I still keep in contact with several of my ex's and even find myself flirting with them when I run into them either in person or on-line. I really do love my boyfriend and I know he loves me as well. I am 26 years old and as happy with him as I have ever been with any man and I would never want to hurt him. What should I do? Will I just eventually forget about those other guys?
2007-03-16 12:38:41 · 10 answers · asked by Shezsoofyne 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
maybe....maybe not. It is natural to feel some attraction to someone that you had an intimate relationship with. Chemistry just doesn't go away because you aren't together. Always remember though that there are reasons that you are not together. I would not feel guilty about it, your boyfriend may feel the same way about another girl from his past, it is normal and as long as you dont act on these feelings then your relationship is fine!
2007-03-16 12:46:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you will forget about those other guys, but only if you STOP talking to them! Completely! Forever!
What you're doing is really unfair to your current boyfriend. If he makes you as happy as you say he does, then he deserves your complete loyalty. That doesn't just mean that you don't "do anything" with other guys, but that you don't think about other guys in a romantic way. There is no way to ever really get rid of that kind of implication in a relationship with an ex, so if you are ever going to be the kind of girlfriend your boyfriend deserves, you have to end all contact with them.
My ex tried to be friends with me, too, and he's a nice guy, but I told him as kindly as I could that I care very much about my current boyfriend, and I can't do anything that might compromise my relationship with him. If you're with a great guy, that's a decision you have to make.
2007-03-16 12:45:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
in basic terms when you consider which you made it sparkling to him which you're finding for a extreme relationship does no longer propose that HE replaced into finding for one. Shacking up is (itself) an act of avoidance to marriage. i do no longer comprehend what number different procedures he can inform you that he does not love you? look # one million) His kinfolk is against it 2) you're suicidal 3) you're struggling with continuously 4) he's already advised you NO! 5) he's advised you i'm no longer able to try this! 6) he's advised you i choose area 7) he's advised you we would desire to offer IT A harm. i'm no longer attempting to be smart right here, how plenty extra do you are able to desire to take heed to? What does he might desire to assert before you "get it"?????
2016-10-02 06:08:17 · answer #3 · answered by barbary 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have the exact same problem my EX girlfriend had, If you were mine and ya did that I would burn (dump) ya right away. My ex didnt want to for get or she would have...so I burnt her and sent her back to the USA.
You in an aussie term is S l u t !
But I reckon ya dont know what ya want.
What if it were the other way around how would you feel if he started to talk, chat or flirt with his ex's on and off line? and be honest !
2007-03-16 12:51:50 · answer #4 · answered by scratch_n_sniff 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this happens alot to people espically girls due to studies maybe you do love this person but you shouldn't love or flirt with others so follow ur heart and there r x's when u have 2 leave something u adore and go 2 another. it's better 2 dump ur bf now then 2 cheat on him. or stay with ur bf u just need 2 see who really loves u and will take care of you better & will love you even when ur mad, upset or rude or when your gone and not cheat on you good luck.
2007-03-16 12:49:04 · answer #5 · answered by nuttymunkeyjunkey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really love your current boyfriend, you wouldn't be flirting with other guys, it doesn't matter if they were ex's or not so try to sort things out in your mind and heart to see if it's really worth being in a relationship. once you stop and figure out you really can't imagine yourself without your current boyfriend then the flirting phase should be over. if it's not, then maybe you aren't really ready for a monogamy relationship.
2007-03-16 12:45:52 · answer #6 · answered by Helo M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont know! do u have any kids? i think maybe one day youre feelings will let go, but really you shouldnt move too forward with this guy if u constantly think about ex's, and if he is not the only one in your heart. i think about my exs once in awhile but i sure dont miss them or flirt with them and if i do i tell my man right away word for word what was said, i love him and have nothing to hide.
2007-03-16 12:44:00 · answer #7 · answered by tralw2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definetley!!!!! You should only love one person!!! Don't become a $lut liking more than 2 guys!!!!! ( There are already millions of them at my school ex: Rachel Hohne, Lindsey Fudge, and Jessi Evans. I hate them all and there are still alot more!!! )
2007-03-16 12:42:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
look if those guys used to treat you better than your boyfriend that will happen. just forgether about those guys and try not to have any contact whats so ever with them and stay with your man
2007-03-16 12:45:35 · answer #9 · answered by marcel m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good on you for being so honest with yourself!
That's major honesty.
You are totally normal.
Commitment changes things, not time.
If he commits, so will you.
Will he commit?
Think hard, what do you want?
If you want commitment, give it and ask for it.
If you don't, well then, take each day as it comes.
Your choice.
2007-03-16 12:49:46 · answer #10 · answered by aihaines 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋