acting like an adult means that she thinks she can go and tell us what to do i tell her what to do but the wise mouth just keeps going..
2007-03-16 13:15:43 · 10 answers · asked by heyyou 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
This may sound a little harsh, but if she does it, tell her that she is not in charge, and if she talks back after that, smack her across the mouth (not hard, just enough to stun her) and then tell her to go to time out to think about how shes supposed to act. Your the parent, you should be in control, not her.
2007-03-16 13:19:32 · answer #1 · answered by Susan K 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately this is really a parent-build action. You obviously at one point laughed at this and thought it was cute. Even toddlers remember things like this and use it to there advantage.
There are many was to reconcile this behaviour. You can always totally ignore it, this may be a strain for attention. I am saying this becaue maybe she feels if she is in control, her ability to have a parental figure around when she wants it.
Being 4 year old she may not be stimulated enough. Maybe you should pre-occupy her with things that she can pretend to order around herself. Such as a small desk, and SAFE office supplies. Stimulation is a very large part of a toddlers life.
Or, for the 'stun effect' snap the orders right back at her. Diffferent ones of course. Keep this up for one day, and then at the end of the day ask her what you saw that mommy did different. If she does not know, try again one more 1/2 day, and then ask. Of course if THAT does'nt work repremand this behavior immeadiately. But to tell you the truth, I would only suggest doing this one day, so your daughter does not think that this is a game; and DO NOT make it a game. Show no immotion.
Now, for the wise mouth. I feel that children who have a wise mouth have nothing better to say. Teach her new, more..productive words that she can say instead of the fould ones. Get her a Childrens Dictionary, and allow her to learn a phrase that can be raised up, so she knows not to use the bad words, which I hope you repremand.
Speak to her as if you were speaking to your 15 year old daughter. When talking to children you want them to feel important because you are talking to them as if they can talk, not as if they still are wearing diapers.
This all ties in with the bossiness. She wants to be the big-girl that you are holding her back to be. So, she thinks if she acts like mommy & daddy, they will treat me more like an adult. Dont speak to your children in a mushy way, speak to them with big words, and most likely they will ask you what those words are, and ....SHABAM! You not only have a child who feels special, is learning, and is now respectful to you, but you've got bragging rights to boot!
Good luck, and I wish you the best!
Hope this Helped!
~Mac
2007-03-16 20:38:29 · answer #2 · answered by Mac 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Children imitate what they see and hear. Where is she picking up the wise mouth routine? I doubt it's from watching old Rosanne shows. Adults need to set a good example consistently, not just in front of their children.
But the media aren't blameless, either. I am majorly turned off by the sass and disrespect so blatantly put forward on television and some cinema. Even small kids learn to pick up this disgusting attitude. We laugh, but it really isn't funny.
2007-03-16 20:31:54 · answer #3 · answered by greydoc6 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Call her "Little Miss Mommy" and then tell her that you are the parent, not her. Tell her that she needs to do what you tell her to do, not the other way around. If that doesn't work, then punish her by making her sit down for a while, without moving and without making noise. If that still doesn't work, take her over your knee and give her an old-fashioned spanking where the extra padding is. Taking care that your hand doesn't land anywhere else.
2007-03-16 20:23:44 · answer #4 · answered by sweetgurl13069 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well i watch a lot of nann911 i could help put her on a chair till think she sould get up talk to her in a clam voice tell your the boss not her if she back talk make her sit there longer till she stops next time do it again she will learn after a few times hop you have good luck
2007-03-16 20:21:19 · answer #5 · answered by yo yo yo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like she is wise in her own eyes. try cutting back on how much freedom you give her. A parenting teaching I listened to gave this example: you tell your child to get out of bed, they say 5 more minutes. you tell your child that you are making eggs, they eat cereal. you say milk with breakfast they get juice. these are seemingly innocent so you ignore them but when you tell your child to clean their room they smart off and disobey and you wonder why. children should not be given too much freedom to make their own decisions until they are responsible enough to do what you tell them to do.
2007-03-16 20:34:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Maybe you should go and see a psychologist to give you some idea on how to get this under control now, because if you don't life is going to be hell when she gets older.
2007-03-16 20:26:34 · answer #7 · answered by Alwyn C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make her stop and don't take in consideration when she is giving orders that way she will know that there is only one mother in the house, and that is you. Good luck
2007-03-16 20:29:06 · answer #8 · answered by Missy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell her when she does it that that kind of talk will not be accepted in your house anymore... if she continues give her a time out.... be consistent with this and she will break the habit realy quick
2007-03-16 20:20:19 · answer #9 · answered by stephaniedayton2 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
try time-out you need to let her know now that she is not in charge. Be consistant
2007-03-16 21:46:07 · answer #10 · answered by tinkerbell 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋