My sons teacher at his daycare said he hits her when he does not get his way.This is not all the time however.She always asks if something changed in his daily routine.However , i have noticed when he is around male members of my family his first instinct is to play fight. Which, they just say he is all boy and he will grow out of this behavior.But I am getting nervous because he will be going to real school very soon and I know that he will not get away with this there.What should I do?
2007-03-16 12:54:55 · 14 answers · asked by JASON W 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Bite him.
2007-03-16 13:02:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Children learn from their enviroment. My middle son is a "mans man" my husband and his friends would "play fight" and boy would they get rough. I didn't say anything, I mean he is a great father and I am lucky he wants to spend time with his children right? Oh boy, it took us 2 and a half years of a real fight to get that out of him. He would hit me, his teachers, his brothers, kids at the playground. Just like picking up curse words if the parents curse. If he is taught to hit, he will hit. He can't tell the difference between play and real life. He is 4, this is when life skills are being taught. Please talk to your male family members, have a very serious talk, and stop it all together. We went to a child counselor to help direct us the right way to break this habit and way of life. My husband thought that it meant we were bad parents, I just looked at it as a little help that was needed. He doesn't hit anymore, but he still is more agressive than his other two brothers.
2007-03-16 13:02:15 · answer #2 · answered by Barbara C 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all you need to make sure that he is not hitting anyone not only adults. I mean sometimes your family or friends may play with him in that matter and please stress to them not to do this. I no what your going through. You need to stress to him in a very strong way of letting him no that this is not correct and that this hurts. Yelling at a child all the time is not always what there needing. Sometimes talking and explaining to them what there doing wrong is more wise. I no some children will press there luck at times and that is normal. Hitting them would not be a good Idea either. So if talking does not work. I might suggest that you find another way to punsihing him by not letting him do something or giving him time outs. But stick to them do ease up cause you fill bad. Trust me this will work. It might not work right away but It will if you have patience
2007-03-16 13:08:06 · answer #3 · answered by babycakes3557 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here you really need the collaboration of the daycare teacher. Talk to them, and see if he gets any punishment ( time out etc. ) when hitting or similar stuff...if so, take the same actions at home - nasty chair, time out etc. When he got his punishment go down on his level and tell him ,that is is not allowed to hit adults...make him repeat that.
As far as the fighting game concerns, tell whoever of your family members involved, that if they feel that your son is going too far, they simply should stop playing with him and ignore him....also talk to your son about that kind of play.. might help.
Take care and all the best
2007-03-16 23:42:38 · answer #4 · answered by Nina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since he is in daycare you will need his teacher's help too. He needs to either be in time out or have some privilege taken away when he hits.
As far as the play fighting, four years old is old enough to tell the difference between playing and real life activities.
2007-03-16 12:59:05 · answer #5 · answered by Patti C 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well at 4 he is old enough to know better. So he is getting away with it or has before for him to keep it up. You are going to have to be really hard on him for a while, like extra hard. Maybe standing him in the corner? Or taking toys away? I personally believe in spanking, but I know that not everyone does these days. Now I wouldn't say beat him, but a firm spanking and standing in the corner might help.
2007-03-16 13:26:39 · answer #6 · answered by melodi_jean_99 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your son and tell him that "hands are for helping not hurting". Tell him that you understand he wants to fool around sometimes with the family or maybe a friend, but make sure its not all the time and nothing to rough that it hurts someone. And hitting a teacher is definetly NOT okay, if he is upset about something tell him he needs to use his words and tell the teacher that he's upset or angry so they can find a solution to his problem. I hope this helps.
2007-03-16 13:00:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
time outs are the best way to go at this age.... curb the play fighting... if they want to do something "manly" try getting them all to play a sport together
2007-03-16 13:18:47 · answer #8 · answered by stephaniedayton2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every time he hits an adult, bang a gong in his ear.
2007-03-16 13:04:36 · answer #9 · answered by Jake 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should teach your four-year-old son that while he can-- he 'may' not hit anyone.
2007-03-16 13:04:41 · answer #10 · answered by Double O 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Should you not be teaching him not to hit at all - anyone, kids included?
2007-03-16 13:05:55 · answer #11 · answered by stepfordswiss 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋