My daughter is three in ahalf years old. she likes to be mouthy and demanding, and some times she dosen't like to listen. But since I had my son three weeks ago she seems to be worse then she was before he was born. At first I thought is was because all my time couldn't be just for her anymore. So I started to have her help me with the baby. Also when he would take naps I would play games, watch a move stuff like that with her so she wouldn't feel left out. Is she acting the way she is for attention or is she jealous of the baby?
2007-03-16 10:19:43 · 14 answers · asked by Brenda W 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
it's both, she's too inmature (no offense) to understand that you have to divide your time, she's obviously jealous, what you're doing is gret and in a few months she'll get used to it, don't worry, all mothers go thrugh this with a second baby...
2007-03-16 10:29:08 · answer #1 · answered by paulipauli 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My oldest son was just turning 3 when he's little brother was born, and he reacted the same way, before and after the baby was born. Now, about to turn 5, he is even more demanding and smart alecky. It took some time, but he eventually got out of the jealousy phase. I tried to let him "help" what he could when his baby brother was born. Whether he put the brought me the diaper and wipes or helped with the bottle, any sense that he was helping made him feel like he was needed for the baby. He felt like he was a part everything. Just give your daughter time, she'll come around. I am going through the same thing now, expect the other little boy is 2 with a 4 month old little brother, and it never gets easier.
2007-03-21 14:32:32 · answer #2 · answered by barefootcountrygal_25 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both. Keep doing what your doing and eventually she will adjust to life-with-a-sibling just like all firstborns have done since the beginning of time. She also may feel some tension in the household because- new babies are a lot of work. But, again, she'll adjust. That said, be sure not to leave big sis alone with the little guy...don't want him taking any hard knocks as she's trying to "accept" him.
2007-03-23 02:51:47 · answer #3 · answered by mamasonny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is probably feeling a little left out. Usually when a baby is born everyone makes a big deal about the baby. She needs to learn to accept the baby. Try buying a gift for her and telling her that it is from the baby. We did this with my niece and she got really excited about the baby and tried her hardest to help out and be the big sister.
2007-03-23 13:55:51 · answer #4 · answered by BeccaBoo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My guess is that she's jealous of the baby. I know I was when my brother was born. I'd let her know that even though there's a new baby in the house that you still love her. She may be doing it for attention too, because she thinks that the baby is getting all of it. She might feel replaced.
2007-03-16 10:27:59 · answer #5 · answered by Marah 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Both. Ask her to help with the baby, be patient she is just learning. Tell her how much you appreciate her help and what a good job she is doing even if it wasn't much. tell her she is such a good big sister for helping. then tell her that you and her are going to spend some quiet time alone, watching TV or reading, just her and you and follow through. Also girls are born with jealousy we never lose it, just control it. Help her control it by distracting her with someting more positive, praise for the helping with the baby is a start.
2007-03-16 12:22:24 · answer #6 · answered by Spring loaded horsie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she acts this way because she feels left out and all the attention is to the Baby and no body loves her anymore make sure she knows that nobody can replace her ever.
2007-03-23 07:32:15 · answer #7 · answered by Megan! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My three year old niece loves babies but if you are holding one once and a while she'll get jealous and want attention. But I think if your letting her play in active role in taking care of him and your still giving her plenty of attention -- its probably just normal 3 yr old behavior with a little added attention seeking behavior because she is still getting used to the idea of not bieng to only kid.
2007-03-16 10:31:40 · answer #8 · answered by Okaydokay21 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell yeah she is! Most kids do that when a new one comes along. Have patience, and it will go away soon enough. It is very normal for kids to get jealous that mommy is being taken away from them. If she wasn't reacting, that would worry me. Make sure you continue to spend one on one time with her when possible & maybe get her a book about being a big sister. Good luck!!
2007-03-16 10:28:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
she feels like her Mommy has been token away she may be hurt if anything i would keep her involved with helping the baby but take some time for the two of you alone and explain you love her and although there are some changes you will love her the same it should pass
2007-03-23 12:42:55 · answer #10 · answered by lil one 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋