My boyfriend and me are perfectly happy, but there's this girl and she has a boyfriend but she's always flirting with mine really obviously. It really annoys me but my boyfriend doesn't seem to notice. I talked to his ex (we are ok friends) and she said she had the same feeling when they were together and it annoyed her so she decided to talk to this girl's boyfriend. He got all defensive and said he knew what was he supposed to do about it. I was going to talk to my boyfriend about it but his ex decided to tell him first. Then he thought I was mad at him because she apparently told him he was flirting with this other girl. I have told him what I really thought. WHAT ON EARTH IS GOING ON?!
2007-03-16 07:35:47 · 17 answers · asked by looziegirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
What happened is that people like to screw up the truth. Here's some good advice: If you have a problem with anything INSIDE your relationship (i.e. you feel like another girl is flirting with your bf, you feel your bf is being insensitive about something, etc.), then talk INSIDE your relationship about it. Basically, talk to your bf first and nobody else because as you well found out, it can cause problems. Make sure you talk to your bf about any problems you have with or about the relationship.
P.S His ex sounds like she may want him back so she's trying to cause trouble. Don't trust the ex with ANY information about the relationship cause she will probably turn it into something it's not.
2007-03-16 07:45:56 · answer #1 · answered by Love Me or Hate Me... 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never trust an ex to be your "ok" friend because they never will be. There are somethings you have to talk to him about before discussing it with someone else. As you found out, the story doesn't always get back to a person in the way that you told it. It all depends on what all she told him too. Be careful, because some females are vindictive and could care less if you and him work out. You have to lookout for yourself ma!
2007-03-16 14:43:46 · answer #2 · answered by $Bl@Ck BuTtAfLy$ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Question... is he flirting back? touchy feely? is he paying more attention to her than you? is he often "gone" for various reasons?
If you suspect cheating, chances are he is and that's why there's so much flirting.
HOWEVER, if it's just her and he doesn't react back then it's just her and who cares. Quit being so jealous. There are more important things in life.
Who is this girl anyway? a friend of yours? a friend of his? If it's yours tell her how you feel and if she doesn't quit then dump her. If it's his then tell him it bothers you, if he doesn't tell her to back off, then you have an issue with HIM, not her.
She is just an X factor, meaning, she is nothing to either of you. She only becomes a "problem" when you refuse to see that you have a problem with your guy. If he doesn't respect you enough to "dump" her then you should dump him.
Now, I'm friends, or I would be, with my exes whom I have absolute no interest in, but because of girls with serious paranoia and low self worth/confidence - I got shafted. NO biggie, they lost a good friend.
I don't care if my guy goes out (along with me) with some friend who's a girl. I'm confident and hold myself in high esteem. I don't date losers. I date men, not boys. Men who respect me as much as I do them. OK now I digressed, sorry.
2007-03-16 14:46:44 · answer #3 · answered by cnith 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mistake was talking to someone in your "circle" before you spoke to your boyfriend about it. You have to be honest with him before you go outside the relationship for answers to a problem.
Since you are already in the predicament, the best way to handle it now is to sit with your boyfriend and talk to him, without any attitude, and tell him that it makes you uncomfortable for another woman to be flirting with him so brazenly. He will probably tell you not to worry about it and to trust him.....so be prepared for that. Guys don't care nearly as much as we do when another woman steps on our turf.
As for the other girl.....when she makes flirtatious moves on him in your presence...call her on it. Tell her she has her own man to seduce and to leave yours alone. if she gets an attitude about it, then call her what she is.....a tramp.
Good Luck...and remember, always talk with the man first...it would mean a lot to him.
2007-03-16 14:44:11 · answer #4 · answered by brookebjpl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Id say keep the boyfriend but start hanging out with different friends. If the issue is her - I'd be friendly but let her know when she crosses the line. Let your boyfriend know that his entertaining her flirting is disrespectful to you and you wont tolerate it.
2007-03-16 14:40:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should have talked to your boyfriend about the issue before you told anyone else. Just talk to him and let him know what really happened.
2007-03-16 14:39:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I read that twice, and am still confused. All in all, you are going to trust you boyfriend or not. Do you trust him? If not, then break up and move on. If you do, then do it! If the girl is trying to slip a roofie into his drink and rape him, then maybe you should worry. But you have to be able to trust that he won't do anything with her.
2007-03-16 14:39:54 · answer #7 · answered by yodadoe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a plot to a soap opera? sounds confusing, You have talked to him and what did he say about the situation. Do you wish that he has no connection with this girl?
2007-03-16 14:40:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's like a children play what you just said.
2007-03-16 14:40:07 · answer #9 · answered by peachy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same prob, but let your heart guide you and you will be OK
2007-03-16 14:39:52 · answer #10 · answered by Hosebeast-ess to be 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋