I've had a friend with benefits for a few months now. [[I already know the general opinion of those is that they don't work out]] It was perfectly fine, no emotional attachments or anything...then the last month or so he's started acting differently. Started wanting to cuddle more...even sometimes JUST cuddling/kissing without the sex, calling me pet names [[sugar, sweetie, honey, baby]], wanting to hang out outside of our "booty call" time and just generally being sweeter. Because of this, I've started to think of it in a much more romantic light and have started to have feelings for him. He hasn't made any moves though, so, I don't know if these things really meant anything or not and am having trouble deciding if I should tell him how I feel. Any opinions?
2007-03-16 10:01:41 · 11 answers · asked by Ally V 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He is starting to get attached but he is afraid that if he shows he wants more that the "friends with benefits" deal will be off. You can't keep having sex with someone without getting attached. Life doesn't work that way.
2007-03-16 10:06:27 · answer #1 · answered by Pooky Bear the Sensitive 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I think that it is against a woman's nature to have that friends with benefits thing and I think that your following his lead is even more proof of that (any man is better than no man at all aka a booty call is better than nothing at all)
I want more than a booty call and I am perfectly ok with not having a man out there able to compare me to other women.
All those names you are called by this booty man, are names that I here with out giving up the booty.
Get this today if no other day. Men and women do not think alike. Me like the thrill of something special. If every one has a 63 Mustang, it is not so special.
I hear you say that because his feelings may have changed for you, your beginning to feel differently about him?
He is leading you and your thoughts so ask yourself if that booty call thing was really satisfying to you or did you always wish for more and settled because you thought that you were not worthy of it.
Take a chill pill and let the booty man expose himself before you go messing it up-let him turn into a gentleman and see where it leads if you want him to respect you if you two end up putting the horse in front of the carriage after all.
Best wishes.
2007-03-16 17:14:24 · answer #2 · answered by Arene 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am answering this from personal experience from a situation that went on for 8 yrs. You really need to tell this guy how you feel, chances are that he feels the same from the gestures that he has made towards you(cuddling, kissing etc)If you tell him and he does feel the same thats great but if not at least you will know where he stands. It is much easier to deal with if you find out how he feels instead of always wondering.........what if? and what could have happened or come out of it. Not ever knowing in my opinion is much harder than knowing.
2007-03-16 17:15:53 · answer #3 · answered by angeleyes1981_25 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no such thing as sex without strings attached. There is always emotions involved, no matter how much people want to force and deceive themselves into thinking there is no emotions involved. Personally, it is sad that you and your partner have such little respect for your bodies as to dishonor your bodies with booty calls. Even if you do get together romantically, your relationship turning out to be something meaningful has a very, very slim chance of survival.
2007-03-16 17:10:57 · answer #4 · answered by fancyface1 l 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whoa girl. Has he actually asked you to be a couple? Friends with benefits never works out because he gets the best of both worlds - the sex and attention without a committment to a relarionship. So suddenly he wants more, but has he asked you?? So ASK HIM WHAT HE WANTS and work on it from there!
2007-03-16 17:08:28 · answer #5 · answered by mamabear_45 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your "little" friendship with benefits have started to develop into a more serious way. If you want your relationship more than a platonic one, why don't you talk to him and ask him if it's worth pursuing the relationship in a higher level. He is your friend, isn't he? Just tell him you're curious. See what happens.
Goodluck! and I wish you both happiness!!
2007-03-16 17:10:41 · answer #6 · answered by Jennifer M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he probably just feels very comfortable with you and enjoys being close to you. you can't have sex with someone and not develope some attachments. just enjoy the cuddling time and while your close tell him how important he is to you. he can probably feel that your relationship has taken a turn to something more. i would tell him how i feel personally.
2007-03-16 17:08:58 · answer #7 · answered by misse 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems to me like hes waiting on you. This is how my b/f and i got *started off* we were just friends with benefits then he started doing all these same things you just listed. Now we couldnt b more happy together! and weve been dating for almost a yr now... so good luck! :]
2007-03-16 17:07:10 · answer #8 · answered by just me. (: 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
start saying hay suger. A boy probably dared him to do those things to you. It's what boys do when they like girls usally the girls make the move first. take my advise I have never made the move first.
2007-03-16 17:07:11 · answer #9 · answered by afdsaffadsfafafa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him how you feel but realize that things will have to change from that point on, it will pretty much be all or nothing then.
2007-03-16 17:10:45 · answer #10 · answered by corEy marsh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋