family troubles?

Question

b4 we meet i liked going out , quite often single no ties just work, i took on his kid from birth, as the mother didnt bother, but now i feel like im just a boring parent doing the same things day in day out with nothing to show for it i gave up my work so i could care for the kid now im bored .. i love them both but hey im 19 not 61 if i asked my bf to go out he say nto without me .. please help i just need someone to talk to

Answer 1

honey im in kinda of a similar situation but thankfully my boyfriend has realised he cant walk all over me anymore. he had some trouble with his ex girlfriend and apparently that was where his jealousy, inability to go out without him and general pig headedness came from. But like i said, we're over that now. You've given up so much for this man, who you obviously adore, its no wonder that you've come to the decision that you want some of your old life back. Its unfair of him to expect you to only go out with him. He needs to understand that you can still be a mum for his child but it would make you a lot happier if you could do some normal teenage stuff! coz at the end of the day you are so young. probably a bit too young to have taken this on to be totally honest. thats not to say your doing an excellent job but think of all those years you missed out on! You need a serious chat with him. If he still cant understand where you are coming from you need to be really strong and do something about it. if nothing changes then whats the point anyway? being in a relationship where you have to run everything by the man?! whatever next. remember women are the superior sex !!!! good luck with everything x

Answer 2

You sound lonely and isolated. :-( It was very kind of you to help so much with the child, but this is ridiculous; you have no life of your own and everyone needs a break now and then!!! If your bf won't let you go out without him, that's not good at all. I personally could never live like that!

You have to talk to him and let him know that this is all too much for you. If he can't compromise then consider leaving. You aren't married and this is not your child.

Good luck!

Answer 3

Honey, sounds like this geezer wants a housekeeper, babysitter, cleaner but not good enough to be seen in public with? Sweetheart, wake up, BIN him, walk with yer head held high, most of all, yer only 19, you've got lots of life to enjoy, get yer party shoes on and get on with it. Good luck. x

Answer 4

taking on this child is a compassionate and wonderful thing to do, but at your age and with no support from the childs father it is ruining your life. i think you have done more than could be expected of anyone to do. if you were to take care of yourself now, no one would think any the worse of you for it. i think you should let the child be with his dad for a while and you go off and live your life. you deserve it.

Answer 5

19 years old, you need to pursue your passion in life whatever that may be. Discuss the way you feel with your boyfriend, if he really cares about you he will be understanding about the situation and support your desires.

Answer 6

You could leave , maybe you will find the kind of life you dream about , but hears the thing you took on a commitment and if you leave you take with you that failure , it could be better if you go but it could be better if you stay and try harder

Answer 7

Hey, this is not your child so why are shouldering all the responsibility? Some yes, not all!
Sorry but your bf sounds like a lazy...

Answer 8

19 and strapped down already....sad, sad situation...b/f?..hmmmmm sounds like you could walk away from this without looking back.....no divorce crap to deal with....hmmmmm....its your life and choice.....good luck...