childhood friend of mine invited me to her birthday party at this popular comedy club here in town.And I hadn't seen here in like about a year and a half,and when I seen her, there was no hugs, and not even a smile, when she seen me she said "Oh hey' then sort of walked off, so I'm like well maybe she's got alot on her mind because she was the hostess.But once she was finished with getting everything situated..she sat next to me..and she never really spoke to me the entire time..She conversated with people around me..but not really to me..Plus after the show ended,..she walked off,..and I yelled bye see you later..and she came back and gave me hug..and said okay take care ..plus on top of that after I seen her that day..she hasn't invited me to any of her parties... .so I'm a little confused about here behavior..I know noone can read minds but what would you think if someone you had grown up with did something like that to you..?
2007-03-16 09:30:05 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Sometimes people grow apart for a while. I have a friend that was my best friend all through high school, and then we drifted away because she was acting like your friend. We are good friends now, but we didnt really speak to each other for about 8 years before that. She may have been having a bad night, she might have had a problem with something you did or said. This is hard to answer on YA, because of course, we dont know you or her. You should try talking to her, and asking her whats going. She will probably give you an explanation that makes everything ok. If not, then give her a little space, she may need it.
2007-03-16 09:39:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Best policy is to ask her face to face why she is acting this way. If she doesn't give you a good answer, then walk away. There is no reason for someone who is considered a friend to treat you that way.
There is enough stress in everyday life to deal with...your friends are supposed to help you with life and be uplifting to your spirit..not a burden for your shoulders to carry.
You sound like a wonderful person who has a great personality and is a nurturing soul. This is great in general (you care for people, can sense when something is amiss and are a perpetual shoulder to lean on) and bad specifically because you will give people more chances than they deserve and are loyal to a fault.
My best friend and I are both nurturing souls and one thing that we have come to understand over the decades is that some people in this world do not care about other people or their feelings & those type of people should be avoided at all costs.
So, after giving you more information than you probably wanted, I would suggest that you give her one more try to become the friend she should be; or move on and find another soul who will appreciate you and treat you with the respect you deserve.
Good luck and God bless, sister!
2007-03-16 16:53:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simply call her up, thank her for the evening at the comedy club, let her know that you enjoyed the show.
Then let her know how you feel. Tell her that you sensed that something was off, that you felt she was somewhat aloof. Ask her if it was something you did or said. This will open the door to a conversation.
The behavior is odd, but if you want to know why, you have to ask her. Good luck.
2007-03-16 16:44:08 · answer #3 · answered by aivilo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She seems a little immature. But I would let it go. Call her sometime to meet for lunch if you would like to keep the friendship. Some people you just can't figure out.
2007-03-16 16:40:58 · answer #4 · answered by Proud Nana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you say you haven't seen her in about a year right? its sad but maybe you two have like grown apart or something. maybe you can try calling her and talking to her about it...or perhaps just ask to hang out and try to have a fun time. she can't just talk to you, you have to talk to her also. well i know i'm not great at this stuff but i hope i helped somehow.
good luck
2007-03-16 16:41:07 · answer #5 · answered by shelby! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it seems like she was waiting for you to say something. Does she think you should apologise for something? She obviously thought she was making the first move by inviting you....then waited for your move by sitting with you quiet. Maybe she is waiting for you to make the next arrangements like calling her up for coffe....do it and find out what s in her mind...she obviously cant vocalize it properly.
2007-03-16 21:55:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe there was a rumor she heard...for instance...maybe someone told her somthing about u and now she's skeptical...what i would do is call her up and have a nice chat and maybe tell her how u feel, it could fix everything or you might find out that she's not a real friend and you shouldnt bother with her anyways
2007-03-16 16:41:10 · answer #7 · answered by iam2cool4u 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can try inviting her to lunch or something and see how she responds to you. The friendship may be over. Sorry.
2007-03-16 16:58:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You called her a "childhood friend". Maybe that is the full extent of it. Sorry.
2007-03-16 16:38:39 · answer #9 · answered by steve.c_50 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
GO BY HER FEELINGS
2007-03-20 07:11:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋