am still at the job and things are fine. I am glad that you are going to finish college and get the job first........that makes life SO much easier......
good luck.......
2007-03-16 20:47:50 · answer #2 · answered by ShellyLynn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Job smob... when you are ready for a baby going on at least a six week leave will work its self out. Do try to make a yr before you are preg. some places offer Short term disabillity insurance for things like this.
Relax and enjoy college.
2007-03-16 20:46:53 · answer #3 · answered by erinxray 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait to have kids after you move in just to see his daily habits. It could be your best friend that you know everything about but it takes 6-12months to really get to know someone when you move in together you experience another side of this person. Just wait and see if he's clean/dirty. Try me just wait for the pet peeves to come out because who knows this may be your boo now but when you move in with him you may realize he's not so cute after all and at least you could walk away with no strings attached instead of being pregnant and vulnerable. Trust me I know from experience the signs you see when your dating somebody are usually ignored and they resurface when you move in. I remember with my husband when we first moved in together and I realized he didn't clean up after himself or take the dishes out of the room I had a flashback of the sticky notes his parents used to leave all the time everyday on his bedroom door. He's gotten better now that we have kids but I'm saying we've came a long way.
2007-03-16 20:48:09 · answer #4 · answered by missingNYC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be sure that you at least have a steady income before starting a family. depending on your job, maternity would probably be okay, but definitely talk to your employer at the time to see how vacation/maternity leave time works.
2007-03-16 20:44:01 · answer #5 · answered by stephieSD 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've heard that women between 22-28 give births to babies with higher IQs.
2007-03-16 21:02:36 · answer #6 · answered by Haku 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have kids when you are fanciable and emotionally ready meaning ,if you know you want to visit Rome and party , spend money like crazy you are not ready do all your liming first then later on when you ready to settle down have one
2007-03-16 20:48:51 · answer #7 · answered by ALICIA P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have them when you know you can afford them, and you have done all the things you wanted to do... when you don't have kids...you have a lot more freedom to do some really fun things..
2007-03-16 20:44:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't have any unless you're ready t9 give up your own life.
2007-03-16 20:44:18 · answer #9 · answered by k.webb 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋