Ok, I'm 15 and I have a boyfriend, lets call him "Fred". We've been "together" for almost 1year and 7 months, but here's the twist: He lives in virginia (I live in NY). I HAVE met him before just before he moved. The downside is, since he's so far away, we (obvoiusly) can't have any physical contact. We talk through AIM and MySpace. Lately, I've been perfectly fine with this long-distance relationship, until Valentines Day came along. My school had a snowday, so I was at home waiting to see if he would get on or send me a message on Myspace. As the day went on, I felt more and more "blue". I even cried a couple times for no apparent reason.
Next: Meet my best guy friend. We'll call him "Bob". "Bob" and I have known each other since preschool. We have three classes together and he is always drawing me pictures of my made-up anime character. Because of this, my parents think he likes me. I have always thought of "Bob" as just a friend, but now I am sure that I have a crush on him.
2007-03-16 11:01:20 · 9 answers · asked by cherryxblossom55 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Now that I know that I have a crush on him, I'm so confused. I don't know who I like more: "Bob" or "Joe". "bob" is right here, as in i can see him, talk to him, poke him, etc. And I really need someone who can comfort me when I need it and someone who can make me feel like I'm loved. "Joe" DOES make me feel loved, but he cannot hold me in his arms or look me in the eyes or anything.
So heres the deal: WHO should I choose, and if I choose "bob", how do I break up with "joe"? I'm too nice of a person and I REALLY don't want to hurt him. If I do break up with him, it's like I'll be tearing my own heart apart. Help?!
Also, "Joe" was my first boyfriend and crush ever. I'm not exactly boy crazy.
2007-03-16 11:01:47 · update #1
Aww..this sounds like a really tough situation!
I have friends that I sometimes feel this way about, and my boyfriend lives 5 minutes from me!..lol. But, I'd never act on it. If I was in your situation, I really don't know what I'd do..it'd be really hard not having someone to hold. All I know to tell you is listen to your heart!..and don't do anything you'll regret. Think it through and do some soul-searching:)
2007-03-16 11:07:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This may be hard but you should go for Bob. Joe/Fred, simply lives to far away for you two to be in a real relationship. Bob is there for you physically and mentally. You'll find that having someone there for you physically will cultivate a much deeper relationship.
2007-03-16 18:06:52 · answer #2 · answered by pyroman162 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why tell Joe anything? He's not even there. Just continue to write to him and talk about the weather and school and blah blah blah and go out with this other guy. what's the problem. For all you know, Joe might be seeing someone else too. I mean he is a guy, right? You think he's sitting around waiting for kisses from you? Get real...
2007-03-16 18:05:15 · answer #3 · answered by bodinibold 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok simply put it you will break Freds heart if you choose Bob....but remember Bob doesnt have to chose you even if you like him and if you break up Freds heart for Bob .....if Bob knows about this he might have guilt and also he might fear that one day you can find someone else and ditch him like you did to Fred
2007-03-16 18:08:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dump him! not in a mean way. tel"joe" that you cant be in a good relation ship if your so far apart. "bob" is your best friend he lives in the same state and you probably know more about him to. so chose "bob" thats what i would do if i were u. so hope you listen to my advice, and i hope everything will go well.
2007-03-16 18:11:26 · answer #5 · answered by Kimbo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just stick with Bob, in case you actually get together. You didn't say if you were going out or not.
2007-03-17 02:27:30 · answer #6 · answered by Icebox -0: Never Again 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK i understand that Ur nice and everything but you really can't go out with someone that lives far away. he can also have someone else over in Virginia. just tell him that it isn't working because he can't hug u or kiss u.
2007-03-16 18:12:05 · answer #7 · answered by Rebecka C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who is Joe? I though your boyfriend was Fred? But yea, don't tell Joe or Fred anything...
2007-03-16 18:05:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i think you need to find out what you really want. Don't let us decide which one you should choose go with your gut.Trust me then you'll know which one to choose. GOOD LUCK!!!
2007-03-16 18:07:47 · answer #9 · answered by iluvsuperman84 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋