Wel me and my fiance are gettin married soon and wer virgins.What positions are best and safe,less painfull for a virgin guy and girl.and what should a guy do whos a virgin with no experience.is it necessery to put a cuttion under her pelvis.how does a person penetrate.is it hard to pass the hymen or does it break with just pushing easy.its not like ram ram ram 3 hours and stil not past is it.is it easy to get past.im really worried and afraid.help...give advice..plz
2007-03-16 09:14:00 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Don't be afraid, you both will be nervous and it will be awkward but you will both have lots of time to practice. Her hymen might already be broken, most girls have their hymen broken when they use tampons. The best position I could think of is missionary with both of you switching to be on top and see how each other feels. You can forget the cushion but I don't know her body type so have it near by. Remember the first time might not be the best time since you both are going to be clumsy and unsure about what to do, but keep at it. Good Luck with the sex. Hope everything goes alright!!
2007-03-16 09:16:14 · answer #1 · answered by Crystal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing to be afraid of. You both love each other. My opinion...missionary position (guy on top) is best for beginners. Go very slow and very passionate. Take lots of time to kiss, fondle and get ready. Be prepared with some lubricant if necessary. Some hymens are very thin and there is just a little pinch (but when caught up in passion it is not noticeable), others are a bit tougher, but with love and patience, it will NOT be a horrible experience. Some hymens are already broken just in the course of life (ever have a fall on the bicycle or fall hard onto your butt?) Enjoy each other and have a wonderful life.
2007-03-16 09:34:40 · answer #2 · answered by butrcupps 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice is to be gentle building up to it, be gentle after, be gentle as you first put it in, and then just worry about yourself.
Seriously, if it hurts her the first time, it hurts her, and there's not going to be getting around it. If she wanted to be marrying a woman, she would be, its legal in some places now. She wanted a man, so act like one. Assuming you're going to be faithful, you'll never have sex with a virgin again, so just concentrate on how it feels for you, and enjoy it.
I'm not convinced that if the whole act consists of you going 'are you okay, are you okay? are you sure? should I slow down? I'm so sorry ...." that its going to make it better for her. Honestly, if you enjoy it and just nail her hard, I think she'll probably enjoy it _more_ because she might be more turned on having sex with a guy who is into it then a timid flower.
My wife was a virgin the first time we had sex. She bled a bit, hurt quite a bit, then she had an orgasm (seriously) started bucking all over the place and then it hurt a lot. Seriously, that has to be better then 10 minutes of 'oh i'm so sorry it hurts let me slow down'.
Stimulate her a ton before hand, go down on her, get her as hot as possible, then just do it.
2007-03-19 09:58:22 · answer #3 · answered by kheserthorpe 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think it is awesome you are both virgins and waiting until your wedding night. For the guy it won't hurt at all. Get some sort of lubricant and introduce it during forplay. Just go slow and easy and remember the 2nd time will be much better. Have some romantic music playing also. It is so natural. Remember also, everyone had their first time at some point or another.
2007-03-16 09:29:50 · answer #4 · answered by Ladybugs77 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Three hours? Yea, and then you'll need somebody to drive you to the Emergency Room,lol. Don't worry. You'll both have fun practicing over and over and over. I'll tell you what. Don't have sex the night of you wedding because both of you will be tired and drunk from all the booze. Wait till the next morning after you've had some rest and all that wedding day pressure is gone.
Good luck.
2007-03-17 04:56:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well since you're the guy it isnt painful, but I can understand you're worried about her, and thats good. But the best I think for her is to lay on her back and you just ease it in, thats the most common way. And if you're getting married you're both older, so just think how 13 year old girls lose their virginity, when theyre alot younger and small. Just take it slow.
2007-03-16 09:20:42 · answer #6 · answered by spiritofjosh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-01 00:54:20 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, you shouldnt fret about this. Nobody says you have to have sex on your wedding night. God knows I was way to drunk to perform anything other than puking. But... When the time is right you move forward and experiment. Have fun exploring each other and seeing what feels good. Thats all you can do. Dont stress about it.
2007-03-16 10:39:18 · answer #8 · answered by Brown Eyed Girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look, don't be afraid, just do it when you feel that its right, do u think that a 13 year old virgin is afraid and do it? He was still a virgin and he did it, Im not comparing you, just try, talk about it and choose some strategies.
2007-03-16 11:06:24 · answer #9 · answered by Magui 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one says you must have sex your wedding night! If the two of you are pressured into having sex you might not enjoy it. Definintely need to be fun!!! Just remember she is as nervous and confused as you are so dont freak out. Take your time and be sure you have lots of foreplay.
2007-03-16 09:19:38 · answer #10 · answered by katie d 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋