My girlfirend is very manipulative. We have been 2gether 4 a little over a year. Every time I try to leave her she does something to make me stay. I know you are sayin how is that, if your not happy then move on...I tried that. the 1st time we were gonna break up, she got my name tattoo on her chest, then when I left the state where I was staying, and we were about to break up, she followed me almost across the country. More recently when we were going to break up, she got my name tattoo on her back ,big as hell, and finally right before I said that it was over she went a paid a bill for me that cost $1000.00. Honestly I have said and done some things to her, that may have sent her mixed messages, but I feel like I can't possible dump someone after they have had my name tatted across their body, n a show of undying affection for me. And now the last trick, she is getting evicted, and I have not talk to her for almost a month. I feel sorry for her b/c she has 3 small kids.
2007-03-16 08:23:21 · 10 answers · asked by CeeCee 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Have a big heart for yourself. Close it off to her. She isn't worth is and doesn't deserve it. Learn from this relationship and to recogonize the warning signs of people like that.
2007-03-16 08:27:18 · answer #1 · answered by FaerieWhings 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You are in a no win situation. However, doesn't it strike you as a little odd that she would go get a new tat of your name to make you stay? I mean, it sounds a bit crazy to me. But, I am only going by your story, so I don't have all the details. Feeling bad for someone & staying with them because you feel bad for them are 2 totally different things. Feeling bad for them makes you human. Staying for that reason is just silly. The longer you stay with her, the more difficult this is going to be. By the time you finally leave her, you won't recognize her because of all the tatoos. I mean, when are you going to break up with her, on the honeymoon?
Look, she's in a bad way right now, true. Help her, but as her friend, not her bf. Help her by allowing her to stand on her own 2 feet. You are not doing either of you any favors by hanging around. You both need to move on. Let her go. I know that it won't be easy. It never is. But one of you has to be the adult, and you know it's not going to be her. It is up to you to stand up & do the right thing.
2007-03-16 15:36:39 · answer #2 · answered by jtrevoxen 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There is only one question. Do you love her? If the answer is no then tell her you don't love her and move on. Stop leading the poor woman on. If she moved her and her kids across country for you then you must have said something to encourage that unless she has mental health issues.
Yes, you will burn in h*%% for putting her and her kids out in the street, but you must follow your heart.
You could be a nice guy and find her a place to stay before you run off. That would make me hate you less.
2007-03-16 15:35:16 · answer #3 · answered by tammy_anderson68 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey CeeCee, I have been there man. I know how you feel. I left a girl that got my name and my bands name tattooed on hey body. It wasnt the ezist thing I have ever done. In the long run sometimes you have to hurt someone to find your happiness but it will all pay off in the end. She will find someone new and will be fine.
2007-03-16 15:32:06 · answer #4 · answered by Lostone 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
to sum up what u r telling; u've been with her for more than a year u told things to her (that u love her & stuff like that) & in any credo true love never go down than you should go on but in case u still do love her - & if it wasnt's true (ur feeling toward her) u're a lyier MAN & should make a real excuse & tell her all stuff do not let her down in a rude way without explaining everything the way you felt it & the way she must react on it coz (believe me )some women who's heart is fragile need time to get used to man leaving them
& if all she does for you was tattooing ur name on her body & paying ur bills (no love & stuff) do the same for her tattou her name
2007-03-16 15:40:36 · answer #5 · answered by younes y 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
ANY MOTHER OF OF 3 WHO HAS HER B.F.'S NAME TATOOED ON HER CHEST AND BACK NEEDS A PHYSCOLOGIST, NOT A B.F.-she's a desperato. what she wanted to do was tatoo her name on you and make it read ''owned by--'
she should have saved the money for her rent, obviously she had no business wasting the $ that could feed her kids on foolishness--she knew the rent was coming due--so do not be flattered.
i suppose she did it with her children's support payments?
look, unless you have brain damage, drop her a note-then go.
did you ever hear the song 'drop off the key, Lee,
make a new plan Sam, but get yourself FREE'.
2007-03-16 15:37:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I know it's hard. You're trying. I'm proud of you for wanting to do what's right for other people, but now it's time to take care of yourself. This isn't good for you. Write her a note. That way, you can say everything you want to say, but she can't interrupt you with the things she'll do. Just cut it off. I'm proud of you. Now do what's right for you. I know you can do it.
2007-03-16 15:32:09 · answer #7 · answered by 569™ 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you could do one of two things one feel pity for her and marry her just to div core her years down the line after messing up her kids mind or be honest with her and get it over with and make sure to have closure in the relationship. Good luck and please don't string her along much longer
2007-03-16 15:29:20 · answer #8 · answered by randrnorman 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow seems like this girl really wants u
whats the problem man
treat her good and treat her like a woman suppose to be treated
believe me the next girl wont treat u as nice and will make u work hard for her
trust me
2007-03-16 15:29:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
get the words ur dumped tattoo on ur body
2007-03-16 15:28:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋