i dont wanna be stupid and "make a hoe a housewife" but she's my first love and I honestly don't know what to do about it. Should i just drop her or keepgoing with it? I know that she was loose with it in her past but low pro about it, few of her friends know about it. I wanna know everything because i dont want to get caught up in something that will backfire on me. She's very honest in telling me everything bought her past. She really doesn't seem like she was or could be permiscuious but she was. All the guy's she was with were 18 to 25 between the ages ahe was 16 to18 and a half, 11 guy's i just can't get it out of my head. how do i get my conclusion?.......................I don't wanna sterotype but its so hard not to. What your honest opinion, i need all the feedback i can get.
2007-03-16 07:29:41 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ladies help, guys too!
2007-03-16 08:56:38 · update #1
Do you love her? I think you do.
Does she love you? I think yes to that, too.
So often, a girl settles for a guy after he has been with several girls. This time, it's YOU who is settling. so tell yourself the same things girls have had to listen to for centuries-
"Don't worry, he (she) has finished sowing his (her) wild oats and wants to settle down with you".
2007-03-16 19:23:56 · answer #1 · answered by Alan 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Take some time apart. Think about what you are doing. You don't really know a person until after 2 years, trust me. That is when is hood comes off. You don't want to be with a girl who will cheat on you. At the same time, a person can change. Guys have more skeletons in there closets then women do typically, and no one seems to say anything about it. If a guy can be a hoe in his younger years, and change, then so can a women. I would suggest you do NOT ask her any more questions about her past. It was before you, and really none of your business. If you want a virgin, then you need to look else where. As long as you have both been tested for things, deal with the here and now.
2007-03-24 13:42:56 · answer #2 · answered by Venus P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At least she's being honest with you that she was a hoe. Most girls that are hoes lie about their past. C'mon this is a different time than the 1800's most girls are loose these days. Don't drop her I'm sure she has some great experience in the bed. She might have had really low self esteem in the past and needed guys attention by screwing them.
2007-03-24 11:47:47 · answer #3 · answered by RoxanneZG 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im not sure if you are Christian, but even if you are not, this Q & A I found on a website www.pureloveclub.com (a great website by the way)...may have the answer for you.
Q. I'm dating someone with a sinful past who has made an incredible conversion and is really pure now. The problem is that what this person did keeps haunting me. Any suggestions on how to get beyond this?
A. One reason why these thoughts keep coming to mind is because you are probably trying to push them down and out of your mind without dealing with them. Sweeping them under the rug will only allow them to keep coming back to bug you. As I see it, the solution is not to repress these thoughts but to deal with them by accepting them and lifting them up. Whenever you have these troubling thoughts, do two things.
First, offer that pain in your heart for the person's healing, for your date's former partners, and for all those that are living in sin. Do not dwell on the past, but offer those thoughts to Jesus and his Mother when they come to mind. Give thanks that the Lord has brought your date away from that lifestyle, and pray for the souls that are still held by sin. Our sufferings have redemptive value because of Christ's sufferings, so know that Jesus can use your suffering. You need to realize the good that the Lord can do through it.
Secondly, resolve never to lead your date into sin. The Lord will heal you both as he knows best. In the meantime, let the pain become a prayer.
I hope this helps ..GOD BLESS :)
2007-03-24 02:31:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Is what she did in the past what really bothers you or the fact that people stereotype once a hoe always a hoe? It sounds to me like you love your girl so you need to talk to her tell her how you feel and move on.Take it from a woman with a rocky past myself you can't change your past but you can learn from your mistakes and move on in attempt to build a better future. I told my current husband about my past told him I made a bunch of horrible mistakes. He told me that he loves me because of who I am today not because of what I was.Wer'e only human and we make mistakes- do you think your girl shouldn't have a chance at happiness because she ****** up then? If you truly love her you'll love and nurture her rather than judging and putting her down."Make a hoe into a housewife?" If ya'll gone be together you can't say **** like that referring to your girl.
2007-03-24 12:51:05 · answer #5 · answered by ladydream67 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think her past should matter. weve all done f*cked up things in the past. but we get to a point where we found something worth and we make it work. sounds like this gurl loves you and u love her to . if u feel umcomfortable then u need to talk to her and if u just cant get that thought out of ur head then its time for u to move on. it wil be sad just to leave someone for their past but if u love her ull make it work.. good luck!
2007-03-24 09:52:20 · answer #6 · answered by claudia g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a shock but you just have to accept that the past is in the past and try and forget..if you cant then you have to split up because it is not fair if you sat things to her when arguing about her past and if you are constantly thinking about the other men..Most of us have a past we are not proud of....if it bothers you that much then maybe your next girlfriend should be a virgin.
2007-03-24 09:32:05 · answer #7 · answered by fajita 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should meet and date other women as you are dating this one..date, not sleep with
Go out, have fun and get to know many other women and her more also.
Time is on your side and first loves are the hardest bc you're new with everything and everything is new...
talk to those adults close to you about their experiences with their first loves and try your best to keep an open mind and try not to wear your heart on your sleeve...yes this is hard, but try..
2007-03-24 08:55:35 · answer #8 · answered by Gary G 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Its not about yesterday or tomorrow brother. Or what somebody has done and with who. Its about how you actually feel about the person. Don,t let past memories clog your judgement. Or you might lose something that could have ben wonderful.
2007-03-24 13:56:56 · answer #9 · answered by olddad1019 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk, talk, talk. If she is open talking to you about her past then tell her your worries. Ask her if she regrets it. Ask if things have changed. Ask if she could see herself only haveing sex with one guy for the rest of her life. Ask what she sees in her future. Does she want to be a housewife and have kids? Open honest communication is the best thing!
2007-03-21 22:08:49 · answer #10 · answered by Evie 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
dude i was in your EXACT position (except with me it was 10 guys, not to mention the 3somes she had), i know its hard dude, but you are going to have to look beyond that, mistakes are made, but that being said i couldn't do that, so i don't want to be a hypocrite, thinking of her with all those other guys hurts so bad (i know it did for me) but you have to realise that yes that happened, but she wants you now
id recommend you watch a movie called Chasing Amy (its got jay and silent bob in it, very funny, but it also has a situation very similar to the one you are facing) watching it helped me gain perspective over the situation, i just hope that it all works out for you
goodluck mate =)
2007-03-24 12:35:16 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋