Girls, I need your help?

Question

I need an answer from the girls only please.
Girls, if a friend of yours (male) told you that he loves you so much and you were in a relationship already, what would your reaction be and what would you do about that situation?

Thanks,

Answer 1

It would depend on how much she likes you and how much she likes hey boyfriend

Answer 2

This happened to me when I told my friends I was getting married. That was 8 years ago. This was the only person that tried to talk me out of getting married. I don't know. I didn't do anything about that. I just told him that I was going to marry the guy I was engaged to and that maybe he's just having these feelings cause he had just gotten out of a relationship that went bad and previous to his crappy relationship he and I were really close. Almost inseparable. I wonder sometimes now how things would have turned out if I hadn't married the guy I married. I mean, he and I got divorced 4 years ago after a 6 year relationship. I don't know.
I say if you love the person you are with and they love you then you owe it to them to stay in that relationship if you are happy. Otherwise if things aren't going well and you were already thinking of breaking up anyway, then go for the good male friend you have. He probably knows you better anyway and lots of times people who are friends first have a totally awesome dating relationship.

Answer 3

oh you've got it bad. Is she in love with her man or is she already looking for a way out. If she is happy then your confession will only cause heartbreak for both of you. Once you spill those beans she will no longer see you as a friend - you've just changed the rules. That could threaten the friendship. If you must tell her be sure that she feels the same way too. If I were you don't tell her - you'll get hurt and she will feel betrayed.Sorry probably not what you wanted to hear but what in your heart you already knew x

Answer 4

First id be flattered as it may have taken a lot of guts to tell me so i wouldn't take the micky however it i was in a relationship i would have to lay down some rules about behaviour. i would probably say that i love them back but as a close Friend and that they were not to take this in a negative way as this means that there will always be something special even in times of crisis and even though right at the time of this chat he would not feel that great i would do my very best to make him feel at ease...i would also keep what he had said to my self as u never know things may turn out differently

Answer 5

Been there. Done that. The response to the male friend is dependent upon one of two things: my feelings for the person with whom I'm in the relationship and/or whether I have feelings for my friend that are more than platonic. If I don't have any romantic feelings towards my friend whatsoever, I will try to let him down as gently as possible because, regardless of my non-romantic feelings, I wouldn't want to see my friend get hurt -- especially by me. He's a friend and I would want to preserve the friendship.This is going to happen regardless of whether or not I'm happy in my current relationship.

If I am happily involved, however, and have no intention of ending my relationship, I would not only make it very well known to my friend but I would ask that he respect my feelings about him and my relationship. That might mean giving each other space but this would have to be a decision between friends. Nonetheless, I would hope that my boyfriend would understand my need to preserve my friendship and wouldn't pressure me into ending my friendship as "proof of my commitment". Once that happens, this becomes a different ballgame because I would interpret such a request as not only my boyfriend not trusting me and our relationship but his trying to control me. If this is what's happening, you are needlessly adding a level of drama that doesn't need to exist.

The bottomline is this: If you have to question your commitment and the state of your relationship, in the end, does it really matter who declared their feelings to whom?

Answer 6

Most of the time girls already know our guy friends have "feelings" for us-or some sort of attraction. If that is not the case, usually shock! It takes a few days to sink in, then try to figure out "love me, how?-like a friend, g/f, mother, sister, WIFE???" If my feelings were the same, I would probably jump at it!

Answer 7

If we were already dating, I'd be cool about it. If we were just good friends, I would most likely date him unless I was in a relationship already. It depends about your feelings, so rely on them.
I'd be cool anyway as that is the type of person I am but act the way you feel you should act and as I said, rely on your deepest feelings so that you can make the right decisions.

Answer 8

My best m8 & I woz cool, til he got serious with another girl while flatsharing with me, then I became THE WORST GREEN EYED MONSTER EVER & that was how I realised my feelings for him were too strong. So I told him how I thought I felt, though he'd spent the previous 3hrs telling me how in love with this other girl he was, though they'd never met & only chatted on line for a month, & he laughed & changed the subject (back to her), but now we're cool, I'v hel;ped him through her decideding she dosen't want to talk to him any more, & turned my attentions elsewhere.

Answer 9

i have a male friend who fancies me but has never done anything about it. he never told me how he felt because i was in a relationship, but to me it was obvious. if he did tell me how he felt then i would talk to him about it,, way up my feeling and decide on what i would do.. it would be a little strange to go back to what we were once it had been said though, so be careful.. think does she already know without you saying anything and do you think she would feel the same way?

Answer 10

If I were happy in my relationship and in love with the man I am with then I would say, "I'm sorry but I don't feel the same."

But If I shared my feelings with my friend then I would talk to him about it. Break up with my bf and take it slow. I wouldn't want to jump from one relationship to another. I would just wait things out.

Good Luck! ;-)

Answer 11

it would really depend on whether

1) i was in love with my fella
2) i had feelings for you

i did this with a bloke friend of mine who was in a relationship. He was flattered.....(yeah you guessed it) but he stayed with his girlfirend. Stupid thing is, before he got with this girl he told me he wanted a relationship with me, but i knocked him back! goes to show what a nice bloke he is really, obviously very loyal to stay with his girlfriend. Who may i add is very, very ugly.

Anyways, just be prepared for the answer you dont want to hear, and then everything is a bonus!!
You cant keep your feelings bottled up.
Good Luck x