I just found out im 6 weeks pregnant. I dont want my child exposed to marijuana. Im afraid of getting caught with it in my house and the child being taken away. I asked my boyfriend if he was going to quit smoking once the child was born and he got mad. He says he isnt going to have it in the house at all with the kid. It makes me mad he isnt going to quit completely. I mean.. whats more important, the kid and me, or weed? What should I do?!
2007-03-16 09:15:55 · 22 answers · asked by silverliciousness 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
This was an unplanned pregnancy... we were using protection. He is the father of this kid and i want him involved in every way. I want to marry this man as he is a wonderful guy. The only downfall is his marijuana addiction. Dumping him is hardly an answer as i love him more than life itself, but I know i need to do what is right for this kid. Hope that clears it up a bit
2007-03-16 09:42:05 · update #1
Well i have been in the same place as you before honey and let me tell you , if that baby and you are not important enough for him to give up something as chilish as that then i would tell him to hit the raod. Single moms raise kids on there own all the time, so if i were you i would say its me and this baby or the weed? Which is it. Dont be scared girl. The last thing you need right now is stress with having a baby and all.
2007-03-16 09:24:13 · answer #1 · answered by swee_t_pie27000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seriously, you need to dump him. My brother would not quit weed after his son was born. His girlfriend didn't really try to get him to quit either, but I know he wouldn't have anyway. He was actually smoking in the apartment with the baby in the next room. If your boyfriend isn't willing to give it up for you or the baby, then you don't want him around. He isn't going to be any help anyway, just like my brother. He will spend money on weed, which takes away necessities for the baby. And as much as he says he won't have it in the house, I bet he will. He sounds like a loser who isn't ready to grow up and be a father. You'll be much better off without him, and make sure you get child support.
2007-03-16 09:39:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-17 03:34:42 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, first of all, you should have thought of this BEFORE getting pregnant. But the baby's health comes first and if he can't quit for his child (I'm assuming it's his), then nothing will make him quit. If you love him enough to marry him, maybe you should seek counseling or get child services involved. If he is just a temporary doormat, kick him out. But under no circumstances should you have to put your child through something that you know is wrong. You just have to be really strong and call the cops on your boyfriend if that's the only way to get rid of him.
2007-03-16 09:27:43 · answer #4 · answered by happymommy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
News flash, there is a baby in your belly that you should love more then life itself, he took the spot of your boyfriend for ever. If he doesn't want to quit then you cant make him, he has to really commit to not having it in the house or the car when you and your baby are around. plus just like cig smoke, second hand smoke lingers in clothing its why some people smell so strong when they are out and about so he would def have to have a plan to not be around the baby when he smoked. plus if he gets really high he could stop paying attention when the baby needs him. pot is not bad its just hard to raise kids when your a smoker, the fear is true they do take children away if the parents have drugs around them.
2017-01-13 18:25:26 · answer #5 · answered by natasha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOL I laugh at women like you all the time! Why is it you fall in love with someone then try to change them? You knew and understood the man had a drug problem when you met and fall in love with him, now you want him to stop. I agree he needs to quit for his own health but if he doesnt quit or does it around the baby your baby will inhale it just like cigeratte smoke. It will effect his/her brain and learning. Youre also inhaling this while pregnant which is also bad for both you and the unborn baby. If the man doesnt want to quit, then he loves his pot more then you and his child. Kick him to the curb and find a "REAL MAN" By the way if you inhale this everyday when the babies born he/she might have it in them when they do the drug testing. If you or anyone smokes pot in the house where theres children DHS will remove them from the home with good reason, and until this person leaves or passes regular drug testing the state wont give them back. So now its up to you... whos more important your baby or your pot head?
2007-03-16 09:27:09 · answer #6 · answered by letthepartybeginnow 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Make a change for the beyyer for you and child. I lost my daughter to her boyfriend she is 19 pregnant and her boyfriend has smoke in her presence during her entire pregnancy not just cigarettes but also weed, hes a big time user- i was aware of it he lied and said he quit - well that was not true, yet she still fell for it and left home with him and now they live of what little money he makes in the streets and shes due any day, if you have a mother and family and friends that care please listen to them and most of all listen to your inner spirit and it will lead you the right way. I still pray for my daughter whom i very seldom hear from. If you dont care about yourself, think of the childs well being.
2007-03-16 15:54:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't make him stop, it is all him with that. But you can forbid it in the house or anywhere near you and the child. I hope you're not letting him smoke it in the house being pregnant. You and the baby by all rights should be more important, but to him, only he knows this answer.
2007-03-16 09:21:55 · answer #8 · answered by punkin_eater26 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well then, looks like you will have to move out. If the authorities find out a drug user lives in the house, the child will be removed and put in foster care. Your boyfriend obviously feels that marijuana is more important to him than his own child.
What is more important to you; a new baby - someone who will depend upon you to provide a good and loving home - OR - a deadbeat drug user who doesn't give a darn?
If he won't change, then you must. It is your responsiblility as a mom to protect your child from abuse...
2007-03-16 09:26:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you aren't very far along yet, and he's already said he won't have it in the house at all. He's made that much of a concession, back off for now - he will probably forget all about smoking pot with a new baby in the house.
And if he doesn't, at least he is keeping it away from you and out of your home.
2007-03-16 09:20:49 · answer #10 · answered by Rachel M 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋