im 14 years old. and im getting bullied at school, i was never really happy but lately i cant even force a smile i just feel so low...i recently stopped self harming with the help of a friend but i find it had to not slip bk into my old ways...i cant seem to face anything, i used to be into everything netball art but now i feel i just can do anything right can anybody help me ?
2007-03-16 13:25:08 · 13 answers · asked by stephanie t 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
You really need to get help in person from a mental health professional. Speak to your guidance counselor and ask for a referral to a clinic or to someone in practice who can work with you.
It is difficult to be bullied at schol, and you do not deserve it. But it seems also that you have done what is called "internalizing" the bad things that are happening to you (taking the things they say and do to you to heart; believing what they are saying, that somehow you "deserve" what is happening to you) by self-mutilating. You are apparently very strong because you stopped doing that to yourself--you have the inner resources to be able to fight back in appropriate, not violent, ways to those who are bullying you.
A professional counselor or psychologist will help you to realize that you don't deserve what is going on, and will help you develop a strategy to "fight back", in appropriate, not violent, ways. He/She will also help you to develop a plan to begin to start doing the things that you enjoy again. One of the most common features of depression is that people stop doing things that they once really enjoyed--it's called "anhedonia", lack of pleasure. The counselor will also help you to see that your mood is tied to the things that are going on for you, and to understand that you do not deserve to put up with all that, and that you don't need to hurt yourself, to act-out the pain that you feel inside.
14 years old is a difficult age because you are hopefully building the identity, the sense of who YOU are, at this stage in your life, and that will last for a long time. You need help to build a strong identity, and it seems that you have two really good things going for you: your friend who helped you stop hurting yourself and your own strength to stop doing it, You are strong and you can get through this but it seems that you probably need help to do it. Don't be afraid to reach out for adult help. It is a sign of strength, not weakness, to get help when you need it. You are not a weak, self-pitying person--you are in a difficult situation that you do not deserve to be in.
Good luck, and use the strength that you have to help yourself.
2007-03-16 13:47:05 · answer #1 · answered by Megumi D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think weve all been there at some point in our lives. whether its bullying, an abusive relationship, peer pressure, or even self doubt, we have all experienced those lows of life where we dont think we can face the world.
however, the best advice i can give you is telling you that you are not alone. in saying that weve all been tehre, i hope i reassure you that nothing you are saying is abnormal especailly in young teens. we constantly deal with things that even adults dont have to deal with, and being 14 today is a scary thing.
the trying years of being a teen is the time where we all find out who we are and what we stand for. you have to stand up for yourself, and no matter what anybody else says, your opinion of yourself should matter far more than anybody elses opinion of you.
god did not give you life with the intention that you would try to end it. he did not create you and your body the way it is so you could harm it. god donest want that for you, and neither do I. I think taht you have to realize that no matter how bad things may seem, they can:
1. always get worse if you keep feeling they will
2. always get better if you keep feeling they will
its all about attitude. you may not be able to change some situations in your life becuase you are young, but what you can change is how you look at them,
also, when your young, try not to take things to heart too much. taking things too hard will only lead to more emotional pain.
and most importantly, be happy with who you are. you are wonderful just the way you are, even though you may not feel that way. sometimes its hard being a teen and you need to find some people to support you along the way. if you dont have the typical mom, dad, best friend, boyfriend type people in your life, reach out to a guidance counsler , or a kid that sits alone at lunch. if you relaly believe things will get better, im sure they will
have faith!
2007-03-16 20:35:54 · answer #2 · answered by daisy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
These things will end...and when you are older you will look back and think about how you felt then. You will see things differently eventually, trust me. You getting bullied is so not cool though, you need to get help. They will make you feel like you don't matter and you do matter!!! If you used to play and have fun, that means you had friends and people that loved you and still love you! Try being with them more often, tell them how you feel and surround yourself with this until you feel like you again. I'm a really happy adult and would have regreted any harm to myself now.
2007-03-16 20:38:34 · answer #3 · answered by Elle3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk with your parents and have them take you to see a doctor. You sound like you are suffering from depression. If you are getting bullied at school, you also need to talk with the school administrator or your counselor. Bullies are nothing but ignorant, stupid people who feel that they need to bully people to feel good about themselves. They usually have serious problems at home, alcoholism, drug abuse, no father or mother in the home. They are to be pitied.
2007-03-16 20:34:29 · answer #4 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop feeling pity on yourself...Start living do those things you enjoy thats what makes life worth living..!!!!!! Your only 14 you have a long way ahead of you and things will only get better if you want it to get better...life is what you make of it...and as far as getting bullied well stand up even if you have to take a hit...you get more respect that way than if you run away or just take it....hope things get better....but dont ever try to hurt yourself or kill yourself thats just stupid, sorry but it is...
2007-03-16 20:30:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know whats it like to be bullied its hard. Its obvious you got a friend who will stick by your side through thick and thin you are lucky. Bullies are hard to deal with but the best way to piss them off is ignoring them. If they feed off of your reactions towards them how can they feed when theirs nothing to feed off of. Cutting yourself is not the answer you know that. Don't be afraid to talk about it. If you need a person who went through similar stuff my im is freedom_rocker_04 on yahoo messanger.
2007-03-16 23:48:59 · answer #6 · answered by Freedom 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if people are picking on you and you put your head down or cry the more they will continue doing it. start ignoring them, people at this age pick on others because they are insecure about themselves so they find pleasure on picking on someone else weaker. keep it up with a good attitude and ignore these a**holes and they will stop gradually! if it doesn't stop, talk to the principal or consider changing school and changing your attitude.
2007-03-16 20:31:00 · answer #7 · answered by Helo M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Speak with your parents and ask if they would take you to a counselor for help. You sound depressed and have low self esteem.
2007-03-16 20:31:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to an adult
Seek help from a Doctor
talk to a guidence councler
2007-03-16 20:27:51 · answer #9 · answered by Alexander S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do not be afraid to go to the police.
See the school principal.
I got bullied and beaten up in school. They broke my arm and my nose.
Nobody helped me.
2007-03-16 20:34:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋