Okay, I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years now and we have an eighteen-month old daughter. I found some text messages in his phone that was to girls saying that he wants to hook up with them. About a week ago, I got really drunk and I kissed a guy and that's all, but he seems to think it went further. He wanted to break up with me but I brought up the messages and insisted that it was the same thing. He says that what he did isn't cheating but what I did was. I don't know how far he got with those girls and it's really getting on my nerves how he keeps throwing my situation in my face. I know what I did was wrong and I forgave him for what he did, but he keeps bringing it up, like 4-5 times a day. Is this relationship worth saving.??????
2007-03-16 08:47:04 · 16 answers · asked by **~~ShAwTy Is ThE sHiT~~** 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It seems to me that he is throwing the kissing incident you had in your face in order to take the pressure off of him. I think that you need to talk with him to find out exactly what's goin on with the girls that he has text. Maybe you were wrong for kissing someone when you were drunk, but Do Not let him make you feel that you are the only one at fault. I cannot tell you if this is worth saving because only you know what's best for you. I do hope I helped. Take care.
2007-03-16 09:01:22 · answer #1 · answered by cereza713 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to say this but it seems your boyfriend has been looking for a way out of the relationship and now has a reason. He wants you to feel that it is your fault the relationship is going sour, when that was his plan all along. I cannot tell you to save the relationship, that is really up to you. What I suggest is you weigh the situation, analyse what has been happening - like you say you don't know how far he went with those girls - and then make a decision. I must point out though that once he starts behaving in this way, he is bound to cheat on you sooner or later if he hasn't already. Maybe you should analyse your own actions more closely too, remember you have a daughter who looks up to you and needs to be looked after.
2007-03-16 15:55:32 · answer #2 · answered by Jacqui Waze 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think the relationship is worth it because no offense but your guy is a jerk!!! how is what you did cheating!!!????He's the one who was sending girls text messages and I bet you that he wasn't drunk!! If he keeps on bringing up the problem then leave him. There are plenty of other men that will not treat you like that and that won't even care if you have a daughter. I don't think that the guy you're with right now loves you because if he did, he wouldn't be trying to make you feel bad about what you did and he would be able to understand how you feel. Well ~good luck!~
2007-03-16 15:52:45 · answer #3 · answered by ILuvMe06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well obviously youre not happy with him if youre out kissing other guys without him being there or knowing about it! Secondly, he must not be too happy either if he has to text other girls! Sounds like a very unhealthy relationship. Sure they take alot of work...but you should still only want to be with eachother and no one else. You shouldnt even come close to kissing another guy!! You gotta think about it.....Are you happy? Is he happy? Sure, its good to think of whats best for the kid, but sometimes the best thing is for her parents to split up so she isnt in a hostile environment with arguments and such. But ask yourself if its worth saving..... Is there a future for the two of you? Will he change his ways and get better or only worse?? You know him best, you make the desicion thats best for you!! Always remember life goes on!
2007-03-16 15:53:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
For your daughter I think it would be better to have a father but at the same time you could I think that it would be better to find someone else that could be more dedicated to your relationship and that your daughter likes and could learn to love
2007-03-16 15:51:24 · answer #5 · answered by marauder at heart 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's kicking you around because of his own guilt about what he did. You need to tell him to chill out or you're out of there. The more guilty he feels, the more he's going to lash out at you and find any little thing to make himself feel better. Be strong, and just start blowing him off, because it is not about you.
2007-03-16 15:52:02 · answer #6 · answered by TNP Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cheating is cheating. Intent is cheating. THINKING about cheating is cheating. TALKING about cheating is cheating. Kissing, too is cheating, even if that's all you did. Sounds like you guys have some work to do on your relationship.
2007-03-16 15:51:00 · answer #7 · answered by Betsy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to both grow up! He shouldn't let these girls text him like that. If you kissed someone oh, well Just don't make it a habit!
2007-03-16 15:51:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since he is only your boyfriend, and you have a child together, remember there are better things to discuss, tell him that both of you need to put these things behind you and focus on your committment, you child!!!!!!
2007-03-16 15:51:36 · answer #9 · answered by SYLVIA S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No - both of you are looking around outside the relationship - it's over.
2007-03-16 15:50:19 · answer #10 · answered by Brainiac 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋