how can i get my daughter to listen to me?

Question

she is so disrespectful!!

Answer 1

First of all, since you did not state your daughter's age, I'm going to assume that she's around three or four. Make a list of unacceptable behaviors and house rules. Post this list somewhere where she can see it every day. Even though she can't read yet, just seeing it will serve as a visual reminder. Review the list with her. Tell her that from now on there are new rules and if she doesn't follow the rules she will get in trouble. At this time, also go over what her punishment will be if she doesn't follow the rules. I would highly recommend a time-out, which would last as many minutes as years she is old. For example, a four year old would sit in time out for four minutes. When you place her in time out, get down on her eye level and say in a clear, firm voice what rule she didn't follow and why it is important to follow the rule. For example, if she threw something at you, you would tell her that it is not o.k. to throw things no matter how angry you get because someone might get hurt. Then tell her the right way she should have acted. For example, you could tell her the next time she feels angry enough to throw something, to come tell you or hit a pillow...
It is very important to list and follow a clear and consistant set of rules for your children. Make sure everyone in the house, even the adults, trys to follow the rules because young children learn how to communicate and react with the world based largly on how the people around them communicate with each other and etc.
Some family rules that work well in my household are as follows:
No hurting other people or their belongings
No cursing or yelling
Always say please, thank you, or sorry

Even my three year old can understand and follow these basic rules. If you make sure you follow through whenever your daughter breaks a rule she will eventually stop. Do expect some resistance at first, kids always like to test new rules just to see if you really mean what you say. Stay firm and don't give up, it will work.

Answer 2

Depending on her age, there are few different approaches, or reasons why she isn't listening to you.
If she is a toddler, its because she has a small attention span, she will hear you and may listen for a second, but will forget or lose track of what is going on or what your saying.
If she is a school aged child maybe you should tell her you need to talk and tell her how she is not being respectful, tell her what it means and give her examples on being respectful by listening and obeying and getting along.
If she is a teenager well, thats what teenagers do!! They like to rebel, but they also need to respect a parent's wishes. You need to sit down with her and tell her how you feel and if she doesn't respect your wishes, maybe she needs to be grounded for a period of time so that she will realize, or learn that she can not disrespect you by not listening to you.

Answer 3

i'm 16 and that i locate it truly unfair. Your daughter is in undemanding words experimenting with distinct kinds at the same time as she's youthful. I doubt that she will be able to quit believing in God or conserving sturdy morals. She is in basic terms hunting for the position she belongs. the finished punk rocker, and emotional kinds are fads, in any case. All of which will be forgotten in many years. Already the kinds are replacing to bigger of a 60's look. Confiscating her CD series received't help the problem a lot. I recommend you seek for up different lyrics to three of the songs to get the gist of the shape (each each now and then the lyrics are given in the e-e book contained in the CD case). in case you disagree with the words, refer to her about it. She may have a clarification for having that diverse CD. postponing television privileges received't help both. maximum television courses do no longer always promote immoral techniques. particular, there are some terrible shows, in spite of the undeniable fact that the overall public of them are not that undesirable. And eliminating the cellular is basically cruel to the favourite teen. basically ensure that she can't get correct of entry to the web by her cellular and each thing should be o.k. (that's expensive in any case). i take advantage of my cellular telephone to textual content my acquaintances to make plans for evenings out. that's all. i'd not problem too a lot. I recommend you refer to her back and clarify your concerns more beneficial obviously, yet do no longer ignore to hearken to HER. Her understanding that you'll listen will create a more acceptable have self assurance and bond between the both easily one of you, and could create a more acceptable bond between her and God. sturdy success, and that i'm hoping you 2 can negotiate some thing.

Answer 4

well you could attempt the supernanny routine, otherwise known as the naughty step. you take them to the step, sit them down, explain why they have been put there then leave them there for several minutes- if your daughter is two then it should be two mins etc. if they come off the step you take them back again and sit them on it again without talking. after the two minutes you ask for an apology and a hug then carry on as normal. hope this helps

Answer 5

First how old is she? One thing you have to remember in bringing a child up is consistency, when you give a rule stick to it, when you give a punishment follow through with it. Do not give into fits and letting them have their own way. You have to be the parent and set the rules and make sure you stay with them.

Answer 6

this is what I do, when the bank teller gives my girls a lollipop and don't say Thank-you, I ask them "What do you say?" if they stil don't say thank-you, I calmly say, "If you can't say Thank-you, you don't deserve it. The lady/gentleman was being nice." And I hand it back to the bank teller. Same with those darn balloons they give to kids (twitches). When someone gives them something and they don't say Thank-you take it and tell them why. When she does listen tell her you appreciate her listening and doing what she was asked.

Answer 7

Hey! i am a disrespectful daughter too!

Answer 8

You need to give her a good spanking, worked for me and my brother when we were younger! Good luck if you don't believe in spankings.

Answer 9

i have read your past questions, to get respect you must grow up and behave like an adult,

Answer 10

Spankings work wonders.....