Now I cant see the baby or even talk to my brother, we never did anything to her, in fact I threw the baby shower.. she said she didnt want us at the weeding, we didnt even know they got married so I said some real bad things to her.. well they were true. I basicly said she wanted him all to her self and that she was putting a strain on our family.. I dont know what to do.. I have always been really close to my brother and this is his first child and I have seen her once .. we live in the same city!! She is not a nice person..
2007-03-16 08:33:22 · 13 answers · asked by michelle b 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Life is way too short for all this drama to be going on. You need to talk to your brother one on one about how blood is thicker than water. He shouldn't be allowing his wife to treat you and the family this way. He needs to stand up and say "This is my sister, this is my blood. She is the baby's aunt and has a right to see her anytime she wants." Because, in the end, the baby is going to be hurt by all this mess. Denying the child knowledge of their entire family is the worst thing that can happen to a child. Many blessings.
2007-03-16 09:28:17 · answer #1 · answered by Michelle T 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She can't stop you from seeing your brother or HIS child. She may be the Mom,but he too is a parent to this child.He needs to stand up to her and let her know that he will not have his family be omitted from the life of the child and if she doesn't lighten up then he will take the child and visit you when possible. Your right she's not a nice person. Hope he will stand up to her. She's not in charge because she's the Mom.
2007-03-16 09:03:51 · answer #2 · answered by happyfingers1@verizon.net 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First I'd apologize for what I said. Then I'd tell her you miss your brother and would like to bring the baby a gift.
Maybe you hurt her feelings somehow and that was why she didn't want you at the wedding? Did she hear you talking about her at the shower or something? I'd ask her why she didn't want you there.
2007-03-16 08:38:26 · answer #3 · answered by SheRa 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't blame just her. Your brother is an adult and he should let you see the baby. Keep working on your brother and he should eventually relent. Every mother loves it when relatives dote over their baby. She shouldn't be such a b**ch! She'll be very sorry some day, using an innocent baby to get her revenge. What a fool!
2007-03-16 08:38:08 · answer #4 · answered by Ricky 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hate to say it, but this is why you shouldn't have said bad things to her.
How did you expect her to react, with hugs and kisses?
Apologize, even grovel -- say you were so disappointed that you couldn't be at the wedding that you went insane. (Doesn't matter that that's not quite accurate -- you want your brother and his baby in your life; getting on a better footing with her may help.)
If she refuses to let you apologize or bring the baby a gift, try talking to your brother.
In the future, keep your harsh words to yourself; they are, at least, ineffective, at most, counter-productive.
And wait it out, if the above don't work.
Yes, it's a shame to miss these early months or years, but after the initial "we need to be exclusively together" wears off, she may be willing to "allow" her husband some time with his family.
(This is what happened with my sister-in-law from hell -- a TOTAL BIATCH; after some time of needing him all to herself, and alienating him from his original family, he now is able to spend some time with us.)
2007-03-16 10:25:30 · answer #5 · answered by tehabwa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That isn't nice I am close to my brother and anything happened to him I would be so mad. That is bad that you didn't know that he even got married.
2007-03-16 08:39:15 · answer #6 · answered by littleangel30 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well - your comments fueled the fire, and now you have to live with consequences of what you said. Talk to your brother to see how you can bridge the gap with his wife.
2007-03-16 08:37:22 · answer #7 · answered by Brainiac 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to talk to your brother about this
2007-03-16 09:16:26 · answer #8 · answered by kitty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it's your BROTHER allowing these things to happen! He didn't even have his family to his wedding??? I'd be yelling at him, not her! She couldn't get away with it if he didn't allow it!!!
2007-03-16 08:38:56 · answer #9 · answered by wish I were 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try talking to your brother maybe you can get him to sneak the baby over to see you.I hate b!tches!!!
2007-03-16 08:37:06 · answer #10 · answered by molliehollie 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋