My partner has custody of his daughter who has lived with us now for 3 years. She is allowed to see her mother every other weekend and half of all school holidays. My partner and I have another child together and we are all a happy family. My question is.... Is it possible for me to be granted parental responsibility of his daughter as she lives with me and i make joint and important decisions about her life. I know her biological mother would contest any applications so I just wonder what to do. I want to gain parental responsibility for this child if humanly possible and don't mind a fight! The child in question is 8 years old. Also if anyone knows what it'd cost too (As we'd have to pay!!)
Thanks in advance
Sal x
2007-03-16 10:05:09 · 11 answers · asked by whiplashsal 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
My partner wants me to have it too!!
2007-03-16 10:11:29 · update #1
The child's mother can allow you to adopt her. But you are not married to her father...............That would be a big plus if you were married. If you have a child with him and you both are so happy, I would suggest getting married and making it legal for all of you. That should have been your first step.
That would be the easiest and cheapest way to do it. Get married first, talk to the biological mother regarding adoption and then secure an attorney to draw up the papers. There you go, all done...............
2007-03-16 10:17:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
My gut response as a Children's Social Worker, is that it won't be possible for you to be granted parental responsibility if her biological mother who also has PR contests the applications. I think you should contact a solicitor or lawyer. I do think you may be wasting your time and should just accept that you do not have PR. As long as your partner has PR., there are orders for her to remain in his custody, things sound all well and good. Good luck.
2007-03-17 01:18:57 · answer #2 · answered by Steph717 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's nice that you want to be involved in your partners child and the raising of that child. But honestly, unless there is abuse or neglect of the child by the biological mother why would you want to take her away from her? What would be the purpose of getting an order like this?
2007-03-16 12:48:00 · answer #3 · answered by hr4me 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. As long as the Mother has access the only way you would be able to do this is if the Mother agreed and that isn't likely from what you have said. Even if the Mother was not on the scene you still need her permission to adopt and obtain full responsibility I'm afraid.
2007-03-16 10:11:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
have you asked what the child wants, if the child wants is OK with it then why don't you talk to the mom direct, parental responsibility isn't that much, my ex has it but all it means is he can talk the school and see doctors records, and give consent in medical emergency (as she longer sees him its waste of time). basically is worth upsetting the child and her mom for. sounds like you may be threatened by the moms presence. but you must get over this, you have all you could want.
2007-03-16 10:19:46 · answer #5 · answered by RACHEL B 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
be absolutely honest with yourself. do you want this because you truly believe it to be in the best interests of the girl? or.......do you want to have more control to prove to yourself that the ex partner has really lost the game?
say you do this,
are you going to tell the girl that you are the one who instigated taking the last vestiges of her mother away, or are you going to lie to her?
you say you are already making important decisions about the girls life. that you are her main care giver. why then, do you feel the need to do this? you already are seen as the girls mother by proxy.
2007-03-18 22:15:23 · answer #6 · answered by fat momma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the girl lives with you the majority of the time. no doubt you already help her with homework, teach her things in everyday lifeand discipine her in your home,right?you make important decisions about her too. seems to me you're already being a parent. i'm not sure what you mean by parental rights but i'm guessing you want to have full say in what goes on. seems like you'd have to prove her mother as unfit. pretty tough to do.if she isn't unfit then you really have no right to expect a court to give you full rights.
2007-03-16 11:21:48 · answer #7 · answered by racer 51 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not her biological mother, therefor you should have no parental rights as you are not a biological parent. I have a stepmother and she see's no reason to try and get parental responsibility of me, neither should you need them of your stepdaughter.
You would only really be interfering by something you don't need to have.
2007-03-16 10:11:06 · answer #8 · answered by Stephz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He can make you a legal guardian which cost is cheap and if you get married you can do a step parent adoption or legally become a guardian because of marriage.
2007-03-16 10:11:57 · answer #9 · answered by Mom of 5 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Your not the mother and you never will be , try that and you might lose your partner in the process
2007-03-16 10:09:58 · answer #10 · answered by troble # one? 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋