My bf broke up with me because he said he wasn't falling in love with me, and felt he should be. (We dated just 5 months). However, I think that he may have jumped into a relationship too soon after his divorce...(just a few months before we started dating.) We literally were perfect together. Lots of respect, passion, and fun. It wasn't hard to fall for him, but I'd been single for about 8 years!
Part of me thinks that I should let him get his head on straight, do some healing, and then maybe he will allow himself to have feelings for me. All of our mutual friends, my family and his, says "just be patient...he needs time to heal. He really cares about you, etc."
So, when does it go from being romantically waiting for someone you think is the "one", to just being desperate and not giving up on someone who broke up with you?
2007-03-16 09:34:45 · 6 answers · asked by loves2sing 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Add'l notes: -Although he is mature for his age, he's just 24 and I'm 30; He found out a few weeks before we broke up that his ex-wife (who cheated) got engaged to the guy she cheated with, he is a man of deep faith- who truly wants to do the best thing for all concerned...and his fear from the beginning of our relationship was that I was going to be ready for marriage and settling down before he was again...and that he would be wasting my time or that I could potentially miss out on someone that would be ready while I was waiting for him
2007-03-16 09:38:13 · update #1
Um...."no" doesn't exactly answer this question.
2007-03-16 09:40:50 · update #2
If you really care about him I would give him time. It sounds like you have something special with him, and you dont want to lose that. However you might be waiting a while and you need to consider yourself. It sounds Cliche but Follow your heart. Do what you think is right.
2007-03-16 09:41:25 · answer #1 · answered by jesssikahhh_x3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There could be other issues concerning his breakup with you. I would consider moving on and if He has true love for you, he will come around but realize that you are in it for the long haul and if he is not don't let him use you and then you find out later his love was really never there. If a man truly loves you, there is no way on God's green earth that he would ever leave you or hurt you.
2007-03-16 16:43:47 · answer #2 · answered by *DestinyPrince* 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you wait a year, it's too long. other than that, it's ok to wait for a while. after a divorce, it's true that people need some time to collect their balls that their wife probably removed during the marriage.give him a few months, then move on.
2007-03-16 16:40:27 · answer #3 · answered by Pyromaniac 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't
2007-03-16 16:40:37 · answer #4 · answered by Village Player 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, if it cant work conveniently, dont harm your heart over it.
2007-03-16 16:44:10 · answer #5 · answered by LoneWolf8003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no
2007-03-16 16:39:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋