Lately my mom's self esteem has been low lately. She thinks she's ugly and fat(which she's not she's beautiful and average, not fat). So when people take a picture of my neice, and she's in the picture, she always crops them out. It's annoying and unfair to my neice.
She believes she looks so horrible she shouldn't be out in public. She complains about how ugly my legs look and how fat I am(I'm only 118ibs and 5'6).
So suggestions?
2007-03-16 08:22:46 · 23 answers · asked by Butterfly 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I'm 22 btw
2007-03-16 08:23:10 · update #1
Take her to the spa
2007-03-16 08:25:25 · answer #1 · answered by Amanda 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
People project low self-esteem as a result of bad relationships and/or not feeling that they are "fulfilled" in some way. Is your dad in the picture? What does your mom do with her time? Are there things that she has always wanted to do, but hasn't? Take her out to dinner and start talking about your dreams to get her to open up about hers. Try to work with her to take small steps to make those things happen. You could work together to make each others dreams happen!
2007-03-16 08:32:02 · answer #2 · answered by Eddie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Misery loves company. Refuse to be a part of her self pity. I have had a lot of problems with my mom. In the long run I just had to distance myself from the situation. If she is criticizing the way you look by calling you fat or saying your legs don't look right she is being emotionally and verbally abusive. This is never a positive situation to be in. She is a grown adult. If you do not have anything nice to say. Do not say anything at all.
2007-03-16 08:28:30 · answer #3 · answered by Lily 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to the gym with her or help her lose weight. If she thinks she is fat then help her do something to lose the weight. If she's not comfortable with the way she looks even if you think that it's not that fat and is beautiful, then you should help her work on achieving the look she wants. By doing so, you will help her rebuild her self esteem.Or you could always write to Dr. Phil.
2007-03-16 08:31:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mom needs a make over from the inside out. Maybe you can start with the outside by giving her a new look, like change hair color, different make up, new dresses or jeans. And help her lose the extra pounds she has by asking her to go jogging with you for an hour everyday. give her advise, complement how she looks...etc.
And you are not fat at all, but I think your mom thinks so because (maybe) her mom gave her the same words before.
2007-03-16 08:29:36 · answer #5 · answered by Living Fantasy 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Is it possible that she wants attention. If you are 22 and your mom is in her '40's or '50's she could be going through a 'midlife crisis' although I am nobody to comment on that, I am just throwing out the possibility.
Women go through hormonal changes at around mid-life, she could be perimenopausal, or menopausal.
Encourage her to invite a girlfriend from highschool or college by. Maybe you can host it.
2007-03-16 08:30:04 · answer #6 · answered by poweranni 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to know that at 118lb and 5'6", you are THIN. Nothing about you could be fat. Your mom has a warped sense of self (unfortunately, you're included in that). Please ignore her comments about you and suggest she get into therapy for herself. My aunt suffered an emotional set back at age 55 (her youngest son died in an auto accident), and she became anorexic. She'd previously had a self image of being fat even though she was average, too.
2007-03-16 08:31:07 · answer #7 · answered by butrcupps 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She may be going through some kind of depression, tell her to seek some help. If she thinks you're fat at 118, at 5'6", that's crazy. Complimenting her would help and telling her how you feel will maybe make her realize she's wrong but ultimately, it may be more serious and she might need therapy!
2007-03-16 08:29:44 · answer #8 · answered by lovin' life... 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could try giving her one of those day long spa treatments, then taking her out to a club for some girl fun. If you see this trend continue you need to consider professional advice/help. There could be some issues going on that you are not aware of. Best of luck!
2007-03-16 08:41:20 · answer #9 · answered by tammy_anderson68 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your mother might be going through a mid life crisis. She needs someone of near her own age group of the opposite sex to tell her she is still an attractive woman.
I think she feels she has lost any glamor she ever had.
2007-03-16 08:29:34 · answer #10 · answered by don n 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep complimenting her on how beautiful she is and remind her her of wot a wonderful person she really is. Might help to remind her, beauty is only skin deep and tell her if she would look deep she will see the beauty inside and out. Good Luk.
2007-03-16 08:33:26 · answer #11 · answered by Froggy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋