my ex and i broke up a little bit after new years and it basically broke my heart but we said that we would be chill with eachother because there was no real bad reason for breaking up. its been a few months, and i think of him alot but i usually ignore it. hes been starting to txt me and stuff now and asking me to chill and i really want to cuz hes an awesome friend and funny as hell but im grounded and cant go anywhere and i have the feeling it looks like im avoiding him and i dont want him to stop talking to me! also, he txts me alot but then doesnt talk to me at school unless i say hi first which is wierd. anyways, what can i do to start being friends with him again?!
2007-03-16 12:27:18 · 10 answers · asked by mclovin 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
just act normal and pretend nothing happened and tell him ur grounded so he knows ur not avoiding him
2007-03-16 12:31:16 · answer #1 · answered by jenjen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you say you want to be friends with him again, start treating him like your other friends. hang out with him, joke around, talk, whatever...just don't give him preferential treatment. Also don't bring up the past....unless it doesn't have any emotions tied to it.
However, when reading your question, i noticed you said he doesn't talk to you at school unless you talk first. That doesn't sound good to me. It seems to me that he is trying to keep your "friendship" a secret, almost like he is ashamed to be seen talking to you. the same happened to me, and although he later said it was because he didn't want anyone to know how much he still loved me, i decided not to pursue the friendship. If he cant admit his love, or in this case friendship, in front of others, hes not worth it. You have other friends who dont treat you like something on the bottom of his shoe.
But if he just finds the situation awkward, try to put him more at ease by being more casual and at ease yourself. it will pay-off, even if you are just acting comfortable, because soon it will be.
Anyway, just assess your situation and do what seems best. Good Luck hon!
2007-03-16 12:40:25 · answer #2 · answered by allykat87 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a Ex ,trap him he is just playing with you because he feels guilty for breaking up and mind already have a new girl,, probably also laughing behind your back at you . you can do better than that , as a friend: if you want to you can text him anytime but don't think it will be more than friendship.if i was you i would go your own way. i know about this i once was in the same situation , it newer will work out more than a friendship with a ex.
2007-03-16 12:44:32 · answer #3 · answered by Baby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my ex and i are good friends now. we always kept in touch even though we were broken up but it took us about a year to actually now see eachother as friends. people say being just "friends" with an ex is impossible but to me, it is possible. even though we aren't going out anymore we still care for eachother and thats the reason why we were able to still talk to eachother. your ex-boyfriend might still feel uncomfortable seeing you as a friend only. it's either that or he's playing hard-to-get to try and get you back. If your grounded then let him know you are grounded so that he doesn't jump to conclusions.
2007-03-16 12:34:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest, say that your parents wont let you out and ask for a rain check; maybe set a time to hang out later next week. I think he must still like to be around you but is shy and that is why he lets you do the talking first at school because he doesn't want to seem desperate!
2007-03-16 12:32:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
As much as I would like to respond, I'm not "hip" with the connotation that you are giving to the word chill.
2007-03-16 12:32:51 · answer #6 · answered by soulguy85 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just talk to him and go places with him ( with other friends too) and chat with him on messenger or send him emails to keep staying in touch. just act as if nothing had happened between you two and just be the good friends you used to be. good luck!
2007-03-16 12:31:21 · answer #7 · answered by celinuchis90 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can go out for lunch or something every once and awhile
2007-03-16 12:30:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be nice to him. talk, build up a friendship. thats all u can really do
2007-03-16 12:29:24 · answer #9 · answered by Lily 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nope
2007-03-16 12:30:54 · answer #10 · answered by michael k 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋