Help, My husband & I have 2 wedding invitations... 1 from he quotes "buddy" (groom) and 1 from my friend (bride)... We would to go to both but, can't.....To make a long story short we both decided were going to the bride's wedding, and the reasoning on that was personal,(don't think I always get what I want) but, anyway.... we sent the RSVP back to the groom & today my husand got a text message from groom saying... " thanks, you're a great friend" which hurts both of us, I told my husband to explain but, my husband says "well, it's not he's a real friend we don't even call each other, they haven't really talked in about 5 years... but, it bothers me I don't want the groom to be upset, my husband says to leave it alone but, I don't know????? any comments??? Thanks
2007-03-16 07:46:28 · 24 answers · asked by Amanda 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
He sounds like a real jerk! If you can't go to his wedding, regardless of the reason, he could at least not behave like that! I don't know if I would even send a gift after that text message. If I did, I would enclose a note explaining that you would have liked to attend, but couldn't and you don't appreciate his rude text message. If your husband is okay, leave things be and let him decide about the gift.
2007-03-16 09:30:43 · answer #1 · answered by orangeflameninja 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow...that is seriously RUDE of the groom! The best thing to do would be to leave it alone, BUT, I would text the guy back anyway. I'm wondering if this groom plans on sending snarky, mean comments to everyone on their list who RSVP's no? If that is the case, they are not going to have many friends after the wedding!
2007-03-16 07:58:25 · answer #2 · answered by MelB 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave it alone. If the groom wants to get all pissy than he can continue to act like a child. He invited you two to share his wedding day with him and it turns out that you can't. That's why there are RSVP cards- to find out who's not comming. It would have been worse if you hadn't sent it back and not gone.
2007-03-16 10:26:32 · answer #3 · answered by K S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband is right. If they haven't talked in 5 years then it really doesn't matter. If he doesn't care then you shouldn't worry yourself over it. Their is nothing you can really do. But my opinion on it is if the groom is going to act like that about it before knowing the reason of why you guys aren't even going then I think ya'll definitely made the right decision to not go. It'll be fine. Don't stress over it. Good Luck!
2007-03-16 10:26:49 · answer #4 · answered by Heather 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to forget about it.
They're hardly friends at all, are they?
And if the groom is going to be a big poo-poo head about it, let him.
You had to make a choice, and, I gather, choose the wedding of the person you're closest to.
I'd say it was the groom who is being "some friend."
2007-03-16 08:36:22 · answer #5 · answered by tehabwa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your cutting-edge plan seems suited - each and each pass on your respective weddings for the ceremonies, and so on. and connect up later to congratulate the respective chuffed couples. the two couples ought to comprehend your undertaking -- exceedingly while you're so on the edge of them! If the jobs have been reversed and your uncle grow to be interior a similar place as you, you may in all probability choose him to be waiting to choose on the different couple nicely in some unspecified time interior the destiny interior the nighttime too, suitable?
2016-10-01 00:48:04 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what an ******, the groom....leave it alone, I mean if they haven't really talked in 5 years then its not like he was supposed to be a groomsman, did he really expect everyone they invited to come? and if your husband says don't worry about it then dont it was his friend anyway, and his burden to bear if the guys a butthead...let it go and enjoy your friends wedding!
2007-03-16 07:58:26 · answer #7 · answered by ASH 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they aren't close friends but still he sent an invite and you sent it back stating that you can not make it. I mean yeah the groom seemed strange by his response I'd say no worries about it.
2007-03-16 07:52:28 · answer #8 · answered by WI Wedding Lady 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Just tell you already committed to going to another wedding first. I would honestly not worry about it if they have not spoken in 5 years however. Know what you mean though. I let things like that bother me to.
2007-03-16 08:59:20 · answer #9 · answered by Ladybugs77 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are within your rights to decide to decline any invitation. It was rude of that groom to send that awful sarcastic message.
2007-03-16 17:43:54 · answer #10 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋