I think she's a little upset. I watched a lot of basketball yesterday and was drinking pretty much the entire time. She came over after I got home (which was before 10). The icing on the chaotic cake was she got up about a half hour late for work today which I had nothing to do with but it's still all related. So today I haven't heard from her since this morning. I didn't exactly do anything wrong last night, wasn't acting too stupid or obnoxious (I don't think) but I sent her a text a while ago and haven't heard back. She's obviously upset about it and it was dumb of me to agree to see her after I had been drinking for that long, but I can't undo it now. So what do I do to assure her I am sorry? Should I wait for her to call me, tell her I'm going home and she can come over later if she wants, something else?
2007-03-16 12:42:14 · 10 answers · asked by randyken 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I had every intention of watching games all day and she knew I was doing so. I had no idea I was going to be seeing her later, though I guess I was hoping to and, as it turned out, unfortunately, I did. I wasn't mean or rude, just drunk.
2007-03-16 12:51:18 · update #1
You need to let her cool down for a little bit! While you are waiting, send her a text or e-mail with your apologies for possibly acting like a moron or (better yet!) not focusing all your attention on her! Yeah, because that is what she is really mad at! In our (women's) minds sometimes our boyfriends' being inebriated translates into them not paying us attention. Apologize for a little of everything just to cover your bases and extend to her the ability to contact you when she is ready. That way she'll feel like you are waiting for her "important" response thus feeling important herself. Make sure this NEVER happens again; if you think you are getting hell for it now---it will be worse if it happens again! Good luck and hang in there!
2007-03-16 12:51:42 · answer #1 · answered by CurlyLocks 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her space... You won't fix anything by pressuring her to talk to you for now... if anything just apologize for disappointing her for being so drunk or stinky or whatever....
Oh hold on, was it a special day for her?? If it was... sorry, you're screwed! Be ready for a whole lot of screaming and b#tching for a while...
If not, she'll realize she has no reason why to me mad at you, specially she already know that this is something that you do once in a while...
Next time, let her know in advance what your plans are (that you're planning on getting WASTED), so she doesn't get disappointed later... and you don't have to feel bad.
2007-03-16 12:50:06 · answer #2 · answered by Me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you told her that you wanted to see her and then you spent the whole evening ignoring her, she has a right to be aggravated. If you don't take the initiative to make amends it will only get worse, because the more she thinks about it, the more pissed off she is getting. Right now, as we speak.
I would call or text her right now and say that you understand if she is mad at you for not paying more attention to her last night, and you really want to make it up to her.
Spending a night with your beer and your basketball is no big deal, but if you plan to do that, you shouldn't tell your girl you want to see her.
2007-03-16 12:48:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is waiting for you to call her. even if she hangs up on you, its your only real way of showing her your sorry. the longer you wait, the more upset sehll get. all of a sudden shell forget what you did, and will be most upset by the fact that you didnt call her. i fyou really want to be with her, you have to keep calling, or showing her in any way how sorry tou are. maybe have a night where you are completely sober and she is all yours. do something she wants to do like seeing a chick flick or going shopping. the thing is, when you upset a girl, we are not easy to please and if we say "Were fine" we really arent, its just our way of telling you taht we will be fine if you kiss up to us and do whatever we want.
and also dont say "come over if you want" say "pl;ease come over i miss you and im so sorry for how stupid i was the other night. ill do anythig ot make it up to you" cook her a nice dinner and remind her why shes with you in the first place.
hopefully it will be smooth sailing within a week, and if you really care about her, your probably going to have to do a lot more than text her. women in a realtionship need to feel like they are special ,and wanted, and so if you mess up you gotta say sorry like you mean it.
hope all goes well =]
2007-03-16 12:50:09 · answer #4 · answered by daisy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you'd like her to come over, because you'd like to make it up to her. Maybe set up a little dinner for two or something. Tell her you didn't mean to be rude if you were and it was a mistake to drink before and while she was there. Assure her you'll never do it agian.
2007-03-16 12:47:49 · answer #5 · answered by Kelsie A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dumb! You didn't do anything wrong. If she doesn't like the way you act after you've been drinking for a while she shouldn't have come over. If she decides to go over anyway she can't be pissed about anything. She put herself there.
2007-03-16 12:47:41 · answer #6 · answered by dil7827 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aww well she probably needs a little time right now. If she doesnt come back by the end of the day and talk to you like she isnt mad, then somehow convince her to dinner ( on you, no trying to get her to pay half lol ) and just talk and tell her that youre sorry for wat ever you did. Just hearing that youre sincerely sorry should make her feel vulnerable to forgive you.
2007-03-16 12:47:15 · answer #7 · answered by dothemooshoo247 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look when a woman mad with a man, it's when she has enough with you. just go inside yourself and you will find all kind of stupid things you have done to her, and come to her and say honey we 're need to talk set up a place like a restaurant invite her. but before you do that buy her her lots of gift like chocolates and other things so when you take her to your house she could have that surprise. explain to her that you are sorry and tell her all of your stupid things that's you know that you was wrong. and it's never gonna happen again
and promise yourself not to let it happen again and when she accepted to you. take her to your house and give her nice warm love unstil she feels like she's gonna pass out . and you'll be just find buddy.
2007-03-16 14:09:48 · answer #8 · answered by marcel m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
next time don't drink so much when you're going to be around her....... then you'll remember your actions.
oh well, I guess you'll have to wait to find out.
2007-03-16 12:46:00 · answer #9 · answered by venom! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
send her flowers and a poem....try to write it and make it funny and nice.
2007-03-16 12:47:00 · answer #10 · answered by Sarah 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋