My youngest daughter who will be 3 in July still thinks she is a baby. She refuses to potty train and is constantly telling us she can't do something because "Me's a baby" as she says. She is the baby of the family. She has a sister who will be 5 on March 26th and a brother who will be 4 in May. Is this normal for her to still want to be a baby and is so how long before she thinks that she is no longer a baby. We used to call her baby girl but we've stopped that since this phase started. What else can we do?? We are desperate!!!!!!!!
2007-03-16 09:49:55 · 13 answers · asked by jgantz07 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Okay mom, calm down. She IS a baby. I get so mad at my daughter for telling her little one she's not a baby. I turned to my grown child and said, you are STILL MY BABY.
Yes, its normal for children to revert back to baby like behaviors occassionally and they honestly do outgrow it. Both of my children went through the same thing and many other women I know say their children all had retroactive behaviors.
Your little girl felt protected and cared for, who wouldn't still want that. We expect kids to have master degrees now before they start kindergarten, the grown-up world is stressful and scary, who wouldn't want to be just "taken care of"?
There is nothing wrong with her. Hold her tight, she won't be your baby for long.
2007-03-16 09:57:30 · answer #1 · answered by LoneStarLou 5 · 2⤊ 3⤋
Try reverse psychology on her. When she wants to do something real bad, tell her only BIG girls can do those things and that if she still thinks she is a baby, she will have to wait until she is a big girl. Also stop doing and have others stop doing things for her that you know she can do on her own. This will force her to understand that if she wants something, she will have to do it on her own. We had some problems with our youngest, also a girl, when she was little. Just don't give in. We had a few fits thrown, but we managed and she stopped saying she was a baby and stopped acting so much like one. Of course she is still in a way a baby, but there are limits to being a baby. Be consistent. Also reward BIG GIRL behavior.
2007-03-16 09:57:38 · answer #2 · answered by mom of 2 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
that's jealousy and sibling opposition. She sees that her new toddler sister is residing along with her Dad each and all the time, and she or he's being pushed out somewhat (i'm presuming that she lives the two finished time with visitation, o section time along with her own mom). At 3, she's sufficiently old to comprehend that she's no longer the centre of interest any extra, yet too youthful to comprehend a thank you to regulate it and talk what she's feeling to you. it fairly is a classic and organic reaction to the creation of a clean sibling and there is little or no you're able to do to restoration it. perhaps purchase her a toy from her toddler sister and pass away it interior the toddler's rocker with the toddler and tell her that her toddler sister desires to be her pal, infants are very materialistic. perhaps do some thing on a common foundation (as quickly as a month) devoid of the toddler to make her experience substantial and specific - a visit to the zoo or the swimming pool/water park, anyplace her conventional place to pass is. do no longer push her into kissing, hugging or sitting next to her sister, it somewhat is putting the emphasis on adverse toddler, naughty woman, rather, perhaps you may ask her to assist replace a diaper, tub her, gown her, and compliment her noticeably for any help she delivers, whether that's only dropping a sock in front of you for the toddler. that's difficult for them to conform with this huge replace, so pass person-friendly on her. It took my son approximately 8 months to conform with having a baby sister, purely for the reason that she began to pass slowly has he started seeing her as a splash guy or woman to play with and not a splash noisy poop device
2016-10-01 00:56:49 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I find with my youngest my older children still treat her like a baby which doesnt help. I have introduced more big girl things for her to do and she has been much better with this. Also the other problemI had with her is a younger cousin she has he is only 18 months so she wants the attentions he gets and reverts back but remining her how big of a girl she is by being able to play big girl games with her big sister helps a lot!
2007-03-16 09:59:59 · answer #4 · answered by Crystal B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep one thing in mind, if you continually tell her she is a "big girl" then when she wants to do big girl things and say big girl things you cannot punish her or tell her she isn't big enough to say or do those things. My suggestion would be that when the family does something i.e. family movie night and she wants to watch tell her she can't and has to go to bed early because she is still a "baby" and babies don't get to stay up with everyone else. If she starts to cry and fuss then tell her she can stay up if she isn't a baby anymore. When you or your older child go to the bathroom be sure to put her in her bed/crib and tell her since she is a baby she has to be in bed while you and/or your older child go to the bathroom, and that when she isn't a "baby" anymore she doesn't have to go to the crib anymore for bathroom breaks. Get the idea..... Good Luck....
2007-03-16 10:01:58 · answer #5 · answered by Scooter Girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a 3 year old daughter that she thought she was a baby for the longest time. what i did to get her to starting she is a big girl was that when we go to the store and she wanted something i would tell her that only big girls get those things baby's cant have them. For the potty training i did the same thing. my daughter loves clothing and i told her that when she starts to go potty on the big potty that she will be able to have those outfits. I tried everything to get her to that point but it just seems like you have to get them to get the mind set that if they want thing they have to be a big kid. Good Luck.
2007-03-16 09:59:02 · answer #6 · answered by FIREFOX 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has gotten used to the idea of being the baby in the family. I have a 1 year old boy and you will be surprise at how good his memory is. Be patient and try to teach her to be independent. And call her big girl! Show her what big girls can do that are fun. And tell her that she can do that because she's a big girl now. I hope this helps! : )
2007-03-23 17:49:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What I have tried with my own and my sister's children is to find something the child really likes to do and tell them if they are a baby then they can't do that anymore. "Babies aren't big enough to watch this movie. Babies aren't big enough to play outside. If you want to do that you have to be a big girl/boy." Usually doesn't take long for them to realize that being a baby is going to limit the fun things they get to do, and then they don't want to be a baby anymore.
2007-03-16 09:55:18 · answer #8 · answered by jimapalooza 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I can tell you how to fix it but you will probably think it is mean. You have to make being a baby a bad thing. You need to take her toys and tell them those toys are for big girls, babies can't go out side and play. things like that if she wants to do the things big girls do then she needs to act like one. if she wants to act like a baby treat her like one. she will give it up in no time.
I thought it was mean my self when I heard my friend was doing this with her 4 year old. But it worked Great. She was potty trained in like two weeks. And she could all the sudden put on her own shoes and feed herself. freaked me out
2007-03-21 16:09:55 · answer #9 · answered by angie 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If she is insisting she is the baby, when she wants big girl things let her know that they are only for big girls. The same with activities. If she wants to be a baby, only let her have the things a baby should have.
2007-03-16 09:58:08 · answer #10 · answered by Jennifer A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋