I work in a day care and I was just wondering. I have the 3 year old class. And my assistant talks down to the kids who have accidents in my class. (Potty) I feel like screaming at her for this am I wrong. They are only 3 and it is Ok to have accidents right.
2007-03-16 10:05:38 · 40 answers · asked by BeccaBoo 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
It would make me upset, too. They are still learning the skill of going to the potty. For most of their lives they went whenever and wherever they were. It takes time and muscle control and awareness to "go potty". The assistant shouldn't punish or demean, she should reinforce the good they do and encourage the kids to be successful when they have an accident.
2007-03-16 10:11:16 · answer #1 · answered by Daybreak 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I she is your assistant then you have the authority to correct her. Potty training takes months sometimes and sorry, children will have accidents. They need constant reminders, so maybe she should concentrate more on preventing the accidents by suggesting potty time often. It is not her place to "talk down" to them. Saying something like "oops, you had an accident. Next time let's try and use the potty" is okay. Saying "oh what a bad boy for peeing in his pants like a baby" is wrong. I would come up with guidelines you both use when this happens, because it is bound to happen with 3 year olds.
2007-03-16 10:41:35 · answer #2 · answered by adrixia 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A three year old boy in my daycare had a poop accident today. This little guy is very meticulous about his toiletting, but today he had the runs. It was a major accident, but that`s why parents normally send extra undies and pants. Toddlers aren`t perfect. I just washed him up, ( with him helping a little), and put a pull up on him, ( he had a bad case of the runs), and sent him on his way. This particular child is very sensitive, he bows his head when he feel bad, I wouldn`t belittle him because of an accident. You have to watch out, some kids feelings really get hurt if you scold them really hard. But I do have kids that are " repeat offenders", I mean they are lazy at going potty. I often remind them to go when I notice the signs, and if they have accidents, I make sure they clean up ...as much as they are capable of cleaning. But I do remind them to be " big boys and girls".
2007-03-16 10:26:45 · answer #3 · answered by lost2day 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your assistant must not have much experience or education when it comes to children. Yelling at children that young for having an accident is so bad. It makes potty time a very negative experience for children. Not to mention, kids don't have as much control over those muscles down there. I mean gosh, there's a reason why its called an "accident".
2007-03-16 10:16:28 · answer #4 · answered by Mom2Be 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course it is ok for a 3 yr old to have accidents. They are still learning and it is wrong to get mad at them. If i were u i would go to the director of the daycare and bring this up. The more negative attention a child gets like that the more accidents they are bound to have. I have a 3 yr old and he has accidents but i never get mad at him. That woman should not be working in a daycare
2007-03-16 10:11:59 · answer #5 · answered by spacelee666 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, my 6 year old still has accidents at night and my 5 year old gets to playing and just can't make it in time. You need to speak to your supervisor about this, that can ruin a childs self esteem, make the accidents worse and noone better ever be talking down to my child for anything, accident or not. Even if it was on purpose you do not deal with children that way.
2007-03-16 10:11:21 · answer #6 · answered by Barbara C 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are only three years old for crying out loud. It is okay to have an accident. It isn't their fault. They have small bladders and can't hold it as long as we can or maybe they don't realize it but they should at least be using the toliet sometime. By your assistant yelling at them it will make it worse and they will continue to have accidents. Just encourge them by saying something like "It's okay that you had an accident but next time try to make it to the potty."
2007-03-16 18:56:15 · answer #7 · answered by Andy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it is usual for 3 year olds to have accidents but they should not be punished or made to feel bad about it. Are they taken to the bathroom often enough? Some kids, especially when they are playing and having fun, will not stop to go. You still need to ask some 3 year olds if they have to go.
2007-03-16 12:54:34 · answer #8 · answered by Patti C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to be told to shut up or get out. Parents need to be told how their children are being treated. My 3 year old is potty training, and I am soo tired of accidents, but she is 3 and they will happen. I remind her that she has to go to the potty, and we make a game of it. There are days she stays dry, there are days she is changed 6 or 7 times, that's life.
2007-03-16 10:23:23 · answer #9 · answered by ladyc 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's why it's called an accident,no they should not be punished,or embarrassed in front of the rest of the kids.When there are a few kids,it had to be hard for them to get an adults attention in time for their assistance.My kids are 4 and 5 and they still have accidents not all that often and it's mostly due to laziness or just not wanting to stop what they are doing.But I clean them up and we go on w/ our day,they will eventually grow out of it!!
2007-03-16 10:11:38 · answer #10 · answered by molliehollie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋