Gf of a long term relationship broke it off a few months ago due to a few things, basically I wasnt the best boyfriend, not cheating but more the little things i didnt do that a boyfriend should.
Anyway i tried for ages to get another chance and it didnt work, then a week ago she asked me if i wanted to,but take it slowly. I said yeh, but since then its been strange, i feel like she isnt trying at all even though she says she still loves me. She keeps telling me it feels weird, not sure if its right. Is this a normal thing for going out with an ex after a period of seperation? should the weirdness go away? I love her to bits and want this to work.
2007-03-16 12:09:20 · 10 answers · asked by dinkster69 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I see that you love her. It's like that in beginning because you have to reconnect in so many ways. This time around be the best man you can be because the ones that are a challenge are worth it. You have to work to get paid.
2007-03-16 12:16:36 · answer #1 · answered by LT 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ive totally been thru the same thing. when we finally got back together, I was trying so hard not to do the things i had before. That, combined with the fact that we had totally separated our lives and didnt even know how to begin to merge them, caused the relationship to feel weird, almost not real. I felt as if i was walking on eggshells and there was so much pressure for it to be like it used to be, only better, that it was doomed for the start. We broke up again two weeks later, even though we both still loved each other.
This is just my experience. Maybe yours will be different. Maybe if more time passes it will get better. Good Luck!!
2007-03-16 12:18:38 · answer #2 · answered by allykat87 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't really know, but my cousin ended up marrying her first boyfriend, not telling you to ask to marry her or anything, but my cousin really loves her husband and they love eachother and when they first dated when she was 17 she was a total jerk to her, I have no idea how they got back together. She's 21 now though I think they have been married for like 2 months now and they live happy together. Although I don't know if telling you this story would help you, but you should date her if you love her and if you love her yes the weird feeling should go away.
2007-03-16 12:14:55 · answer #3 · answered by Madeliene Smith 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she is still stinging from before, I would say only time would helpthe situation if you be the boyfriend you should be. You might also consider asking her if she needs more time. I would not say it was normal behavior, normally it is the opposite people fall right back into the relationship and unfrotunately the worms and faults that it had before. So maybe this is a positive if it does feel different
2007-03-16 12:15:29 · answer #4 · answered by beachloveric 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, this is normal. She is a little bit scared and she needs to feel she can trust you again. Give her some time and take things slow right now. Try to rebuild the friendship first before becoming intimate again. Hope it works out.
2007-03-16 12:17:45 · answer #5 · answered by ann t 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do not. He looks very undecisive. it truly is no longer a strong trait once you've an pastime in a extreme courting with him. He dumped you once for the ex and ought to really do it again. i be conscious of you want him, yet he's broken. If he's equipped in yet another 3 months and doesn't communicate about his ex, provide him a danger. yet no longer now.
2016-11-26 00:41:35 · answer #6 · answered by hildy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it probably feels weird because the familiarity and the comfort ability of the relationship has changed. And although you two were a couple at one point, it feels like you guys are starting all over, like first timers..so, take it real slow, don't expect too much at first, and don't be pushy about anything..good luck
2007-03-16 12:16:27 · answer #7 · answered by angeleyes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she misses you, but is afraid of it not working out. She probably is waiting for you when you say it seems she isn't trying-she wants to see if your 'bad Boyfriend" behavior is going to reappear. She may even feel pressured by you. Try to act natural--not like you are on eggshells--since you probably are. Dont smother her--go slow like she asked. Best of luck to you.
2007-03-16 12:20:31 · answer #8 · answered by not active 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
at the end of the day your an ex for a reason, getting back together isnt a wise decision,
2007-03-16 12:14:18 · answer #9 · answered by Charlotte S 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, it's awkward for her so give it time. And be a better boyfriend this time so she can trust you.
2007-03-16 12:14:37 · answer #10 · answered by Dovey 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋