"I love you I want to take it slow" To " I dont know what I want right now"
I am tired of it. We have been together 6 years. I think he jsut enjoys knowing that I love him and will always come back to him.
I think I may just start telling him the same things. "I want to take it slow, lets see, just do what you want right now."
Because I have toldh im I love him and would try to make it work but he is not trying, it hurts so bad, he doesnt do things with me or goes out with me.
2007-03-16 08:06:12 · 12 answers · asked by baby_rost 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Leave him you deserve more move on with the rest of your life, his is comfortable which is why you havent left but you owe it to yourself to be fulfilled not half way happy what is that!!! Either he needs to be entirely involved or single there is no i in we or m+e in team
2007-03-16 08:10:51 · answer #1 · answered by Diva 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I admit I've done my girlfreind of one year in a similar way. We broke up, then got back together on a "clean slate", but anytime we have an argument I immediately start up with "I don't know what I want" and "we need to move slow".
Six years is a little different because he must know what he wants if he's still with you. I'd say you ought to put some distance between you two. Enjoy his company when he's around, but help him remember what it's like without you around, too. Guys get bombarded with the player image so much that we need a wakeup call every now and then...
2007-03-16 08:12:33 · answer #2 · answered by TooMuch 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"I don't know what I want right now" ????? What the h*ll? After 6 years.... he should at least have a freakin clue. I went through the same thing.... but it was only 2 years of my life wasted. But thats two years that I'll never get back. It took me a while, but I finally just got fed up with all his game playing. It hurt, but I know that I deserve better than someone who only wants me when its convenient for them. And so do you. He's doesn't necesarrily want to be with you, but he wants to keep his options open.... Just in case he meets someone else and it doesn't work out, he wants to know that you'll still be there to fall back on. Girl, trust me. Drop him like a bad habit. Drop him now ... before he does it to you later. It's been over 8 months and my ex still texts/calls me almost every day..... and the joy I feel when I reject him just can't be beat! Your guy may not have a clue what he wants right now..... but believe me..... he'll realize it real quick once you're gone. Be strong. Good luck.
2007-03-16 08:40:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a firm believer in not joining in with games people play so I would advise not doing the same thing. I would however not be available to him. Get other things going on in your life. Do activities that keep your mind busy so you won't be thinking of him and your relationship. There is so much more to life than that!!! Do great things with your life and don't waste it on wondering if someone is going to love you or want to be with you. Get out there and live...live ....live...volunteer.....meet people....have fun!!!!
2007-03-16 08:14:23 · answer #4 · answered by Barbara J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Back off and give him a little space and thinking room. I think he feels you are trying to smother him and not let him decide.
Quit trying to push the situation and just tell him to let you know what he decides and if it is convenient you will go out with him again.
2007-03-16 08:14:47 · answer #5 · answered by don n 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
personally you may want to give him space and tell him you may not be there when he makes up his mind so at least that way he will know he may lose you. instead of you waiting around for him to make up his mind on your future. Good luck and I know how hard it is when you love someone so much but there not sure what they want. Just stay strong and whatever hap pends will hap pend for a reason
2007-03-16 08:12:16 · answer #6 · answered by randrnorman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's far past the time that you should ditch him and find someone else. Sounds like he is too immature for this relationship, don't let him continue to hurt and send you confusing messages
2007-03-16 08:11:11 · answer #7 · answered by inmate3685 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My first husband did that for 6 months after he left me before I gave up and filed for divorce. For him it was just a way to control and keep me around in case he "needed" something.
2007-03-16 08:09:38 · answer #8 · answered by Betsy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if he's saying this it's because he wants to date around or be with other girls. 6 years is a long time and mybe he just needs a brake. men tend to take things for granted. you should cut him loose now.
2007-03-16 08:13:04 · answer #9 · answered by talofa lava 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give the him the "i dont know what i want right now" statement a few times...let him know how if feels...if that dont work....try to look for a new guy.
2007-03-16 08:10:20 · answer #10 · answered by Tiff 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋