Help please! I have been with my boyfriend for two years, and we did not sleep together. He used to ask for

Question

s-x, but I said no because I'm not realdy , I haven't done it before and I'm scared.... Now, I and my boyfriend are taking the four classes at university and there's a girl who flirted with my boyfriend...My boyfriend is taking one of the classes with this girl and I am not in that class. They usually walk together to the class. At first, I thought it's normal because they are friends...However, .I notice that my boyfriend won't hang out with me anymore for a week arealdy...Whenever I call him, he says he's busy...One of my bestfriend told me that she saw my boyfriend with that girl at the restaurant two days ago. I am so mad and sad....What do I do now?

Answer 1

Calm down and don't jump to conclusions. It sounds like you assume since you haven't had sex with your boyfriend that he's trying to find someone who will. Having sex with your boyfriend will not cure your problems; sex enhances a good relationship and makes girls regretful in a bad relationship. I personally don't think it's something to be taken lightly. So, don't have sex to fix your relationship. And don't think there is anything wrong with you because you are not ready. Ok, the problem...

SO, your best friend saw your boyfriend at a restaurant with a girl? You don't know anything for sure! Maybe there were other people there, maybe there weren't. Maybe it was a friendly gesture, maybe it wasn't. You don't know if he has feelings for her, has an emotional connection with her or is just flirting with the idea of being with someone else. Don't make conclusions based on little or no information. First, get the facts from the source! HIM!

Ask him why you guys haven't been spending as much time together as you normally do. He'll probably say something like he's had a lot of school work, club issues etc. Ask him if you can help him in anyway. If he says yes then help him! He might not be hiding anything. If he says no then probe him farther. Tell him you noticed that he's been spending a lot of time with this other girl. (DON’T TELL HIM WHAT YOUR BEST FRIEND SAW! You will put him on the defense before you get anything out of him. And it sounds a bit stalkerish!) Ask him if he thinks he likes her; tell him it’s ok if he likes someone else. (It’s natural after being in a long-term relationship to develop little crushes on other people. They can be short-lived and harmless. Because he has a crush on someone else doesn’t mean he is going to do something with this girl. Although, if he has done something with her then there is a problem.) Ask him if they have done anything together or if they have an emotional connection. Get the facts from him. Don’t jump to conclusions! Jumping to conclusions is a fast and easy way to END a relationship. After you get the facts then make a judgment. Decide whether to stay with him or not. Just be smart about it.

Answer 2

Maybe a guys point of view can help, of course, I can just feel all the thumps down I will be getting for this.

I hate to say this, but the guy might be wandering off.

This is just my thought, but maybe the drive for him to have what has has asked for has been strong enough to cause him to look at someone else who might be giving him signs that she will give it to him.

Granted, if he is with you, he should be honest with you and tell you what is going on.

I think you need to talk to him about the state of the relationship. You need to ask him if he is talking to someone else.

If he is really starting to see someone else, I think both sides need to take some blame.

If that is such an important thing for him, you have been asking him to hold off for 2 years, and well, there has not been any payday for him. Think of it like this, what if you were at a job where you kept telling you they want to give you a raise but they are not ready to and they are scared. I think after a few months, I would be sending my resume to other companies.

Of course, he is not out of the woods himself. If he truly cared about you, he would not be contemplating being with another woman.

OK, I am off my soapbox now. Like I said before, I think you need to talk to him face to face and find out what is going on. If he is moving on, I think you should do the same. If he not seeing someone else, you two need to talk to put each others nerves at ease.

Answer 3

Dear,u don't have to do anything he is an *** hole and a Jork... if he couldn't wait when u would be ready it i his mistake..he cant appreciate you and that's bad...talk to him first and then tell him he must to choose...he must tell u the truth! if he just want a f****k break up with him and forget him! or u can make him jealous go out with friends meet new people!

Answer 4

well he's cheating and you shouldnt sleep with him now thats forsure, could catch something and plus virginity is an honor and he doesnt deserve it. some guys are f'n pigs and he is one of them. set him free and tell him exactly why, and then dont ever go back. (no matter what he says, he is cheating, he is choosing her over you)

Answer 5

Ask him whats up? be upfront and don't cry. I suggest you go VISIT him and stop calling. Knock on his door and talk about it.

If he's cheating you deserve to know, and he should be man enough to tell you.

Answer 6

Start looking for another boyfriend, you're probably going to be dumped soon.

Answer 7

IF HE IS THAT EASILY PERSUADED BY THIS NEW GIRL AFTER 2 YEARS WITH YOU, LET HIM GO, I KNOW IT IS HARD AND I'M SORRY BUT JUST BECAUSE YOU 2 DONT HAVE SEX IS NOT A REASON FOR HIM TO BE TREATING YOU LIKE THIS IF HE LOVES YOU

Answer 8

well if he's not willing to wait until you 're ready, he's not worth being in a relationship with.

Answer 9

talk to him. ask him about about it. find out wut he has to say bout the whole thing