Me and my ex have been friends for the past year. I got an unexpected email from him last weekend. He stated that he hated who he was when we were together and that he would never be able to make things up to me. All he could do was start new and that he thought we could work. The problems were not problems between us, just personal issues that he had. I am really confused since I was not expecting this. I miss him and there are still feelings there but I have never told him. I don't know what to do.
2007-03-16 10:07:29 · 19 answers · asked by Jen_n_TX 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Some guys think that they can get out of a relationship whenever they feel like to and get back in whenever they want to... And women let them do that. I am one of them. I regret it after and at the moment I couldn't help myself. Anyhow, I want you to really think and think before you make any decision. What if? ask yourself what if this happens again? What to do then? He left you at first and just by leaving you for whatever the reason he lost your trust. He thinks he can gain back his trust by getting back with you? That is big no no... If things turn out the way he wanted, he will think that whatever he did before, whatever he did to hurt you in any way meant nothing. I wouldn't take him back, I would just remain friends with him though. There are millions and billions of nice men out there for you. So why go back to the one who left you hanging? You are confused but do not make any decision before your head clears out. Good luck!
2007-03-16 10:17:05 · answer #1 · answered by Victoria78 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Wow... this is a tough one.
If you believe that the relationship will work also and you still have feelings for him then I think that you should give it a shot. Sometimes people deserve a second chance, and it doesn't sound like he cheated on you or anything so this might be a good time to give that second chance.
Ultimately the decision is yours, but make sure that the decision is something you can live with for the rest of your life.
You don't want to walk around wondering "what if?"
2007-03-16 17:16:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the relationship was okay, just his personal life was causing all the problems then I think you have a chance. IF he has really worked out those problems, resolved them AND realized what caused them to begin with. If you are going to try again you need to make sure that all the past problems are over and you really can start fresh. Good luck!!
2007-03-16 17:11:21 · answer #3 · answered by katybeth212001 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You shouldn't be confused. Let me explain to you:
He is lonely and tired of playing the field, he would like to take a break from the hunt and settle down for a little while. Since he knows you too are lonely and are easy prey, he will tell you what you want to hear.
After he is tired of you again, he will dump you and move on.
Now do you know what to do?
2007-03-16 17:13:40 · answer #4 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say that if there is a chance that you might like him that way again then you should give him another chance and see if it works out. What ever you decide good luck. Oh by the way people can change I have learned from experience. So my suggestion is to give him a second chance.
2007-03-16 17:13:05 · answer #5 · answered by Purple Moon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well... he said he hated who he was when you were together and wants to change.....since you still have feelings for him......give him a chance and get to know the new him (since he states he gonna change)..you still can back out if you don't want to be with him
good luck
2007-03-16 17:12:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be confussed also. I think it's best that you sit down to dinner and just talk it out. If you have feelings for him, you two should go out again. It sounds like he likes you too. Just make sure the issues he has aren't too big that it will make everything worse. See how things go and if you want to go out with him again, go for it!!!!
2007-03-16 17:12:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you choose to go down this road, you need to start all over.
don't bring up the past, it's a new deal, treat it as one. I wouldn't go down that road, experience has taught me it a bad patch of road. but there could be that once in a lifetime that it could work. just don't let him talk you into it. just start talking and see where it goes. don''t make a plan. good luck.
2007-03-16 17:13:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just ask him what the problem was in your relationship. If he says he cant tell that he might of have teated, drugs, or something else but if he doesnt tell you guys should take time off.
2007-03-16 17:16:30 · answer #9 · answered by Melissa J 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well you need to do what you think is right. Follow your heart. If you want to be back with him, i'd say go for it. he probably didn't want ot leave you in the first place.
2007-03-16 17:11:03 · answer #10 · answered by curious 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋