My relationship of almost a year came to an end, with someone that days ago was telling me I already know the response if I ask to marry her, that was a yes. Because for what I think one of the first time, I didn't do what she wanted on a 100%, and I offered an alternative solution. She tried to convince me, I kept saying I can't (it was about going to another city over the weekend, on a weekend I was having to stay home to do some things for the classes I am taking). She said I can study in the hotel, I said I can't. At the end of the weekend, I saw my self single, since I took a break on Sunday to leave my house for some hours and see 2 guy friends I have. I just had to take a break from the books. It doesn't make sense to me, but she got REALLY mad, to the point she said we aren't compatible. I am a nice guy, but when I have to say no, I say no, and 1 time. Do woman really hate this characteristic on men?. She is now trying to date other people, I'm confused. I don't get it.
2007-03-16 08:03:45 · 10 answers · asked by livingthe30s 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Literally I told her, lets do that plan on another weekend, because on this one, school is definitely not giving me time, but we can do something in town. She left town with her friend, and was weird on the phone during the weekend, after she heard I went out for some hours with 2 guy friends I have, when I was supposed to be studying or reserving that time to see her, that day. Things went downhill.
2007-03-16 08:20:58 · update #1
I don't hate that characteristic in men, I respect it, especially since you offered a compromise, which is the most important thing. As for the whole argument, it sounds kind of weird. School should always come first and she doesn't seem to respect that. As for you taking a break and seeing two guy friends, I guess she just got mad that you didn't call her, but she shouldn't have gotten that upset...I'm confused by the situation too and I'm a woman. :) The only thing I can figure is that there must have been some other things going on for her to break up with you, or maybe she felt like you always choose other things/people over her...I'm not sure.
2007-03-16 08:09:58 · answer #1 · answered by bashleyf2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not all women are batty like this. Do yourself a favor and find a girl who is right for you in all ways including that she ISN'T like that.
Just ask any man who is truly happy in his relationship. I can all but guarantee you that the woman he's with is not like the one you just described. Part of being in a healthy relationship is being supportive of the person you're with. If you needed to do studying, she should have understood and supported that. I hardly ever see my boyfriend these days because his final exams are coming up, and if he needs to study, I won't even call him to say hello until I know he has the free time, because I don't want to interrupt his concentration or get in the way of him doing what he needs to do.
2007-03-16 15:09:53 · answer #2 · answered by IQ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have been married for 20 years. Neither of us do what we are told to do 100%. There is give and take and compromises in any relationship. If she got this mad off of that. Its probably a good thing you are single now. It would only get worse when you are married.
2007-03-16 15:09:28 · answer #3 · answered by dakota_gal_1968 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your smart enough to know your better off. speaking as a women I learn to do things myself. And there has to be give and take in a relationship or it won't work. You have already found that out. But you need to remember y;our guy friends should not be more important than your girlfreind.
2007-03-16 15:09:22 · answer #4 · answered by Shelly t 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
better you found out now rather than later. she's whiny and a tantrum thrower if she can't get her way, not to mention that she doesn't seem to be too understanding. granted we all want someone that will do what we like. my preference is a man that doesn't tell me no all of the time when i ask for something and i don't want a man who is passive.
it sounds like she may have been looking for a way out of this relationship anyway, she may be selfish and just not concerned with your needs or feelings.
do your thing...she's doing hers.
2007-03-16 15:25:00 · answer #5 · answered by loving 40+ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Never stay with any female who wants to tell you what to do, you are an adult and not her child. She gets this attitude from her friends and just society in general, but she needs to respect your opinions.
Tell her [if you see her again] you are going to make your own decisions -when it concerns YOU.
She is only trying to date other guys to make you jealous, a 7'th grade ploy. I'm happily wed for 22 yrs. my hubby chose to work temporarily in the Mid East, my input is extremely important to him of course, but this is his carreer move, and I respect him.
2007-03-16 15:19:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure she says no to you every now and then if not all the time. She sounds controlling if anything. She'll be fine just give her a day or two. No, not all women are like that.
2007-03-16 15:08:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me as if she wants your picture to be put in a slang dictionary beside p-whupped. She did you favor when she broke up. If she is like that now, imagine her after the wedding.
School comes first. If she wants you to forgo studying to go out, she would want to to forgo a death in the family to attend a nigh club or something.
2007-03-16 15:12:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
okay...i guess she feels that after all she tried to get you to spend some time with her and work around was going on in your life because it`s improtant to you..you take a breack then spend your break with your feels...!!!come on think she should have been the first person on your mind after school,work and your life..so she just sad i must not be that improtant to him..so i`ll leave..i would have did the same thing now that`s from a women point of.....sweetie
2007-03-16 15:18:08 · answer #9 · answered by amyra j 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it looks like you got a spoiled little brat girl instead of a mature woman.
let her go seeing as she already has
and move on yourself...find someone who is willing to compromise to make the relationship work for the both of you
be cool...
2007-03-16 15:08:31 · answer #10 · answered by CC Babydoll 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋