I just need some thoughts from the men in the Law Enforcement side, I know that you guys are always busy, and I respect & appreciate that totally, here's my concern....
I really like this man, but he's not showing any signs of interest. He works graveyard, and I understand that he's tired and needs to get his rest, I'm all for that! but in 6 months of "dating" we've gone out twice, and the last time was in mid-December! he would come by sometimes at night for a few minutes during his shift (stayed up later waiting....) Now nothing. I get a call maybe once a week, maybe a text.
I care for him DEEPLY, and a tiny glimmer of hope would make me happy, but since his grandma died recently ( she raised him as a child) I feel like 1. I can't really ask for much 2. I can't just leave him since it happened like 2-3 weeks ago. It just seems like I am always sad because I don't see him, and I want to be with someone who appreciates all that I am and have to offer.
how do you cope?
2007-03-16 11:28:10 · 10 answers · asked by grldragon101 4 in Politics & Government ➔ Law Enforcement & Police
You sound like a very wonderful person.....I can say this...I use to play the field A LOT when I was first in uniform, it is like a chick magnet and I took advantage of a lot of nice people. I can't speak for him but, I know I was a player and when I got what I wanted it was over...I would make a call every so often just to keep them on the chain for back up. How old is this guy and how long has he been in Uniform? Plus, there is a possibility that he is depressed...Why don't you just ask him what is wrong....ask him if he is interested in you?? You might be surprised at the answer...Hope that helps a little, Good Luck!!
And for those of you out there fixing to talk crap....I am very happily married with 4 beautiful kids...This woman needs to know the truth....Cops are DOGS!!!
2007-03-17 00:47:29 · answer #1 · answered by Ted 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree somewhat with the user saying that this may be more related to a relationship issue and not law enforcement.
But to further comment cops are under a ton of stress, have the highest divorce rate and as one user indicates can provide a roller coaster ride for sure.
One thing I can see that no matter how stressed I was, or busy, I always make time for my lady (at the time) because if you don't....well.....we can all figure that one out.
You are obviously so concerned over this.....and feel bad so at best maybe you can ask to meet with him and maybe have a heart to heart talk with the guy and just tell him to tell you straight where you stand.
It is not fair to you or him to let this go on....I mean two times in 6 months....how can you even call it dating. You need to get this off your shoulders as you cant go on like this. I wish you the best!!
2007-03-16 15:22:57 · answer #2 · answered by flafuncop 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey, I hate to say this, but him being a cop doesn't have much to do with his feelings for you after this period of time. Perhaps you need to invite him over for a late dinner and just ask him if he is even interested in any kind of a relationship. You may the type of person who has to be told exactly how someone feels and that is alright but be prepared to handle it. My boyfriend is a Sgt. and he was very shy at first also, but he did come around alot more than your guy is. So....prepare yourself for a let down. And then again, he just have more on his plate than he can handle right now. And are you for absolute certain that he is not married or in a committed relationship? I wish you the best of luck.
2007-03-16 16:24:38 · answer #3 · answered by Cindy Roo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This question has absolutely nothing to do with dating a law enforcement officer.
I hate to be so straight forward, but you don't even have a relationship with this person, why does it bother you so much?
If you want to know how to cope, then you need to find someone that is available to you when you need them, offering you equal return on your emotional investment, and most of all someone you are happy with.
2007-03-16 11:45:17 · answer #4 · answered by Steve T. 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You've "dated" for 6 mos and gone out twice? You're not in a relationship. At least he's not.
2007-03-16 15:41:15 · answer #5 · answered by Hootiesplace 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This doesn't appear to be a "relationship" based on what you're saying. I doubt he'd notice if you left. Time to move on. He has other priorities. Sorry to be blunt, but your history doesn't match your facts. They only match your hopes. Good Luck.
2007-03-16 11:57:36 · answer #6 · answered by chuck_junior 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Move on it looks kike there is nothing there to hold you or him.
Plus relationships with cops can be a roller coaster out of control.
2007-03-16 11:59:50 · answer #7 · answered by Sgt 524 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think the fact that he is in law enforcement has anything to do with it. It just sounds like he is not as interested in you as you are in him.
2007-03-16 11:32:32 · answer #8 · answered by joeanonymous 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
my two uncles have divorces.... im sorry to say but they are busy people
2007-03-16 11:39:42 · answer #9 · answered by timmy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask about his wife.
2007-03-16 11:31:03 · answer #10 · answered by ANSWER MY QUESTION!! 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋