ok here's my situation.One is 44 and married and the other is 18 and single.Both are hotties and good friends with each other.Both want me and already asked me for a threesome.I am already in a committed relationship with another great girl (outside of work)who wants to not have sex until marriage.I am ok with that since that is the way she was brought up and she is a very loving and giving person to me.If I decide to go ahead with the threesome I am worried about the possible implications it might have since I am well respected at work(both like to spread gossip).I also don't want to hurt my loved one although there is no way she would ever find out about this.I know this is every guys fantasy and the thought of it keeps racing in my mind.What do I do?
2007-03-16 09:33:03 · 25 answers · asked by one_man_gang2010 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
OK dude here is the truth about this situation ya got.
Yes threesomes are hott there is no doubt about it. On the other hand it sounds like you got a good thing going with a great girl and that is hard to find. Oh and most important of all anytime you say things like "There is no possible way she would ever find out" Guess what... she dose. Long story short if you do it brace for the worst and live with your decision. Or play it safe and stick with what you got and be the one good guy to that girl that deserves you.
Good Luck
2007-03-16 09:47:59 · answer #1 · answered by omenus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand that it is every man's fantasy to engage in a threesome with attractive, barely-legal coworkers, but you must also consider the implications of doing so:
1) You would most likely lose the respect of many of your co-workers by participating in this act. If the girls ever earn a promotion, it will be because they slept with a senior executive... You will be thought of as a merchant who trades job-success for sexual intercourse. Is this the kind of reputation you want to have at your workplace?
2) If you are truly considering marrying this women, then you must also consider the consequences of cheating on her. Meaning that, if you were to indulge in this threesome right now, what makes you so certain that you will not be tempted to do so again (next time, however, when you ARE in a married setting). You have got to treat this like a test! If you cheat on her now, it'll be just as bad as cheating on her three years into the marriage. What's more important to you: a fantasy or a happy life with a woman you have fallen in love with?
3) Lastly, ask yourself what these younger, attractive girls would do if they ever got mad at you. Is there the possibility of blackmail? Can they ever use this act to get back at your for something you did that they didn't quite approve of (such as telling your boss and costing you your job, or telling your girlfriend and costing you a very promising relationship)?
Granted, none of this stuff will probably never happen, but it's all a matter of ethics man... Sure, nobody won't ever find out about what you've done with these women, but that shouldn't matter. In the end, the question you should be asking is, "Would this be fair to the women I love?"
2007-03-16 09:52:16 · answer #2 · answered by semper_fi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DON'T DO IT!!!!! It will only land you in loads of trouble with everyone. First of all, the first woman is 44 years old!! And married!!! Stay away from that, man. Plus, you are in a committed relationship with the woman you love. Why jeopardize that relationship by having sex by two gossip-spreading, cheating fools? Your girlfriend sounds pretty smart for wanting to wait until marriage for sex, so using her thinker, she'll probably figure out that you are cheating. Because if you go through with this, that is exactly what you'll be doing..cheating. Just use your brain, don't risk it. Stick with your girl and forget those trashy chicks. I'm only 16, but it's common sense on what to do here.
2007-03-16 09:51:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If these girls like to gossip - its only a matter of time til your girl finds out. Don't make the mistake of thinking she won't.
If you are well respected at your work - and these girls like to gossip, it could very well hurt your reputation.
I understand it sounds tempting - but think about the future and what you really want for your life.
You can always use the fantasy as good masturbation inspiration. The reality is not always as nice. Sure it is every guys fantasy, but a lot of guys spend the rest of their lives trying to forget what they did.
2007-03-16 09:40:45 · answer #4 · answered by beach 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I guess the fact that you wrote this means you are considering it. She won't find out. Famous last words. What is to say that one of the girls won't tell someone else. Then they tell someone and so on. Besides, if as you say, you are in a committed relationship; what do you think that committed means. Plus there are other reasons not to do this, like sexually transmitted diseases, and possibility of pregnancy. You have to decide what it is that you want. If these other gals live in the same town, wow. Ya know you'll do it again.
2007-03-16 09:50:36 · answer #5 · answered by peach 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should save your g/f from the heartbreak that your gonna put on her in the long run even if you dont do this now i think you will break her heart anyway considering your even thinking about it tells me you dont love her at all. and the 44 year old is married so your not only hurting the one your w/ but your also hurting her husband. havent you ever heard of stds? if they are wanting to have a 3 some evidentally they are whores and you dont know what they got, is that fair to your g/f that wants to wait tell marriage to have sex?? what if that time comes and she gets a disease just from having sex w/ you and only you all her life. that would really be mean of you!! in the long run i think you would regret it if you did it. but if you do break up w/ your g/f first!
2007-03-16 09:52:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you serious? Having a threesome is the wrong thing to do. You would be cheating on your girlfriend (who sounds wonderful btw) and while you may end up living out a fantasy, you may lose the woman who might one day be the mother of your children.
Even if she doesn't find out you''ll have to live with it for the rest of your life.
Plus these chicks sound trashy and you might get something from them and everyone you work with will find out.
It seems like an easy choice to me
2007-03-16 09:38:24 · answer #7 · answered by duvalicious 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You think your girlfriend will not find out- everything in this world at one point or another is known, what goes around comes around- You even say these women at work like to gossip- so who tells you words won't spread around inside your work space and out.
So walk on glass- be very careful with your decisions ,only you will pay the consequences.
2007-03-16 09:42:33 · answer #8 · answered by Taz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Three can keep a secret if two of the are dead" Thomas Jefferson.
Now I do not recommend killing them off, there is always a way your Girlfriend could find out. Nice fantasy but keep it in your pant if you want every one to keep respecting you.
Politely tell the ladies at work you just couldn't do that to your girlfriend and they will respect you even more. They may tease you but they will respect you.
2007-03-16 09:43:28 · answer #9 · answered by Alan W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love your gf that you have right now you woudlnt even be thinking about going off and having a 3way with those 2 ladies. especially when the one is married! Maybe when you and her are married or whatever talk to her about it, and if she says no, well drop the subject and go on with the rest of you life.
2007-03-16 09:52:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋