behind my back while we were supposedly mad at each other. We've been together for 7 years and I would never do that to him, go away without consulting with him first. I'm hurting emotionally and I don't know what to do. Some of the answers I've gotten say, "go away, yourself" but that's not going to cure what I'm feeling in the meantime. He's ruining my spirit since every so often he does things that hurt me like this. I just don't know how to say good-bye to someone I love so much and have invested so much with. He caught me in a lie last year and we had a rough patch in our relationship because of that lie.....so what now?
2007-03-16 09:47:41 · 11 answers · asked by Karen Walker 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Your world shouldnt revolve around him. Have your own set of friends that you can do things with. Its ok for him to go out of town with his friends and not include you but I dont agree with him not letting you know. He doesnt have to get permission but common courtesy would have been for him to let you know prior to making the arrangements. I understand its frustrating but you getting upset about something you cant change wont help. You know him better than anyone. After 7 years you should trust him. Causing fights or arguements will only push him into doing things you dont want him to do. Be nice and make your relationship happy so that when he leaves he will not even think of doing anything bad. Good luck
2007-03-16 09:53:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you married? If not - he gets to go away with the boys - and if he isn't consulting you about it - and you don't like it - you get to leave.
He's only ruining your spirit because you are allowing him to do it.
What's so hurtful about somebody going off with their buddies to have some fun? Don't you ever go off with the girls? Men give each other a different sense of company than what they get from women. And women do the same for each other. I can see nothing wrong with this trip - so I don't know why it's hurtful to you.
Maybe - since you lied and he caught you - you're not feeling like there's a lot of trust in this relationship. Trust is pretty essential. What have you done to earn his trust back?
It doesn't sound like a great relationship. You say that you have invested so much in it. Do you see any signs of it getting better? Say you own a car - and it starts to get old and worn down - so you put some money and effort into it. But after awhile - unless it's working really well - you don't say "Oh! I have to keep it. I've invested so much in it!" No - you don't do that. If it's not working - you get a NEW car. Right? Sorry to compare your man to a car - but the logic is the same. And the equivilant to rebuilding the engine - would probably be counseling. Are both of you up for that?
2007-03-16 10:29:44 · answer #2 · answered by liddabet 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-20 16:46:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, everyone needs their fun time with the guys/girls.... why do you worry so much about it? Do you not trust him while youre not around? If thats the case then you need to find someone you can be comfortable with no matter where thay are and what they are doing and who they are with...thats love! Sure you'll miss him...but, absence makes the heart grow fonder...It'lll be so much better to see each other again when he comes back home to you!! Dont stress it so much, let the man have a break and just have a good time with the guys without you getting on his case.... I understand youre mad that he didnt discuss it with you first, I would be too. But maybe he knew you wouldnt approve so he jsut did it anyway, thinking you will get over it as you did things for the past seven years! Love conquers all!! Good luck
2007-03-16 09:53:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be mature and let him go and have his fun. However, you need to seriously consider if you want to "invest" any more time in this relationship - 7 years and no commitment?? You keep investing time and emotion - what are you getting back?
Unless you started dating in grade school, I have serious questions about the maturity and future prospects of any man who plans a "For the Boys" trip to Cancun during Spring Break.
2007-03-16 09:58:56 · answer #5 · answered by Rachel M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to let go. It seems like the two of you have been rocky for some time, and if he's planning trips without you, then that is not a good sign either. Going away will not fix things. You need to decide for yourself when you're going to say ENOUGH IS ENOUGH, and move on. It will NOT be easy, but it doesnt seem like the relationship is any easier either. I would not tolerate someone doing the things he is doing.
2007-03-16 09:51:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look,,,Cancun and Spring break are just alcohol and wild sex.
No matter what he says
I am Mexican, and we are so disgusted for the horrendous spectacle they make of themselves,,,vomiting, sex all over the place, new college lesbians for the show,,,raunchy and piggy.
and girls act like whores,
it is horrible and degradation.
Dump him.
He will even come back with some sexual diseases.
I mean, he is not going to a club with friends, he is BEHIND YOUR BACK, going to another country in which they are allowed to do things you cant do in your country.
WAKE UP!
2007-03-16 10:25:13 · answer #7 · answered by monis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you shouldn't try to control him because it will make him want to do it even more. Sounds like there is no trust in your relationship, on either end. While he is gone, don't sit around waiting, live your life. And don't torture yourself worrying either.
also, the fact that he didn't want you to go on the trip is a RED FLAG.
2007-03-16 09:55:47 · answer #8 · answered by dynamicduo79 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he is getting even with you for your lie,
you are stressing about it too much,, I would let him have his fun, ( why are you not going to cancun)
and see where it leads to, you should look to see if you see yourself with this guy next year,
2007-03-16 09:51:46 · answer #9 · answered by rich2481 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grow up
2007-03-16 09:50:13 · answer #10 · answered by troble # one? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋