single mom has two children. one age 15 one age 11. she has to work and tells the 15 yeqr old to be home no later than 7:00pm and stay . he comes home then leaves and doesn't return home until 9:30, 10:00pm or whatever he feels like and defies his mother on everything she ask of him. what to do?
2007-03-16 12:28:48 · 10 answers · asked by George W 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
My mom had the same problem with my older sister. She didn't want to be the younger kids' babysitter. So she didn't come home. Sounds like the boy needs counseling. Seriously, sounds like deep issues!
2007-03-16 12:32:43 · answer #1 · answered by Kat H 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hire a sitter!! Get a man or older youngster to come to the house and keep him there. She is losing control over him at a very crucial time. Tell him he must be home or she will continue to get the sitter until he acts like a grown up and come home on time. What does he do between when school gets out and 7pm anyway? The only really acceptable excuse for him not to be home by 4 or 4:30 is that he is on a team or school club or something.
2007-03-16 13:26:38 · answer #2 · answered by elaeblue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One thing that worked for my mom raising 5 kids and me raising 2 , was to ask the teen: "what time will you be home?". My two always came home at the time that they told me before they left. It gives the kids a sense of freedom, which is what teens want.
But they also need guidance. Losing privileges works great. I took my daughter's phone away for a week when she was 13, and she was in agony (never repeated the naughty behavior again!). I allowed my son to have his friends into our house and then I knew where he was most of the time. Hope your son has (wholesome) activities and interests to keep him occupied. Also consider contacting Big Brothers and Sister if they have a group in your area.
How to get them to understand that defiance is disrespectful and hurtful is a challenge. Would be good if he would be able to imagine himself in your place, ie.. what it would be like to be the mom.
2007-03-16 12:55:36 · answer #3 · answered by slsunfrog 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have an 18 yo who lives at home - does the same thing. We take priveleges away - take away the car - restrict him from going to movies, etc. (if he doesn't have the car and we don't let his friends pick him up...)
You just have to have rules. He may not listen at first, but if you raised him well at all he will come around. Hang in there. Teens are tough to deal with at times. I can't wait until my son goes to college in the fall! He needs to grow up a bit (a lot actually!)
2007-03-16 12:36:19 · answer #4 · answered by mmct21 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-18 15:35:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have a 16, 13,7 and the oldest one who is 16 hardley ever comes straight home from school but thats the reason he never gets to do the fun stuff . he stays on punishment. i think she should take everything fun away never let him go anywhere and if he dont improve i would get him a babysitter .......yea at 15 he would be embarrassed tell her its gonna get better but she has to stick her guns!!!!!!! it works.
2007-03-16 12:39:10 · answer #6 · answered by mcutiegirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hire a babysitter--seriously. If he's going to act like a child and not listen to her she should treat him like a child and get him a babysitter.
2007-03-16 12:33:30 · answer #7 · answered by Heather Y 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
punish him, call police on him, take away things he loves computer, video games, ect better get control now, have an uncle or friend have a talk with him
2007-03-16 12:34:31 · answer #8 · answered by melissa s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
punish him and find him a babysitter before until he can the follow orders.
2007-03-16 12:33:39 · answer #9 · answered by BLESSED AND TTC #1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
scare him.. **** hes lucky i had to be home no later than 4:30pm and couldn't leave again....
2007-03-16 12:34:12 · answer #10 · answered by chex_1r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋