I like this girl a lot and she knows it, but I can tell she just wants to be friends, which is cool, but I'm not giving up yet, I just need some help because I'm sooooooo nice to her and her friends, And I'm kind of shy which sucks. But I can tell she kind of feels bad for me, because I'm really shy, I do have friends though. I don't want her to feel bad for me because I think I'm too nice to her and her friends. when they need rides I'm always available, When they need something I buy them that thing. I might go to a movie tonight with her and her friends, How can I overcome my shyness??? I hate being shy, Its not helping me at all because I just got done talking on the phone with this girl that I like and she did most of the talking and when she stopped talking there was an awkward silence and then she said she had to go. what should I do about not only tonight and talking to her, but just hanging out with her in general?
thanks
2007-03-16 09:20:11 · 8 answers · asked by BAS 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
be yourself! Try to think of questions you can ask her before you see or talk to her. Try questions about her family and stuff and think of some stories about your family that you can share with her. Also, be nice but don't be a pushover!
2007-03-16 09:24:16 · answer #1 · answered by ambrosius15 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever seen on t.v. the female lion when she is ready to breed? Yeah, the male lion can't get rid of her! She lays down in front of him, and rubs her crotch all in his face.
That is kinda how women are. When they like a guy, there is no mistaking it, they do things that are so obvious and aggressive, THEY don't even know they are doing it.
When a girl likes a guy, she says and does things that are aggressive and very obvious.
These chicks don't really like you in a sexual way, they are using you for free rides, gifts, compliments etc.
Stop catering to them and see how they treat you. Mention how you like this girl you have had your eye on, and ask one of them for advice, if the one girl gets jealous, she likes you, if she doesn't care, she really doesn't like you that much at all.
It sounds like you are a total tool for these chicks. Nope, you won't get anywhere with them, I am positive!
For shyness, that is an easy one. DON'T GIVE A SHYT ABOUT WHAT OTHER PEOPLE THINK. seriously, when you don't care, you can be yourself, and not be nervous. It is like basketball players that act like they don't care when they have to take a tough last second shot. They don't get nervous, or tense up because that doesn't help them anyway, so they don't do it.
2007-03-16 16:30:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
aww thats cute. its great that you have such a great attitude of not giving up. i agree I think you mite have gone over the top with the nice thing, youre making yourself too available. gain a little more self confidence in yourself! this could help you have the confidence to talk to her, ask questions about herself-girls love to talk about themselves (make sure its not something youve already asked) well at the movie you dont really talk cos ur watching the movie but if its awkward afterwards, talk bout the movie! haha hope this helped :) good luck!!!!
2007-03-16 16:28:43 · answer #3 · answered by x_unknownprincess_x 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, first off and get into what shes talking to you about, then you can put in on the conversation. maybe you have the interest as her. if you don't know find out what she like. the movie that you guys are seeing tonight talk about it after. just make conversation about simple things, doesn't have to be big or dramatic.
good luck
2007-03-16 16:29:37 · answer #4 · answered by me & you 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you aren't shy, you are manipulative. quit trying to manipulate people and life will be easier. girls like nice only when it is balanced with strength of character. you are being a door mat. you may not want her when you get her, find you a "shy" girl that understands where you are coming from, you are way out of your league.
2007-03-16 16:42:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Always complement her and try to start a conversation like that. She might like you but is holding back for some reason.
2007-03-16 16:25:21 · answer #6 · answered by Ella F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bro - your being a total doormat. Who likes our would attracted to a doormat? Forget all these girls, they will never respect you. Sorry man.
2007-03-16 16:27:25 · answer #7 · answered by Bizpsx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-03-16 16:23:58 · answer #8 · answered by tuff luv 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋