Should I join the health club if on the first visit my 19 month daughter freeked out in the day care?

Question

I am a stay at home mom for about 6 months and we spend every minute together-
I kind of thought of joining a health club and getting some workout time in and they have a zero entry pool that my daughter and I can play in-
Today on our visit she cried so hard as soon as she noticed that I left her at the daycare-
I was right around the corner so I waited a few min to see if she would calm down- no such luck-
Has anyone had an experience like this and what did you do-
I know she should be socialized out there soon so I thought that this would be a good idea but Its really hard for me to leave her there knowing she was crying so hard-
I know your advice will be to let her cry and it will get better but thats not me- I can't do that-
Anyone have any thoughts to pass along?
Thank you

Answer 1

Try at a different time, maybe she didn't like the particular caregiver or was just having a day.

The other thing you can try is hang out with her in daycare for a half an hour a couple of times to make sure she is comfortable THEN tell her before hand that you are going to take her to daycare stay for "one book" or whatever and then you are going to the mommy part and will be back soon. Then follow through

Letting her scream for a long time is NOT the answer.

Best of luck!

Answer 2

She's having such a hard time, because she's 19 months old and she's not used to being around anyone but you. Not taking her to the daycare won't help. If you don't give her the opportunity to socialize with others, she'll never learn. You may have to "let her cry" a few times. If you don't, it will just get worse, not better. I know it is hard, but it will be better for her in the long run. Eventually she'll have to start school. Children have to grow up and giving them a little time away from you while you are at the gym will help your daughter do this. Plus, if you have spent every moment together with her for 19 months, then you need a little adult time. In the meantime, I would suggest that you both join sometime of playgroup where she can be with other people, but you are still there with her. Let someone else hold her or read her a story while you are still with her. My daughter and I used to go to a Mommy and me story time at the library. You could also set up a play group with some other Mom's that you know and then maybe leave the room for a few minutes and come back in, so she will get used to it.

Answer 3

I work in childcare and preschool and have for the past five years. I can tell you that every child is different in the way they seperate from a parent. Some adjust very quickly, they act as if they are not bothered by being left! Others it may take a few days up to several weeks!! But all in all I think that it is the parent that has the hardest time seperating! More often than not the child calms down within half an hour, especially if the childcare worker is very maternal and caring. My suggestion to you would be to visit some more. Let your daughter know that you are coming back, give her a hug and kiss, then make a quick exit. I wouldn't wait around to see how she is, this may only upset you and her more. I would not visit with her in the room because this will sort of be telling her to expect you to be there with her, that is not the situation you are trying to create. Go and do what you need to, come back in 15 mins. to half and hour, don't let her see you, and see how she is doing. Continue this pattern for as long as it takes for her to adjust. Little visits will help to ease you both into the transistion. If she seems to be fine at that 15min point, let her stay. If not, you can get her and just keep trying. I do think that getting her around other children is a great benefit. You will notice a tremendous change in her whole attitude and the way she socializes. Good luck and God Bless!

Answer 4

Don't give up!

Try going back but staying with her in the daycare, just a short visit. Then the next time, longer. This will get her used to going there, and to the idea that it's an okay place to be. Once she's used to going there, then leave her - yes, she'll cry, but after a time or two it'll be easier on her. My 14 month old son cries like his little world is ending when I leave him with his wonderful babysitter, but before I'm even out the door the tears are gone, no more screams, and he's fine.

Good luck!

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Answer 6

I worked in daycare for several years and it is always really hard on babies when they have been at home with mom. So my advice is to take it slow, go in and play with her let her get use to the teachers, and start leaving her alone for so many minutes and then increase it over time. This is pretty normal and it will pass as she gets use to it. Don't be too hard on yourself either every mom deserves some alone time, you will be doing your family a favor by recharging your battery. Good Luck.

Answer 7

I know!!! It's one of the hardest things ever to leave your baby with people she doesn't know.
It's probably just as scary for her as it is for you. I agree with other people who advise you to take it slow.

How does she do alone with people she knows? Maybe try to leave her alone with a family member or someone she knows at first and then try introducing a new environment - like the daycare at the gym - to her. Just so that she can get used to the idea that you are not there with all the time and she's still safe.

I hope it works out for you :). Good luck!

Answer 8

well she gotta learn that your in charge and that she can enjoy life when your not around - she may scream and yell but your an importatn person also. talk to her about it and make sure you tell her you will be back then go enjoy yourself. dont go around the corner and wait and see if she calms down. thats allowing her to touture you - crying and throwing a fit wont hurt her. so take care of yourself and leave. teaching her that if she throws a fit will get her what she wants is just creating a brat. your the mom you need to decide what good for her not the other way aorund .

if you want to raise a self cenerted kid who only thinks aboutt how to get what they want and only thinks about itself thats up to you. Maybe when they are 35 you can visit them in jail and they can spit on you and tell you its your fault becaue you weren't there for them and that you didnt treat them right and you can go home and feel guilty becasue you didnt do more.
it takes an adult to raise a responsible child. 19 months should be albe to make it for about 3 hours with no mom. have fun at the gymn.

Answer 9

They have workouts for kids and moms to do together. If you dont want to do that she just needs time to get ued to it. Shell make a little friend in a day or two and will get sued to teh daycare workers very soon.

Answer 10

maybe try staying with her in the daycare for awhile until she gets used to it. its a different place and your not there she's probably really scared. You should do the fun stuff with her after you get her from daycare. do your work out first. good luck