please give details i need to know i am getting stupid i have reasons to believe that this is a set up to get him to meet other girls his people don't swallow me to well
2007-03-16 09:29:40 · 23 answers · asked by k w 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
You asked this question already. What the hell is wrong with you? Stop being insecure before he notices that and leave you. Grow up!!!!!!!!!!
2007-03-16 09:36:05 · answer #1 · answered by svictor24 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
You're Paranoid. I highly doubt your boyfriend was picked to be in someones wedding, just so he can meet other girls. You're not in the wedding, b/c you probably don't know the bride and groom well enough. Don't be jealous, that's just crazy.
Just relax. Plus, he'll be so busy w/ wedding details that he won't have time to find someone else. Once the actual ceremony and pictures are done at a wedding, the wedding party is free for the rest of the night. So, you'll be with him at the reception.
Why are you worried he is going to meet other girls. If you had a solid relationship, you won't worry at all about cheating.
2007-03-16 16:37:32 · answer #2 · answered by Answer Girl 2007 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband is going to be a groomsmen at our friends wedding and Im not part of the wedding.. and I dont have a problem with it. I cant wait to see him in a tux again!!!
I have to agree with Krissy, Im sure I might be a little jealous for a minute (mainly because the girl he is walking with is a size 2 and Ill be 7 months pregnant then, but I know he'll be looking forward to it being over and being by my side again. Its only a minute, he probebly spends more time standing in line next to other girls at the bank than he will in the wedding!
2007-03-16 19:40:31 · answer #3 · answered by Kristin Pregnant with #4 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You mean your boyfriend has been selected to be a groomsman, and you weren't selected as a bridesmaid? That is perfectly normal, dear, nothing to freak out about, and in no way an insult to you. The bride and groom select their closest friends and family members as their bridal court/party - significant others of the bridesmaids and groomsmen are usually invited to the ceremony and/or reception, but are not typically invited as additional bridesmaids/groomsmen.
There is no reason for you to get mad here unless you were not invited to the wedding - presumably your boyfriend received an invite that said "John Smith and guest", and you would be his guest. I don't know what evidence you have for his people not liking you, but being easily offended by imaginary slights will not help things, either, so calm down.
2007-03-16 16:51:29 · answer #4 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you should not be upset!! It happens all the time. I had bridesmaids at my wedding and their husbands were just guests. It is a 2 min walk down the aisle and maybe a bridal party dance. If you are really that insecure in your relationship thinking that spending 5 minutes with another woman in your presence will cause him to leave you then maybe you need to think about whether this relationship is worth being in.
2007-03-16 16:47:21 · answer #5 · answered by Ladybugs77 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been in this situation and the guy as a loser I did go to the wedding but he still ended uphooking up with a girl in the wedding party at a later date. Could be nothing at the same time
2007-03-16 18:12:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's extremely immature. That tells me that you have no self confidence, you are jealous, and that their are problems in your marriage. It seems that you are scared that if your husband spends ANY time with a female, he is going to leave you, so you try to keep him on lock down. That's because you have low self esteem. If you are that insecure in your marriage, get out. Or maybe he's cheated on you in the past and you are afraid it will happen again. If that is the case, you should probably leave him, but what can he possibly do with the girl he is walking with? Feel her up while everyone is watching? You need to get to the real problem in your marriage. This seems like a symptom of a bigger problem and you need to find out whats really bugging you.
2007-03-16 17:25:17 · answer #7 · answered by Kristy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most likely they simply are not as close with you or do not have a family bind. I have been a bridesmaid at for different weddings that my man was not a part of and he has been best man at one that I was not a part of. Do not take it as an insult, in fact be relieved that you do not have to deal with all of the wedding day trials and terrors. Just go and have fun.
2007-03-16 16:41:42 · answer #8 · answered by Lillianne 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you shouldnt be upset. I can see you have never walked in a wedding before.
He will spend about all of 5 minutes with this girl. THATS IT. He will walk down the aisle with her after they are pronounced husband and wife, then he will stand next to her for about 5 pictures. THATS IT. His duties are over and he can return to you. The groomsmen do absolutely nothing with the bridesmaids, I promise.
You gotta get a grip.
2007-03-16 16:40:55 · answer #9 · answered by kateqd30 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
So hes in the wedding court and your not? Its fine its not like he has to be with the wedding court the whole time. You will still see each other that night.
2007-03-16 16:40:46 · answer #10 · answered by fireworksncastles 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say there is no reason to be mad, if he's walking down in another person's wedding that means that he's just doing something a friend asked. He will be your date after the ceremony itself. Don't take it the wrong way when someone asks him and not you.
Good Luck
2007-03-16 16:55:11 · answer #11 · answered by WI Wedding Lady 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋