Not Enough Effort in Relationship?

Question

I feel like I'm the only one putting anything into the relationship I have with my boyfriend. I'm the one that calls him, texts him, sends him letters and even messages him online. Don't get me wrong, he does some stuff (i.e. Messaging me and calling me via Yahoo Voice but never on cell phone.) For some reason, it feels like he's not really into the relationship we have, hence his inability to even give me a call (especially when he said he will) or send me a text or something other than responding to my messages on Yahoo Instant Messenger. (It's a long distance relationship and we're both adults). Should I bring it up to him? Although it seems as if I'm always bringing stuff up about our relationship to him. Or should I just wait it out and see if he gets more comfortable in the relationship to see if anything happens?

Answer 1

Honestly, that doesn't sound like a relationship. It appears that you are an online chat buddy and nothing more. He probably has other things going on in his life, and you should to. I don't know how you could feel satisfied with an online relationship, but it doesn't seem too fulfilling.

I suggest you establish activities and human interraction away from the computer. Go out with your friends and forget this guy.

Answer 2

Bring it up. But I actually suggest you break it off and find someone who lives near you. He's probably afraid to actually try in the relationship becuz then he just might actually fall for you and thatd be bad since you dont live near eachother.

And about the phone calls...well, I say that if a guy cant even commit to calling you...then he probably cant commit to a REAL relationship either.

Answer 3

Two sides to every story....maybe he thinks his effort is just right and you are bothering him TOO much.

Depends on who's perspective you are looking at....it only seems like you are doing all the work....trust me.