I have been going out with my boyfriend for 8years we have been through bad times where he used to beat me but he was on drugs at the time. He dosent do that now but he can be mentally abusive i feel like he dosent care about anyone but himself. I dont no if i can take it anymore but i do love him and i have a 6 year old girl to him what should i do
2007-03-16 08:56:00 · 7 answers · asked by ayrshiregirl78 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes, you should leave him. If he is mentally abusive to you, what is stopping him from doing the same to your daughter. You all ready know that he has the capability of being physically abusive. My question to you is: Why are you still there? Regardless of how you feel about him, it is your obligation to put the safety and well-being of your daughter first. There is no way that this can be good for her. Even if he is great with her, you don't want her growing up thinking that your current relationship with her father is the way that things are supposed to be, do you? Maybe, if you leave, he will wake up & realize what he's missing out on. Maybe he will change, but you can't make that decision for him. The only thing to do is leave, and make sure that you and your daughter go some place safe, just incase he goes psycho. I don't want to see a story about you on the news because he came after you & you weren't prepared.
2007-03-16 09:08:33 · answer #1 · answered by VistaMoon 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well they say love is blind, but for you to ask this question.. I think deep down inside you can't take his abusive behavior anymore. Well I am suggesting that you should pick up your stuff and just leave the guy. There are plenty of guys out there, why stay and hang onto a bf that mistreat you? You deserve better, just take time and find a nice guy out there... Life is short find something that treat you good, not abuse you mentally or physical.. not worth the relationship..
2007-03-16 16:00:41 · answer #2 · answered by Rain L 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In a way i am going thru the same thing... but i know i have to break the habit. We are not there toys that whatever they feel like doing they should be doing to us. Stand up get emotional help thru friends and family or the community- You need to be clear to the people your asking for strength that you need them, so you will have your head on your shoulders. Good luck you can do this and be strong for you and your girl. God bless, have faith. Love is a killer, but do you want to die soon un happy or be happy and die?. Just some thought for you. Fight and you will be rewarded with more strength and knowledge. Take care.
2007-03-16 16:02:24 · answer #3 · answered by lovelydheng 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that its hard at times and you think that there is really no way out. but dont let that stop you from walking out that door!!!!!!!!!! you need to think about your daughter and yourself more then anything. my friend was in the same place you are in, and i dont say this to hurt you but, her daughter lives everyday without a mother. she was going to leave and she didnt get out in time. he took his daughters mother away from her and he still would do the same thing if he had to. just please get out befor its to late.
2007-03-16 16:05:35 · answer #4 · answered by HOTPINK 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have left a long time ago. You must start a new life for yourself without him and focus on looking after your daughter.
2007-03-16 16:01:30 · answer #5 · answered by Jacqui Waze 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him even though you maylike him still but a man should never beat a woman everyone knows that.
2007-03-16 16:03:28 · answer #6 · answered by jeter 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i know you love him but you have to leave him because what if he goes back on drugs and we don't what him to start hitting you again, and for the sake of the child
2007-03-16 16:02:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋