I want to have sex much more often than she does. I'm so tired of hearing at the end of the day that she's not in the mood or she has a stomach ache or a headache or she has her period or what not. I realize that men and women have different sex drives, but I am unhappy with the situation. How can I get more leverage? I want to have some power in the relationship too. Anyone with a reasonable solution, please respond.
2007-03-16 08:03:30 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Would you really enjoy having sex with her if she wasn't 100% into it ???(plz say no) Maybe there is something missing... Have you tried talking to her about this? I'd say plan a romantic night and remind her on what she is missing out on. Don't make her think sex is all your after, you shouldn't have to beg for it.
And just give up on the power thing. It's a two way street, I know, but your girl should be your princess. Best of luck.
2007-03-16 08:09:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
A women is in her prime sexual drive in her 40's, I don't know if this is too long of a wait for you or not. Men reach their sexual peak in their 20's. Suppose that is why you are seeing more younger men with older women. You do need to talk to your girlfriend, ask her why she seems to always have an excuse, what gives with the headache, bellyache, period etc....Are you getting sex but maybe she feels twice a week is adequate and you'd like to have it 6x a week? Maybe you should suggest a different position? Buy rose pedals, light a candle, dim the lights, get her boozed up a bit on some good wine. Not all women deny their men sex.
2007-03-16 15:17:48 · answer #2 · answered by sunset 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't say how old you were so the answer may vary. Here's my best advice for adults.
If you are both in some sort of power struggle over sex, it's over. Time to move along. You could just give up and never mention sex again and maker her come to you, but that will probably just prolong your pain.
She may not be interested in sex or she may not be interested in sex with you. There are plenty of single women out there who are interested.
2007-03-16 15:12:46 · answer #3 · answered by tammy_anderson68 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find out what she likes and do that. If you do something she REALLY likes, she will look forward to more! Also, if she is willing, try things, new things. I don't mean just positions, maybe dress up or role play. She also can't look at it like a chore!!! You both have to be into it and enjoy it, like a treat!!!
2007-03-16 15:09:33 · answer #4 · answered by AE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to change or find a way to turn her on more often sometimes being inconspicuous is more sexy than someone trying to hump your leg I'd be tired, hurting or on my period too!
That ish is a def turn off
2007-03-16 15:08:19 · answer #5 · answered by Diva 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't force her to have sex with you. Talk to her and explain how you feel then maybe you can reach a compromise.
2007-03-16 15:06:40 · answer #6 · answered by honeyluv_2010 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You wont, women have all the power. hahahha
2007-03-16 15:07:17 · answer #7 · answered by boricua_chick_21 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU CAN TALK TO HER ,BUT IF SHE DONT WANT TO HEAR IT THEN SHOW HER YOU ARE WANTED BY OTHERS WHO WILL DO HER DUTIES WITH NO PROBLEM.
2007-03-16 15:11:57 · answer #8 · answered by ramere91406 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋