custody, kids, family, ex-boyfriend
2007-03-16 09:42:18 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have dated my girl friend for about 7 months now and our relationship seems promising.
However, there is one obstacle. We both have 2 kids and are no longer with our ex. I have primary custody of my 2 kids while she and her ex agreed to split the 2 kids they have together.
It was her own decision to split her own kids. Her family is now nagging her about giving up her kids to be with me. They have not known the real truth that is was her decision.
The kid that she gave up is her son who just turn 5 years old. She has no baby sitter. Her own family would not even baby sit for her, only when she has to go to work. The kid has a short temper and no one in her family want to watch him, but they love him.
It seems to me they want to tie her son down to her.
Together we have 4 kids if she had her son. 3 kids is already too much to handle. I work and go to school full time. She does the same. We both are rarely home.
What should i do? I can not handle 4 kids.
2007-03-16 09:53:42 · update #1
The boy has a short temper and decipline issue. He yells and scream at your face if he does not get it his way. It happen to me once already. I did not know what to do. It is not my kid nor does my girl friend has full custody of him. I am afraid if i were to try to descipline him, my girl friends ex will make it an issue.
I do not want this mess. I am thinking about calling it quit with my girl friend and have her sort this out with her family and her ex for good.
Is this a good idea?
2007-03-16 10:05:23 · update #2
She does not spend that much time with her ex. The reason why she left her ex was because he was a bum and a loser who did nothing not even watching his own kids. The guy cheated on her several times even during her labor of her son while she was in the hospital.
She was fed up with it and finally call it quit.
Now, he seems like he had turn himself around. He is now working steadily and taking good care of his son.
The biggest fear i got is that, if we were to one day have an argument, she can easily leave me and go back with her ex.
I do not want to take that risk.
2007-03-16 10:11:53 · update #3
How complicated a relationship are YOU ready to handle?
If your girlfriend has custody issues for current children and an ex-boyfriend who may or may not be the father of the child or children involved, it can create collateral issues for YOU to deal with if you become part of the mess.
If you have children with her, it will also complicate the issue.
I would take a time out until the custodial arrangements and ex-boyfriend issue are taken care of or are off the table.
otherwise, steer clear. you are setting yourself up for headaches.
2007-03-16 09:48:11 · answer #1 · answered by stonechic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that if you really like her you will not let any thing come between you two. And what type of things with her Ex- ?! Is he getting alot of time with her that should for you because they are still Friends?! If so I think that you should tell her how you feel and have her say " look we need to cut back on Conversations because that is perish time that is for my BF". And family well thats some thing Your Going to have to deal with. Sorry>
2007-03-16 10:04:26 · answer #2 · answered by priese 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-03-16 09:47:04 · answer #3 · answered by PriNceSz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋