he is going out with my bestfreind
2007-03-16 07:50:41 · 21 answers · asked by hotlosernana 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I had a girlfriend once; we split up, got back together, split up etc.
Within two weeks of the last time I actually saw her (August 1983) she had moved in with another guy.
Its only recently I found out she got married, and this takes a large weight off my mind. Sure I still love (or rather have some love for) her, but this is tempered by reality.
She hurt me badly too!
I've moved on, and have forgiven her for any of the wrongs I thought she did to me.
Time (in this case 24 years) is a great healer.
2007-03-19 12:11:52 · answer #1 · answered by Modern Major General 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
aww i am soooo sorry to hear that! Guys can be harsh and leave us behind while they go find someone new. It sucks I've had that happen MANY times so trust me. Just give it some time and try to think about other guys and flirt with other guys. Join clubs and do sports and soon you may forget about him. And who knows? Maybe from all the clubs, sports, and activities you are going to, you may find that one perfect guy they'll make him look like I pile of garbage!! Good luck!! Just remember, he's a guy so he's automatically a natural retard!! Ha ha! Ask me if you need more help! I'm always here!
~ <3 Morgan <3 ~
2007-03-16 15:00:11 · answer #2 · answered by morgan h 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I know how it feels because I'm living it. You still love him because you are still thinking of all the things he has done for you. In your heart, the goodness he has done far outweighs his negative traits and he deserves another chance. The love still exists probably because you want it to. Subconsciously, you are telling yourself that if you continue to love him, he might notice it and he might take you back. My dear, this sounds painful but if you really and truly love him, you have to let him go. If he is happy with his new squeeze, then you should offer them your blessings. I know your friend betrayed you in the worst way possible but do not stoop to their level. Focus on your life and keep yourself busy. After some time, the love that you have for him will be nothing more than a shadow of yesterday. Have faith.
2007-03-16 14:58:07 · answer #3 · answered by MimiUdang 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Because he probably was a major source of emotional input into your heart and now that he's gone you're having withdrawls. Get around some non-romantic friends that can help build you up emotionally so you'll have the inner resources to let him go and grieve and move onto greener pastures in the love department. Good luck! I know it's tough!
2007-03-16 14:57:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Girl I know how you feel! The guy that I thought I would marry left me, started dating my best friend, and now they have been married for 2 years! It hurts and you will always love him! There is not getting around that! You just need to take the time to heal! You will always have that place in your heart for him, but there is someone better and he is out there! I found that person and now I am the happiest/luckiest lady ever! Good Luck darlin! You can get through this, just be tough!
2007-03-16 14:55:21 · answer #5 · answered by Wesley's Mommy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Love is not like a light switch that you can turn on and off if the other person hurts you. When you realize how special and important you are, you won't hurt anymore. You'll realize that your love for him was a gift and he abused it. And plus, shes not your best friend. A best friend wouldn't do this to you.
2007-03-16 16:52:44 · answer #6 · answered by Moorehowse 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I love the saying "Once you love someone they become a part of you". So true. And honey, that's why it hurts. Love is the slowest form of suicide, I swear. I know it sucks like crud to have your bff go out with your crush...but it will get better. Look for some other guy to take your mind off of him.
2007-03-16 14:55:53 · answer #7 · answered by horsesareforever 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well basically you should be happy for your best friend and think about getting another man because sticking to one person that has already moved can hold you back from your very exciting life.
So go ahead and look for someone else because stickin to one person isn't really cool because its like he is still being followed by his ex girlfriend but you still love him and he really probably doesn't have the same feelings for you if he is with your best friend.
2007-03-16 14:56:35 · answer #8 · answered by astateson111 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Its really not all that good that he's going out with your best freind that means you see him alot not only that but knowing that he's with her reminds you of the time you two wre together and thats why you feel like you still love him. or maybe its just that you dont want him to be with another girl or maybe your jealouse. go out find new guys forget about him and enjoy your youth.
2007-03-16 14:57:24 · answer #9 · answered by ermosa_milagros 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him go! He is probably just doing this to hurt you and if he is or isn't it makes no difference who he goes with. You and he are evidently through and you need to accept it and get on with you life and find somebody else. Wash your face, put on fresh make up, go to the mall and find somebody else.
There are plenty of fish in the sea.
2007-03-16 14:59:01 · answer #10 · answered by don n 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋