How do I...?

Question

*casually* strike up convo w/ a cute guy if I never see him around (only in the dorms)?

Say I bump into him in the laundry room, how do I get a conversation rolling w/o looking like I'm interested? How about in an elevator? Or waiting in line at the dining hall?
Note that I'm shy and he may be w/ other guy friends at the moment, which makes it more embarrasing (i.e. I may not get the luxury of a perfect-scenario of just the two of us being alone and put in a situation where we're forced to talk).
Even if we just end up friends...
Help? =)

Answer 1

"don't you hate it how these things only takes quarters. I'm always out of them. I wish these things take bills or charge cards."
"crud! you have some spare bleach that I could use? I forgot mine/ran out."
"never tried that kind of drier sheets before. is it good? can I try one?"
"excuse me! do you have change for a dollar for the wash? I ran out/forgot to bring some. I promise to pay you back." Ask him what room he's in and offer to stop by with change after laundry. You've just invited yourself to stop by his place and continue conversing there if you want to.
notice him wash a nice shirt and comments "that shirt looks nice on you."
hold up a shirt and asks "do you think this looks ok on me? I'm not sure I like it now."
"heading out to dinner/class? what class you going to?"
"coming back from dinner/classes?"
"rushing home to watch American Idol/Grey's Anatomy/whatever show is the hit at the time?"
"heading out? I can't wait to go waste my afternoon at the commons."
notice if he's carrying text books. "is that for ? Is that a difficult class? what do you think of the profession?"
"the line is kind of long. wonder if it's faster if I just go elsewhere to eat."
"do you know what the menu is today? I hope it's not that again today."
in a joking manner with your best smile "geez! I'm starved. See if you can hurry up all those people in front of you :)"

Takes a bit of nerve, but breaking the ice is actually the easy part. The hard part is to keep the conversation going. Trying to keep a conversation going without showing interest is next to impossible and won't get anywhere. The whole point of striking up a conversation with a stranger IS because you are interested. He is going to be as nervous/hesitant about it. If you aren't showing some sort of interest either by how you talk or your body language, he is not going to open up and relax, which is what you are trying to get to. So if you are interested in this guy, don't purposely go hiding it. It will just ruin what you are trying to do.

He may have guy friends. Yeah, so what. His guy friends will be impressed by you and at him that you picked him out of a crowd. After you leave, they are going to tease him that he's such a macho/studly man. They will probably talk about you and encourage him to talk to you more if he's single and is interested. So his friends actually may be your allies if you want him for yourself. Be nice to his friends, they might distract you and try to get your attention if things are relaxed. Bring your attention back to the guy you're interested to make it clear in a subtle, but not rude way, that he's the one you are after and his friends will probably fall in line.

Answer 2

Is he in any of your classes? I take it he lives in the same dorm so find something mutual to talk about. The shy thing just doesn't work if you just want to get to know him. Why go through life the next year or more wondering "what if"? You don't have to come off as a slut or anything, just be the person you are. I work at a major university and have many female friends just because they aren't afraid to talk to me and I'm not afraid to talk to them. Notice the key word....FRIENDS. It if goes farther than that some day, so be it. Always best to start as friends first and let the natural progression take over from there.

Answer 3

OH man I know how you feel. I am shy too. Well gosh I don't know what to say, try the bump thingy in the laundry room and then be "waiting in there for your clothes to be done" ,when he comes in either be like oh excuse me or what not, and then drop in a compliment...then ask whats he doing in school ya know...I know it is very hard.

Another option is to see who he hangs out with or talks to(his guy friends) and ask them stuff about him, this might lead to something.
Bottem line is you're gonna have to look like you're kinda interested.

Good luck. =)

Answer 4

-In the elevator- Say "I love this song!" and bust a move.
-In the laundry room-Ask him if he has some laundry detergent you can borrow.
Try to find him when your friends aren't around. Let them know that you want to talk to the guy and tell them to get lost.

Answer 5

At the right moment the covo will just flow.....let him start the convo...play hard to get.

Answer 6

yes

Answer 7

Open your mouth