someone plz help me feel better, i'm dying here?

Question

i have a boyfriend that recently asked me if i would marry him, and a boy friend that he lives in another city, but is coming to my city soon. i was telling my boyfriend that i have such friend and he's coming here soon, and he asked me to cut the relationship with him cuz as i dont like him with other girls, he doesnt me to have boy friends either. and since i love him so much and respect him wishes, i wrote my friend that i have to cut it with him. i did think he would be angry but i thought he'd forget. instead i got an email from him reminding me that we promised to be faithful friends and that the whole reason of his coming was me, that he wanted to propose to me for marriage. i'm really stuck here, and hurt too. cuz i didnt want to hurt his feelings and i really didnt know he wanted me for marriage too. and i'm here hurting everyone's feelings including my own. help me plz

one is my b/f and one's my guy friend not another boyfriend!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 1

Being a mature person means to be able to make decisions that are right for you even at the cost of someone getting hurt. You should have thought about this from the beginning when you somehow got lost in your willing to please both guys and this led to misunderstandings now. Being upfront is the best policy, as now you can see what happens when you are not. If you love your boyfriend and are willing to make a future with him then you need to be honest with your guy friend. If he has a problem with just being your friend then you have to tell him that your boyfriend is your first priority. If you are not sure and continue to be wishy washy, then this is an indication of you not being ready to take that step to being committed by marriage. Either way, I do wish the best for you!

Answer 2

When my mother met my father, she got engaged to him in 4 days.

This is even though:

1. She was engaged to another guy at the time.
2. A second guy kind of thought she was engaged to him.

So you're not the first woman to screw up like this.

Obviously, you were kidding yourself about the nature of the relationship with the out-of-town guy. On the other hand, he was kidding too, by hiding his intentions.

So, start by apologizing profusely for the misunderstanding.

Then think about which one you really want to marry.

Answer 3

First you need Jesus in your life trust me it will makes things alot better in many ways. But then u still have to tell your friend that u can't be friends with him anymore because your getting married unless u talk to your fiance and work something out with him. like he can have friends and you can have friends but if not then u should really cut off ur friend i know it hurts cause i went through something very similar but if your going to be with this guy forever i think u should respect him.

Answer 4

First of all relax don't stress second figure out which boy u like better and go with him. If that doesn't work dump them both and start over

Answer 5

well depending on which one you think will like you more and the one you like the most compare the two you know pros and cons make a list that is what i did. if it was up to ma i would go with the one who will marry you just because he is showing more of a commitment

Answer 6

When you play two guys that love you it always ends this way, time to pay the piper. You need to pick th one you love and drop the other before you lose them both, if it's not to late.

Answer 7

there are no two ways about this, you'll either hurt one of them, or let go of two of them wich is more painfull. You cant eat your cake and have it. Think, and try to figure who is right for you or if giving both of them up is the best.

Answer 8

you shouldent have 2 bf's in the first place

Answer 9

what? sounds to me like you are really young. dump them both, move on, build a life by yourself, them meet someone.

Answer 10

y do u have 2 b/fs