My current girlfriend, and I have been dating for 6 months. I have had herpes for about 20 years, and I know when I have out breaks, so I can hide it from people that I date. I don't have unprotected sex since I found out. My new girlfriend hates condoms, and we have been sexual active without protection. She has notice something small on herself in the female area. Do you think she will run away if i tell her?
2007-03-16 09:24:44 · 16 answers · asked by Dr. Richard Fitzwell 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell her you went to the doctor and had some problems...tell her he ran some tests and you just got the results back. Then tell her you found out that you had herpes.
I would tell her that you didn't have any problems before you met her, then I would tell her that you had to get it from her. I would give her a guilt trip and blame everything on her...tell her it must have been how she was raised, and that you can't believe she would get intimate with you and not tell you that she had this problem.
That should prompt her to get tested, then she will probably believe that she gave it to you and feel bad. If she thinks she gave it to you, she will probably feel real bad and not leave you.
2007-03-19 09:41:47 · answer #1 · answered by Mr. Ed 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-05-14 21:09:54 · answer #2 · answered by Jean 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh Gosh.
Well, I'm not in the same situation as you... since I am young and single... But I am extremely mature for my age... so here it goes:
If she REALLY loves you, she'll stay, no doubt. Obviously your older than twenty... so I'm not sure if you are considering marriage in the future.
If you really want to wait and tell her, get her into a longer-term relationship (possibly engagement or marriage) then you could tell her. But it's probably better to have a good and honest relationship.
And from what I know, herpes cannot kill you. So, it's not a completely major thing.
Hope I helped!
2007-03-16 09:39:20 · answer #3 · answered by Orange Lipbalm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW- and everyone is always getting mad at me for saying WAIT UNTIL YOU ARE MARRIED TO HAVE SEX! Here is yet ANOTHER reason WHY YOU SHOULD WAIT!!! Now to the horses a*s that asked this question- You should have told her before you had sex with her. Now you have given her a disease that has no cure before she even had a chance to make an informed decision! She has to take responsibility as well for having unprotected sex with someone she didn't know had an STD. Stop getting mad at my response to these questions people! The proof is in the pudding!!
2007-03-16 09:35:09 · answer #4 · answered by Amy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Heck yeah, you should definitely tell her. In fact, you should have told her before you ever got involved. Hiding it does nothing good. Next time, after this girl dumps you, tell that girl you have herpes before you do anything with her. That's the responsible thing to do. Don't hide it, make it known so that they can protect themselves.
2007-03-16 09:30:34 · answer #5 · answered by Dana Mulder 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow you are in a whole heap of trouble.
You should definetly tell her, but it was your responsibility to tell her before you had sex.
Obviously she is going to know that she got it from you.
If she can prove that you knew you had the std before you had unprotected sex with her and you didn't tell her, she can sue you.
You are dishonest and decietfull.
2007-03-16 09:38:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi
Honesty is always the best policy . I hope you 2 can work through this .
Take care
C
2007-03-16 09:29:10 · answer #7 · answered by Constance M 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure. You should have told her before you became sexual, but now you have to tell her. You need to think about her needs
2007-03-16 09:28:37 · answer #8 · answered by ambrosius15 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may and I wouldn't blame her...it was absolutely wrong of you not to tell her in the beginning. I hope she finds a way to take you to court or something.
2007-03-16 09:28:52 · answer #9 · answered by Chanteuse_ar 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow you already effed up ! You shoulda told her before sex
2007-03-16 09:27:00 · answer #10 · answered by Samantha 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋