Please help out..girls only..(since they are the smart ones)
I have an old friend that's 35 years old..
He have never been in a relationship his ENTIRE life..never dated..all the girls though he was odd...untill recently
He was with a girl that was 27 and they were doing great untill
she found out that he is a virgin and he was her first realtion..
within days she dumped him. She told him she wanted someone with more experiance and not a soon to be 40 year old virgin?
Is he doomed single? Will his lack of experience keep him from finding a girl? What do girls actually think about guys who are years 30+ and virgins? If he is a virgin and never dated is that a total turn off for girls?
Please answer so I give him an absolution.
2007-03-16 11:27:16 · 25 answers · asked by Lone Knight 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, in the 30's dating region, girls tend to think these are the guys who "got it together" are no longer immature, and are ready to settle down. A 30 something virgin gives the idea that he's still immature because there's a lot of emotional growing that comes from a lifetime of sexual relationships. If your boy hasn't had his teenage boy sex phase where he does everything moving, girls will get the impression that he's gunna have it now. He's not doomed. Some girls will find it sweet that he didn't ho it up his whole life. If he plays it from a romantic place, like "I was waiting for the one" he needs to act confident about it though, if he feels like a loser, he'll come off as one, he has to believe he deserves love whole heartedly and he will find it. Girls want a 50/50 relationship where there's mutual support, no one wants to teach someone how to be confident. Tell him not to be clingy and admit too much the first date, leave something to be desired, mystery. Maybe get him to hit on some friends as a dry run so he gets used to it, Good Luck!
2007-03-16 11:36:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A woman dating a 30 something man should think the same thing that a man would think about a 30 something woman who was a virgin.
I would take it as a great sign that he had values, standards, self worth, and did not sleep with every little trollop that he saw. Think of the fun things they could have learning together!
A woman could have as much fun teaching a man with little sexual experience as a man could have teaching a woman with limited experince. And you know that he does not have a sexual past that you need to worrry about.
I don't see the problem and I can assure you if a woman has a problem with a man being a virgin no matter what the age, she ain't the woman he needs!
2007-03-16 11:37:49 · answer #2 · answered by Mee-Maw 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really don't want to sound mean, but I would really have to wonder about a 35 year old man who has never dated and was a still a virgin. It is odd, I'm sorry.
2007-03-16 11:38:49 · answer #3 · answered by Annie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not all girls are like that. Some girls think it's great that they might end up being a guy's first. But if a girl breaks up with a guy because he has little or no experience, then she wasn't looking for a relationship. She was mainly looking for sex. Probably. Or maybe she just wanted somebody with more experience with dating. Guys that don't date much or never tend to be mean or cocky, b/c they don't know how to react with a girl. Girls like romance, someone that's gonna be sweet to them. Girls like flowers and teddy bears (whether they will admit it or not.) Somebody that will hug them or kiss them and tell them that it will be okay when they're crying. Girls like guys that will stick up for them if they ever need it.
2007-03-16 11:34:12 · answer #4 · answered by kjcs_angel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Geez, that's rough. What a mean girl. I would have no problem dating a guy who was a forty year old virgin (provided that I liked him and he wasn't creepy), and I know other people who I feel safe to say would do the same. Pretty much anyone who is remaining abstinent until marriage shouldn't have a problem with it (and despite the constant media that would say otherwise, such people do exist, in greater numbers than you probably think).
2007-03-16 11:32:44 · answer #5 · answered by sarai_kristi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, all I can say is, he will eventually find a woman, not a girl, a woman who won't find it odd that he's still a virgin. I'd date him if lives near me. I doubt he does. Him being a virgin tells me he doesn't have STDs. That's turn on for me. Email me and tell me where he lives ;-). BTW, knowing he's a virgin, I would know to take my time and be patient with him. I would teach him how to be good in bed.
2007-03-16 11:51:02 · answer #6 · answered by cutest_couple_rahrah 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nope some women are turned off but he should just know those arent the women for him... trust me its a woman out there somewhere still a virgin lookin 4 a virgin also he probably wants to wait till he's married he has hope he is not doomed... thats good whoever he finds to marry one day i say will be lucky be optimistic about it.... there is nothing wrong with his situation.. i honestly respect him for not engagin in the sins thats ruining the world with all the diease
2007-03-16 11:34:45 · answer #7 · answered by Im da Example 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doomed - not at all. Lack of expereince - that's fine. if anything he can use it to his advantage ... he can play the shy, nice guy angle and then just unleash a whole lot of masculinity on her! And she will feel amazing - trust me (You other girls knwo what I am talking about right)! Of course he may have to learn a thing or 2 first - one of my flatmate's found this site to be killer ... he was totally shy, lacking in confidence etc and now he just totally owns his women. Amazing stuff - and he just used his natural self with a few tips and tricks. Oh yeah the site ... Oops! http://shimcb.jamorama.hop.clickbank.net/
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2007-03-19 02:18:43 · answer #8 · answered by Jillian W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i'm a girl, and if a guy has never had sex at 35 then i think it's sorta amazing cause most guys are horny pigs! He'll definately find someone! Try christian girls they wait till marriage to have sex anyways or at least that's what i'm doing! Tell him that there is some1 for everyone!
2007-03-16 11:34:12 · answer #9 · answered by Lollipop 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's cute that he is. Maybe he wants to wait until he is married. I know a guy who decided to wait for the right person and he is turning 30. I think he will find the right one, he shouldn't worry that much
2007-03-16 11:32:08 · answer #10 · answered by lovergirl26 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋