How is that not negative? My mom is a Christian and believes things of me. I told her that her negative opinions of me are wearing off on my kids and that she needs to keep her distance. She is very hurt as she doesn't think she 'says' anything about her beliefs and doesn't have a negative point of view... just a truthful one. She doesn't have to say anything.. her beliefs show very well without words.
How is believing these things about me NOT negative.. I just don't understand how she can't see that is insutling to me and was affecting my children and their view of their own life and mother?
And how can she tell me she IS proud of me that she DOES love me 'more then words can say' and yet not be able to deny that she believes the above things? I don't get it...
2007-03-16 09:46:11 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
MAJOR intervention here! you need to start some dialogue here. FIRST those are YOUR kids, and you have a right to say to them whatever you want! not her! and you can not allow her to have the last word. this may offend her christian sensibilities but tough! let's say she says something outloud that you think is critical. then you say OUTLOUD, kids can you go to your room. grandma is insulting mommy right now and I (this shows that you are in control) will NOT (say this word loudly) put with it. ok? go! and they will be programmed to understand grandma is out of line, not you for defending yourself. then you can turn to your mother, who should be ambarrassed by now and say, as you were saying mom? if she is speechless or finishes what she was saying, i assure she will then defend herself, feeling a bit defensive for you removing the kids. but you say, "NO mom, those are my kids and i will NEVER let them hear ANYONE including their grandmother for talk bad about me. and trust me mom, those are my children. i have no problem and every right to sit them down and explain how "wrong" and "rude" grandma is. you are JUST a grandmother, i am the MOTHER. i out rank you in this! so if you want the kids to ONLY hear how bad grandma is then keep this up. but i assure you they will NEVER hear anything bad about me." you can do it!! just be strong and be in complete CONTROL! her words will effect the most important relationship you have right now and that is with you and the kids! good luck girl!!
2007-03-16 12:33:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me that you have a lot of issues with your mom, besides the fact that she is a Christian. You have to learn to not listen to everything they say. Just smile and move on. Moms are moms and will continually give opinions verbally or otherwise for the rest of their lives. I just ignore her when she is wrong. Good luck
2007-03-16 09:52:26 · answer #2 · answered by lynjen31 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well it sounds to me that your mom is giving christians a bad name. We don't normally tear people up like this. I am sure that she is saying the things that she is saying because she is worried about you but in defence of Christians we don't attack.
I think that she is just worried and doens't know how to help you; if you need help at all. Sometimes mom's do what they think is helping but it is hurtful. Tell her that you love her but if she is trying to get through to you that she is going about it all wrong.
2007-03-16 09:52:09 · answer #3 · answered by The Voice Of Reason 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-26 00:27:59 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's following the examples in the Old Testament. Stephen King couldn't write something as scary as that book.
2007-03-16 09:50:42 · answer #5 · answered by S K 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
She DOES love you,
she's NOT perfect,
you CAN'T change her,
that said.....control your anger and unless she's disparaging you in front of your kids..well just ignore her.
If your kids are present while she says "you're going to hell" then I wouldn't take them back to see grandma until she acknowledges she needs to tone down on being Judge Judy.
2007-03-16 09:51:24 · answer #6 · answered by LIVINGmylife 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok, it's one thing if some anonymous stranger on answers thinks you're going to hell and voices their opinion, but if your own mother, someone you usually HAVE to deal with does it and won't stop, you HAVE to distance yourself from her until she does. tell her she hurts you and hurts your children and that you cannot allow yourself to be subjected to it any longer, then don't call, don't write, and wait for her to shape up. if she doesn't, that's sad for all involved, but better than suffering her judging.
2007-03-16 09:55:59 · answer #7 · answered by elfkin, attention whore 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She is being negative. You might point out to her that God is the only judge and she might want to review Matthew 7:1-5.
2007-03-16 09:49:40 · answer #8 · answered by Purdey EP 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Get the most out of life now for without Christ this is as good as it gets for the next life is in hell.
2007-03-16 09:50:41 · answer #9 · answered by Tribble Macher 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds pretty negative to me. It's sad to see what religion does to people.
2007-03-16 09:49:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 2⤋