I'm a 26 year old woman with a 29 year old boyfriend. We've been dating for a year and seven months. Since they very beginning of our relationship we communicated through email back and forth throughout the day. We see each other on Friday, Saturday, Sunday and Wednesday only and we never talk on the phone. He's a complete introvert and he likes lots of alone time. He gets pretty busy at work, whereas, I'm always bored. Lately, he hasn't been emailing me much throughout the day and when he does his emails are very short and lacking detail. He usually writes three or four vague sentences. This makes me feel really worried and anxious because I don't get to talk to him much throughout the week. These emails are our only conversation during the day.
For some reason, this makes me feel really bad, so I constantly check my email all day and worry. I'm think I'm being clingy and overwhelming, but I love him and like to know how he's doing.
2007-03-16 09:06:16 · 7 answers · asked by delirium cornucopia 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Should I try to write to him less? Should I copy his vague style of writing and try to be distant and independant even though that's not my true personality? Is this typical male behavior?
2007-03-16 09:08:40 · update #1
maybe you should make him contact you instead of worrying about it so much, because you will drive yourself crazy! Just let him go to you. men hate it when women chase them and if you feel bad about the relationship then you should trust your gut. Then hes not worth it find someone else. I am only 21 and i have gone through alot of **** with men and have 2 kids from 2 different dads. So trust your gut and find someone else to be with
2007-03-16 09:13:30 · answer #1 · answered by ashleymcilvainloveshudnall27 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, that is typical male behavior. He loves you, but, as a male, he was rased not to let his feelings hang out all the time, like women do with their emotions. Plus, he's an introvert, so he's even less expressive about his feelings than most men!
So, don't worry - he's giving you 100% of what he's got, as far expressing emotions go. Back off a little bit, don't be so clingy and demanding, don't have unrealistic expectations (he's NEVER going to express his feelings like you do - he's a male, and he's an introvert!) and respect his need for alone time. Otherwise, he'll feel suffocated and he'll want to dump you.
2007-03-16 16:19:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Love shouldn't be this hard, you should have to try anything... Love should be natual and with mutual respect, but if he's not willing to make any improvement in the relationship, its time for you to hit the road.. Even if you try and he's not willing, it wont work because love takes 2 not 1... So move on and find a more decent guy.. good luck
2007-03-16 16:10:17 · answer #3 · answered by Rain L 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just chill. Don't worry so much.
Even you said your bf is introverted, and lacking detailed emails mean nothing. Maybe he's busy or something. Give each other space and breath.
2007-03-16 16:12:21 · answer #4 · answered by J 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Communication for information exchange -- important.
Communication for recreational purposes -- much more important to women than to men.
You need to compromise. But talk with him about it. :)
2007-03-16 19:13:00 · answer #5 · answered by Curt Monash 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell him how you feel
2007-03-16 16:10:09 · answer #6 · answered by laquanna g 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
he doesn't seem worth it
2007-03-16 16:09:36 · answer #7 · answered by MEee 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋